I used to like a colleague of mine. I used to look at him frequently. However, he insulted me badly some days back and rejected me with very harsh words, saying that he isn't interested in me. I am very much broken. I never wished to get humiliated as a result of my naive liking for him. I was pure in my feelings. Somehow I daily see his face and feel hurt. I cannot quit my job. What must I do?
If you like your job don't date anyone, or get the hots for anyone at work. If you don't care or can get another easily, then carry on. Just know that when it all blows up, and it will, one or both will likely have to seek work elsewhere.
There's even a term for it: "Don't shit where you eat."
The other thing I see here is some kind of self-importance, like just because you had some kind of feeling makes it somehow a requirement that everyone around you accepts or respects it. It's fine to like someone, whether they respond in kind or not does not change what they are as a person.
You're looking for some kind of if-then logic where there isn't any.
Gee, now you know how the guys feel when they're constantly rejected.
Yep ex and I broke up and we worked at the same place and caused a lot of drama and made it awkward but hey its worth a shot for love. My best friend met his wife at work!
@Brah63926 I did too. She was one of my secretaries and I was already married. After all the shit went down and we came out, when we would argue about stuff, cuz now she could since she was fucking me, it made the other employees uneasy so the company made me fire her. Nice huh? Imagine some company trying to get away with that these days - this was thirty years ago. So yeah, we've been together all that time. And everybody said it would never last.
Still doesn't change it - if you like your job don't date anyone there.
Quit your job there is a millon other Jobs... Ignore him if has feelings at all he will come to u.. if not move on... your a chick you can get a lot of dudes
You always want what you can't have remember that. just like u r feeling now..
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I don't feel like seeing his face. I dont look at him now. Infact I feel more hurt to listen to his voice. So I put earphones on whenever he is around alone near me. I dont wish for him to talk to me again ever (as what I try to convey by putting on earphones).
Tell you what.. I dont know you and I would have need said this in my 20s... You are beautiful who you are change for no one but yourself... I know for a fact there is someone for u... that has been waiting their whole life... dont throw it away on someone that dont..
eh it happens. if you ask out a lot of people youd see some are courteous others are not. he at least showed you his true colors so you won't be pining for him. there's nothing naive about having interest in a person. you dont know him well so you ask him out. hats the point. you found out quickly he's an asshole. now you move on.
this really is best. you know he's not worthy of you and you won't feel anything for him.
I think i remember you posted about this before. I have a crush at work too but i dont talk to him, i would glance but not stare. I see why you felt hurt and humiliated, i see his pov too, he is definitely aware of your interest in him, he didn't feel the same and he was having a bad day when you approach him. Just move on. I've been on both sides of the fence.
I am sorry for you... you clearly didn't deserve that. Just ignore him. He wouldn't be good for you with that attitude of his anyway. Move on and when you're at work, focus on your tasks and talk to other colleagues. Good luck!
screw him he missed out. if any guy rejects you like that then you just go and be you and do you forget him just remember if he is going to act like that then he is not worth you time
Ways to Communicate With a Guy After He Rejected You
There are a few different ways you can communicate with a guy after he has rejected you:
You can either try to talk to him again and see if he has changed his mind, or you can move on and try to forget about him.
If you decide to talk to him again, you should try to be casual and not let him know that you are interested in him. You can start by asking him how he is doing, and then you can ask him about his hobbies or interests. If he seems receptive, you can ask him on a date, but don’t be too pushy.
If the guy has completely rejected you and is not interested in talking to you, it is probably best to move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, and you don’t want to waste your time on someone who is not interested in you.
Keep in mind that rejection is not always a bad thing. It can actually be a good thing, because it allows you to focus on finding someone who is actually interested in you. So, don’t take it too personally if a guy rejects you. Just move on and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
How do You Handle Rejection from a Guy You Like?
There's no easy way to deal with rejection, especially when it comes from someone you're interested in.
But there are some things you can do to make the situation a little bit easier to handle:
First, try to remember that it's not personal. It may feel like it, but chances are, the guy you like just wasn't feeling it. And that's OK. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Second, don't take it too hard. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and think that this one guy is the be-all, end-all. But he's not. There will be other guys who will be interested in you.
Third, try to learn from the experience. What could you have done differently? What did you do that you think might have turned him off? Use this as a learning experience so that you can do better next time.
Fourth, don't dwell on it. It's easy to get caught up in the what-ifs and the could-haves, but that will only make you feel worse. Instead, focus on the present and the future. What can you do now to make yourself happy?
Finally, remember that rejection is a part of life. Everyone experiences it at some point. The important thing is to not let it get you down and to keep moving forward.
Should I Text a Guy Who Rejected Me?
If you've been rejected by a guy, you might be wondering if you should text him.
The answer is: it depends.
If you're trying to decide whether or not to text a guy who rejected you, there are a few things you should keep in mind:
First, consider your motivation for texting him. If you're hoping to get back together with him, then it's probably not worth your time to text him. If you're just trying to get closure or an explanation, then go ahead and shoot him a text.
Second, think about how he rejected you. If he did it in a respectful way, then it's probably okay to text him. However, if he was rude or mean, then you might want to reconsider.
Third, take into account how you feel about him. If you're still interested in him, then it might be worth sending him a text. But if you've moved on, then there's no need to text him.
Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to text a guy who rejected you is up to you. Just be sure to consider your motives and his behavior before making a decision.
This is why it's dumb to even attempt to date coworkers or if you simply like them telling them so. Congrats, now you are going to dread going to work for the next 40 years unless you find another job at some point or he does. In the mean time ignore him and look elsewhere for mates besides your workplace or even your apartment complex (in case he turns out to be psycho you don't want him knowing where you live). Birds are smart, they generally don't shit in their own nest.
being rejected harshly is actually kind of a good thing. cause this way you can get over it better. imagine if he had been all nice about it. you might think you still have chances or so.
walk past him in a lingerie with a lolipop. if he tries to flirt tell him he's broken.
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Fuck some people can be horrible, show him what he's missing out on! Make him feel bad for being horrible to you. If thats not your thing then best you try and ignore him and just focus on your job !
I'm kinda in the same position (somewhat but not really😅) that must suck. but right now your only option is try to move on. It hurts now but you still alive😊
Have dinner and relax. There's nothing you can do about it. Lesson learned, I guess.
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Are you very pretty? If so he might just be down low. Nothing to do with if that's the case. Or maybe you just remind him of his sister. You never know.
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ignore him forever girl. I know it's hard to do but try
"Why do you keep on staring at me? I am not interested in what you are. Stop thinking about me. You come here to work so work. And mind your own business."
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