Why do girls keep dodging questions? How do you make a date with a girl if she ignores what you say?

[MusicMayhem]

Ok before you all scream don't bother she's not interested, she is. But I've found soooo many girls generally just don't answer some things you ask them.

Anyway this girl and I have been having fun, flirty chats for the last day or two, she has uni break atm so has plenty of free time. When I sorta pushed the idea a bit, she said she likes me just isn't sure when she wants to/can go out. She texted me first. Is she trying to make out she has shit going on in her life when she doesn't to appear not needy? Hate that I have to ask some things more than once, makes me feel the needy one. There are a few other girls on my radar atm but she's the most interesting (and cutest hehe).

[Anonymous]

It would be nice if you could explain a little better, please. 😊

[MusicMayhem]

Is it that bad? Basically I had to ask this girl out more than once before she actually answered it, and it wasn't really an answer, just I'm not sure. Often I'll be texting a girl and she never answers til I bring it up again later.

[Opinion Owner]

Then it is probably better you lay low a bit. Some girls have dating rules, and expectations. Dating rules, as in I am not interested in dating a guy right now, or my Mr. Right, will come later in life, so I will wait. If she has had proves boyfriends, then she probably doesn't have a dating rule. At also depends how long you have known her. How long have you known her?

[MusicMayhem]

We matched on tinder, she seemed keen as she said just send ur number if we match cause i dont check this much and we've chatted a decent amount since i gave her my number.

[Opinion Owner]

So, she asked for your number, and you gave it to her? It is a one thing for a girl to like you, and it is a another thing, if she asks for your number. Usually, when a girl asks for your number, she is trying to give you a hint, like hey, I won't to be more than friends. Rereading what you said, it seems to me, this girl, may be a player, or she may just be confused about what is going in. I think it is best you pick another girl, because from what you said, she is not serious. You shouldn't really waste much time, on someone who is not serious. She may like you, but she is making no effort. Now, you have to think, if you really like her. Do you like her?

[MusicMayhem]

Well from our interactions I do like her. I dunno if she's a player, she hasn't dropped any sexual hints. Seems she's just enjoying texting with me. Thing is lots of girls do this with me where I'll ask them out and they won't reply, they'll just go off topic. Why do they do that?

[Opinion Owner]

They may only be doing texting you, because they are are bored, lots of girls do that, or, they are not sure what to say. When you text them, do you drop hints, or do you answer with one word letters? One word letters like ok.

[MusicMayhem]

Yeah I drop hints. Seems the girls i speak with use short replies whivh is annoying, hard to make conversation. This one is okay at it. Not sure what to say? Sonething is better than nothing. What do u mean?

[Opinion Owner]

I know what to say. If you have asked her out so many times, and she is giving no answer, then she is not sure of what to say. Sorry, what do want me explain? The part that girls text when they are bored?

[MusicMayhem]

The bit about them not being sure what to say. I'm asking open ended questions so she shoukd have plenty to talk about.

Also I just asked her if she wants to kick a ball around a park and she's like hahaha what? Like she thinks im crazy suggesting that? She texted me good morning, so she likes me. Wtf?

[MusicMayhem]

Thought id try that cause its really casual, no pressure

[Opinion Owner]

She doesn't sound like the athletic type. I don't like does kind of girls, they get on my nerves 😐, but if she texted you good morning, that has to mean something. You should have asked her if she had plans for the day. If she doesn't, try suggesting something else. Like seeing a movie or grabbing a bit together.

[MusicMayhem]

I guess but u don't have to be athletic to just have a casual kick around the park. Its, weird u know that she obviously likes me but my suggestions aren't getting through to her. But ok, I'll try something else. I don't want to resort to trying to make her jealous saying im meeting another girl tomorrow to try get her to do something with me.

[Opinion Owner]

Yea, you shouldn't tell her that tell her that. My be she just had her toe nails done or something. 😆

[Opinion Owner]

If she doesn't want to go out with you, than just move on. That let her hold you back, from being happy.

[Opinion Owner]

She obviously not serious. There has to be other girls you like. Right?

[MusicMayhem]

She saud earlier she had a stomach bug so maybe thats why, but she never mentioned it yesterday.

