Serious question: my sisters boyfriend makes me feel uncomfortable?

[Anonymous]

Every since they started dating which was about two years ago he always made me feel uncomfortable , he tried walking in on me coming out of the shower, another time while i was in my room sleeping i heard him open my door and he was just watching me sleep - i heard him because he’s a loud breather. Everytime i shower and he’s here he is usually in my sisters room and there’s just a crack open and i could see him through the crack, like he can’t close the damn door? One time when we went camping there wasn’t much space to sleep so it was him my sister in the middle and me sleeping on the other side and in the morning i knew he was already somewhat awake and his hand skimmed touching my ass. What I’m trying to get here is that my sisters boyfriend makes me feel uncomfortable and i want to tell my sister but she has psychological problems and she’s emotionally dependent on him, therefore i feel if she gets all this information she will cut herself or something. What should i do should i tell her or just wait? I’ve been waiting for them to break up but she’s just too comfortable. I’m not completely close but i just think she’s wasting her time. And PLEASE NO PERVERTS THIS IS A SERIOUS MATTER. I’m honestly really scarred and uncomfortable. I told my mom already and she did nothing..

Tell her everything

Ignore it

[Bippwatt]

There is literally only one safe thing to do. Tell your sister your concerns and tell him he needs to stop. If he doesn't and tries to touch you again, break his wrist. Or barring that, go to the police. Tell them that he is making unwanted advances against you and that you have asked him to stop and he has not respected your request and is sexually harassing you. That you do not feel safe near him, but aren't able to get away.

[Asker]

I just feel like now he doesn’t have the opportunity to touch me but I’m a deep sleeper so i wonder if he has... like now he just looks and stuff like I’m in the living room and as they were leaving he literally turned around his whole self to close to door facing me while I’m on the couch - and i have shorts so i can see the reason.

[Asker]

So i told her and she confronted her boyfriend and he denied it. She believed it. And now my parents are mad at me

[Matt21]

In my opinion, this relationship can only end in one way and that's heartbreak... My advise would to do tell your sister ASAP rather than wait and allow things to progress even further.

[Matt21]

If you were in your sister's position, would you not want to know?

[Asker]

What if she doesn’t do anything , or what if they fight but don’t get back together?😞

[Asker]

But do get back together *

[Matt21]

Whatever happens after is beyond your control. All you can do is say that you don't like being around him because of the experiences you have had.

[Asker]

How can i comfront the situation?:(

[Asker]

*sad face*

[Matt21]

Honestly there isn't really a good way to go about it. Just start off with how you feel and then give some examples why.

Explain that you care about her and that's why you wanted to say something to her.

[Asker]

Sounds legit 😞

[Matt21]

Let us know how it goes...

[Asker]

I’ll try to find an opportunity

[Asker]

She’s here but i asked her about school and she says she had a project and two finals.. i don’t think i should tell her now because of school /:

[Matt21]

That might actually not be too bad of an idea... I'm doing finals right now too and I wouldn't want to have trouble in paradise while I'm studying.

Perhaps you could tell her at the very beginning of the Christmas break.

[Asker]

Yeah I’m going to try to wait till then

[Asker]

So i told her and she confronted her boyfriend and he denied it. She believed it. And now my parents are mad at me

[Matt21]

You've done all the you can, now at least the truth is out there.

It will either be an warning sign for your sister that might make her pay more attention or be open to seeing the other issues he might have and it might also make that guy smarten up and realize that he can't do that stuff.

In any event, I'm sure your sister and parents will come around because I fell like you did what any logical person that loved their sister would do.

[Jaye234]

There's no easy way to tell her but you can start by telling her he makes you uncomfortable then tell her everything you told us. I suggest telling her at home not in a public place.
Yes, she's going to get upset but she needs to know.

[Asker]

So i told her and she confronted her boyfriend and he denied it. She believed it. And now my parents are mad at me

[Jaye234]

Oh no!! I'm so sorry.
I really hope that she'll believe you. Women tend to never believe things about their man.
I feel like I gave you the wrong advice.

[Anonymous]

Tell her everything.

