It is a distraction because your putting in more energy and effort in a relationship that may or may not work out. It's very costly right now in your tender stage in life because college can be hard enough. Some can juggle a relationship, a job and school life. So make sure your grades are up to par or else it will effect your chances getting that degree. Plus a lot of guys your age are not serious, is immature and lack the foundations they need to keep up in a relationship. Most young adult relationships are about horny teenagers wanting sex and that's it. Very few are serious nowadays. It can get a bit lonely when you don't have any friends. But stay strong. Right now you may not be ready for a relationship. I would be more concerned about what you desire in the future long term before you think about dating now, before you have too many heartbreaks that it causes problems later on. All you need is 1 serious partner who fits your vision of romance life.
I would say they're time consuming and a bit draining. You will always have to set aside a chunk of your time for that person and then they will want some sort of communication in the day if you're not seeing them. If you want to put all your effort into your work definitely don't start a relationship because trying to balance both with be a nightmare and one or the other will most lightly get neglected.
They can be wonderful but only at the right time, I'd say start dating when you feel ready too 😊
I don't think they are a distraction. There will always be distractions and things you need to do in life especially after uni. In fact, in uni you actually have the least stress compared to being a working adult where you have hectic time schedules and responsibilities. Uni is also where you can meet so many people.
Yeah, I think that they're a huge distraction. College is a really unique time because it's the only time in your life where you pay to do work and the work that you do is 100% applied to bettering yourself. Yet for some reason, it's the thing that we tend to short change. Like if we work a minimum wage job in college and you need to make a trade off between studying the recently assigned chapter or working your 2pm to close at the mall, what do we do? We show up at work. It's not a good decision, yet every generation of students does it over and over.
It's not bad, as long as you are organized. If you handle your time appropiately, specially if the other person is in the same situation, you can make it work.
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Finding a life partner is my single most important goal in my life. Everything I do comes down to my desire to impress women so that hopefully I will find one to settle down in.
I get good grades so I can go to a good college, so I can get a good job, so I can make a lot of money, so I can spend money on things that make me more appealing to women, so it is easier to find a partner.
Like I said, everything in my life comes down to finding someone.
So if one day, I found the perfect partner without even having to finish all of the other goals I've set for myself - I wouldn't consider it a distraction, to say the least.
I didn't date during my studies and it was the best thing I could do. I finished my MSc with great results without any distraction and got an amazing job after. To be honest I wouldn't even have time to date because I went to uni, then went to work, then to athletic gym to train then study a bit and sleep lol. But by looking my friends having their thoughts on things like "why didn't she texted " and so on and not being focused on studying and fucking up their uni results I better avoided dating.
Considering you're studying right now dating would not only be a distraction , but a strain on you too.
Relationships need a lot of time and effort, so it'd be unfair to the guy and yourself if you pursued a relationship at this stage in your life
In high school my boyfriend did distract me from school work but shoot I still put love > work. So I'll accept the distraction. Im not trying to marry school and school can't give me kids. But no lie, i do appreciate my degrees and making money off of school
I think they are a distraction. I have friends and I do fun things when I have time but I don't spend any time or energy trying to get into a relationship because I need almost perfect grades to get into the graduate program and I think focusing on that will be more beneficial for me in the long run
If you don't learn how to date in college you are going to find it more difficult doing it properly after.
The trick is to find a guy who is as busy as you are
My high school boyfriend didn't distract me in school instead he encouraged me with my school work, I guess it depends on the person if they are easily distracted.
I guess yes. It would be a distraction unless, ofc you know how to balance things- which is not the case with me, and many others. Why don't you just concentrate in your career. Once u think, that u can balance both the things. Go ahead! Have a lovely relationship. But only when ur ready. Concentrate in ur career first.
Relationships for me have always been stressful and distracting, but I have always been with the 'wrong' type of women. My misfortune!
Never, if you are lazer focused on your career.
I am in a relationship. It becomes stressful sometimes but I never lost my focus from my first priority that is my career.
Yes, a really big one, you have no idea the loneliness of being alone with your thoughts for months on end.
A little bit, but if you guys know how to manage your time wisely you will be ok
It depends on who you date lol
If you let it then yes.
if u want to know the person go for it
Only if you allow them to be.
YES.
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