Okay so she's going to college next year which is great I'm super happy for her and she made a group chat and met a bunch of new people but ever since then she started snapchatting a couple different guys which I don't really understand because she has me. It's been constant for the past couple weeks and I brought it up once a little bit ago and she thinks that I don't trust her but that's not what its about. I feel like she would feel the same way if I was doing that but she doesn't know what jealously feels like because I dont snap any other girls out of respect for her. I know if I brought it up again she would probably say something like "do you not want me to make friends?" or something like that. And again thats not what its about, i think occasional snaps are perfectly fine but when its constant especially when she has a boyfriend I just personally dont think its right. What should I do?
Most Helpful Girl
You are so right! She would react the same way, actually worse, if she was in your position. Shshh, I hate that. Try and tell that it's not about not trusting her, its about you feeling unspecial since she already has you and yet she's talking to other guys. I always find it funny how people in relationships still need opposite sex friends. Like wtf, what is a guy and girl supposed to tall about? The weather? Fucking no. They'll always be someone flirting. I have experience in this, guys never wanna be just friends with girl. Only a handful might be okay to. You gotta be straight with her, if she doesn't understand and pulls the "you don't trust me, you don't want me making friends, their just friends don't worry about it" card on you, that just means she's double minded, which is never good in a relationship. by the way, you don't talk to other girls while having her, do you?3
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Most Helpful Guy
From a relationship coaching lens, here are my thoughts.
I agree with you that there's a difference between meeting new friends and Snapchatting the same couple of guys over and over. BUT, if she doesn't see anything wrong with it then you two might just have different irreconcilable views. What's more, you must deal with the fact that she's going to college and will see a whole, new experience. This will likely create more strain with more Snapchat and more new friends. All to say, this 'problem' is bigger than the current Snapchat deal.1