[cmack1616]

No offence to anyone on here but when it comes to stuff like this no one on here has any idea what there talking about including me. The smart thing to do would be to call a help line and talk to someone that can actually help u. It dosint matter what one, any help line u call would be happy to hear from u and help u through your situation. Hope it all works out ok.

[Asker]

Yes i see where your coming from 😞 just saying it makes me feel uncomfortable and weird and embarrassed 😞 like i didn’t know it was this big of a deal until hearing everyone’s opinions because towards the end i kept it all to my self and when i told my boyfriend he felt bad because he couldn’t do anything because my family doesn’t even like him. And when i told my mom she didn’t do crap about it which made me feel worst 😞 but i felt like “i guess I’m overreacting”

[cmack1616]

U dont need to give any specifics but r u in school?

[Asker]

I graduated hs this year already going to college in the spring

[cmack1616]

U should have access to the counselors even if your semester has not started. There are counselors that sole job is to help students with non academic stresses and problems outside of school. Last year i had a buddy not feeling to happy to say the least and i contacted the counselling services and they helped him out fantasticly. he's now in a new program and happy then ever.

[Caaarl]

I think you should tell her what happened and let her make her own decisions. Mention how these weird things keep happening and you don't know what to think of them.

[Asker]

How can i put it to prevent her from cutting herself /:

[Caaarl]

It's not your fault. She's in a bad place and she's going to cut herself no matter what. What do you think it's better to have a creeper boyfriend who might be some kind of sexual predator. The stuff you saying is pretty weird. I could understand wanting to get a peep which is still wrong but watching you while you sleep is really fucking creepy. Especially because he's dating your sister.

[Asker]

I like to give the benefit of the doubt and the night he was starring was the night my cat died so i assumed he killed my cat and was checking up on me but still has no reason to be looking at me 😞

[Caaarl]

That's not any better...

[Asker]

Yeah and i miss my cat so much 😞

[Asker]

I told my mom and she didn’t do shit!! Shit, he was more welcomed than my own boyfriend and he’s more respectful and actually helpful and smart and just better in every way

[TheLadYouKnew]

Came to my attention that a girl I know had a little sister. And after a gander it's youth you'd goose, true story, and it's apparently the case once again
I know I shouldn't laugh because it's not funny but the scenarios you're describing are hilarious. Peeping through cracks in doorways, heavy breathing whilst gandering, couldn't help it. But seriously, don't tell your sister because if her mind's gone what's the point, talk to a brick instead. You need to get in touch with the boyfriend and basically tell him to fuck off, but mean it. Tell him what you've wrote here, ridicule him, ask him what he's getting from it, make him not want to be around you. I would say this is the best move

[Dinnye001]

I would suggest that first you confront the guy. I'd say tell your sister but if she is unstable...

[Asker]

It can go either way with her

[Dinnye001]

Is it worth risking? Did you tell the guy to fuck off?

[Asker]

I never talk to him he’s all just looking at me and gets uncomfortable , i feel like she somewhat knows up to a certain point because she calls him out that his face gets red when i walk into the room but other than that I don't know it’s uncomfortable because i live with her and she brings him
During the day and sometimes at night

[batwriter1979]

Anon, tell your sister everything. Get all that pain out of your system! Do it soon.

[Asker]

Thank you but how should i comfront the situation to her...

[batwriter1979]

Yes, confront her situation everything!

[moisture]

Depends on how emotionally unstable your sister is. If she is gonna do some self-harming, it is most likely better to confront her boyfriend to talk about it.

[Asker]

But he’s a pervert i feel uncomfortable around him 😞

[moisture]

Or you ask for parental advice if you really don't want to confront that guy. Good luck

[Asker]

So i told her and she confronted her boyfriend and he denied it. She believed it. And now my parents are mad at me

[Depressedloner]

Tell her if he is doing this it is illeagal and after twlling her keep a close eye on your sister and try to get her into another relationship asap

[superbored17]

Talk to him about it. Get mean and serious. Let him know there is a respect line and if he keeps crossing it he may get cut.

[dragau4]

Twll her and be there for her

[Asker]

So i told her and she confronted her boyfriend and he denied it. She believed it. And now my parents are mad at me

[someonewhoisalive]

Talk to him and tell him that it's not alright

[oksurething]

Confront him.