The girl i organised a date with today myst have changed her mind last minute cause she unmatched me. There is another girl I like but i can never get her by herself to ask out. Girls in clubs just blow me off cause im not that good looking. Or they try get free drinks off me. I wish i could be more selective but im 27 and never even kissed a girl.

[Opinion Owner]

The girl that had a stomach bug, didn't mention it yesterday? No, don't see your not good looking. I was told that if I say I am beautiful, to myself every day, that I will be beautiful. So, you should say you are handsome, to yourself, in the mirror, or anywhere... lol 😊 It works, tho.
Those girl at the club don't know handsome, when they see one.
As for the girl who unmatched you, she is not serious, so fine another gal.
As for being 27, and never kissed a girl, that is alright. There are lots of people, who haven't had their first kiss, including me, so that's alright. Must of my friends, have had their first kiss, and it is just me.
I always avoid kissing guys, but some girls don't avoid that.
Try to find another match. Yea, the girl who didn't mention she had a stomach bug yesterday, seems to be avoiding you, which is not good. 😏😐
She should be true to herself. She is not being fair to you.

[MusicMayhem]

Well thankyou for your kind words. Well sonetimes I see myself in the mirror and think I look good but the thing that bothers me most is people think I am way younger than I am, so maybe girls that I talk with aren't interested as the want to date someone older or the same age. When I've gotten a good connection with someone when they find out im a virgin or haven't had a girlfriend b4 they freak out and I never hear from them. I had social anxiety for years so I couldn't be comfortable around people and get a girlfriend. Its taken me almost 2 years just to feel ok going to clubs and not feeling super anxious. I even did a course recently on attracting women naturally and being myself. It feels so ridiculously hard just to be given half a chance to speak with sone girls

[Opinion Owner]

Well, don't tell them your a virgin. And you have been speaking to a girl (me), so your doing a good job. As for looking young for your age, oh don't worry your not the only one. I look short for my age, if only I could grow a few inches taller. 😞 I think you shouldn't go to the club. Trying to find a girl there, will end up in a disaster. The girl there aren't helping you feel good about yourself.
Don't worry, I am sure the right girl will come. Just chill, and be happy. I know it is hard, but we all have to be patient at some point. A course to talk to a girl? Huh, I didn't even know they had that. Another thing that you can do, is get a girl who is your friend, to practice with you, so you know how to talk to a girl. You do have some girls that are your friends, right? They can help, just ask them.

[MusicMayhem]

Well I don't blurt it out but its implied when they ask me about past relationships. If I'm texting someone when they figure that out they're like 'oh so ru a virgin?' Not the best feeling, I can't change my past.

Haha well thanks, u seem nice but its easy online. Well being short for a girl doesn't matter I don't think, being tall maybe. How old ru btw?

I enjoy going to clubs and dancing cause I sorta missed out doing that stuff in my early adulthood and its good to experience that environment when i've overcome my social anxiety to be able to do that. I'm fine talking to girls in general, practicing with my female friends won't really help cause I know them and we can talk about past things we've done socialising for example. It's talking with someone new when ur trying to hit on them thats tricky cause it feels like there's so much pressure to be an amazing guy to rise above the rest.

[Opinion Owner]

If they ask you if you are a virgin, act flirty, and ask them, does it matter. I know you like going to the club, but it is not helping your situation. There are several ways to get a girl. You just have to think outside the box. You want a girl? Then your gonna get one, don't worry. :)

[MusicMayhem]

thanks I love ur positivity! I just think its a good way to practice cold aporoaching girls, in the day it feels more random and a bit harder atm until i get more practice.

Hmmmm, maybe I can jokingly say im a very loyal guy and have been in my current relationship for 27 years haha. Might steer the conversation elsewhere

[Opinion Owner]

It just might. :)

[MusicMayhem]

Hey just one other thing, if u were in my situation and you had a chick wanting a hookup would u take it or wait for someone that u could get to know a bit. I kinda want option 2 but there are times i think fuck it i should just do it.

[Opinion Owner]

I like option 2, as well :). Yes, there are time we all wish we could just hookup with someone, but in the end you will be hurting yourself, and she may end up leaving you, which would make you upset, and sad. So, yes I think you should get to know the person, first. :)

[MusicMayhem]

Yeah thanks, its mainly just for a first time i wanna remember it and for it to be with someone special

[Opinion Owner]

I agree
Good luck :)