Does a perfect body really matter to you?

Does having a body that is ideal to you matter to when it comes to guys/girls you date despite their face? Or does it not matter as long as they have an attractive face?

I honestly care more about a guys face than his body. As long as I am extremely attractive to his face, I could care less what his body looks like. To me the portrait of the face is what draws me in.

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  • For me outward appearance is the ultimate thing I'm attracted towards, but "outward appearance" is not strictly physical shape (though that's included).

    It even has to do with some things people call "personality", but a more outward kind of personality, like how they talk, how they smile, how they laugh, their posture (friendly? guarded?), the sound of their voice, their demeanor and mannerisms, etc.

    These are the types of things that create the image I form in my mind that symbolizes the girl, and it's that image I tend to fall in love with and become really attracted towards.

    Deeper aspects of personality which are more hidden without very intimate communication and doing things like facing hardships together is what makes me stay with a girl.

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    • As for the question, I don't believe in a "perfect" body in the first place. I do have some conceptions of what constitutes a "healthy" body that's more suitable for certain physical actions that I find more attractive than those I believe to be "unhealthy" and ill-suited for such actions.

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    • Yes, actually she changed so many things from broadening my taste in music to finding more women (even celebrities) who looked more like her more attractive. In her case, she was a slim girl with very small breasts, long arms and legs and neck (somewhat lanky), a somewhat plain-looking face, and not exactly the roundest butt. I fell so deeply for her in spite of initially not finding her body to be that attractive that it totally broadened my horizons in ways where I suddenly started finding that type of body attractive.

    • That's interesting. Shows that the person themself despite their physical appearance is what you're really attracted to.

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  • The sad truth is, yes of course the shape of one's body matters. Physical attraction comes before you fully become attracted to their personality.

    There are two reasons.

    1. You would not pursue if you were not attracted in the first place. The truth of the matter is that we see people before we hear people. This is why first impressions matter so much, first impressions being how we look.

    2. The second reason is nature. Humans are still animals, granted we are civilized and intelligent, but our instincts guide an important piece, mating. If left to the mind, our species would not make the best choices, perhaps picking an unhealthy mate. Instincts are important when mating as they are what tells us if they will continue our species or not. The whole point of mating is to keep your genes in the gene pool and to have a worthy heir to do so. Physical attraction immediately tells us how healthy a human is, and if they can be a potential mate or not.

    The sad truth is, physical attraction matters. And for me personally, I admit it so too. For me, however, I also look for another quality and that is personality. I'm willing to sacrifice a bit of health for a mate with a mind as that is what I value most. We are not perfect and so a few sacrifices in certain areas have to be made.

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    • Humans aren't like that. We aren't like animals in that way. We have love and don't "mate" to just continue our species. We're not endangered. We have children with someone we love because we love them as want to have children them. I dunno where you get that strange idea from but the human mind is not like that of an animal. We're deeper than that. Animals mate because they have predators and need to keep mating to keep their kind alive. But there are other animals who only have one mate and stay with that mate. They don't look for attraction in the way humans do because most of one kind looks the same. A person appearance doesn't determine whether they are healthy or not. You can be fit but be very unhealthy. It matters on your diet and you're not going to know someone's diet just by looking them.
      You can't be attracted to someone who looks but had a terrible personality. You CAN however become attracted to someone who isn't as attractive but has a great personality.

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    • Well is God good or evil? Is the devil good or evil?

    • Are we talking about an impersonal God, a personal God, etc? Really depends on what sort of God we refer to. If we are talking about God and the Devil like in Christianity, Islam, or Judaism then God would be good and the Devil evil.

      Depends on the idea we're exploring here and where you'd like the discussion to head to.

  • The whole idea of a "perfect" body is so subjective anyway. There are an infinite amount of ways that a girl can be attractive physically, with widely different body shapes/sizes, breast size, height, etc. And the same goes for facial attractiveness too. So when I'm attracted to a girl, it's just an overall kind of thing and there isn't just one kind of "look" that I find attractive. And if I like the girl, I'm naturally gonna like her body.

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    • perfect it whatever your own idea is of perfect. if you would have read my description.

  • the embodiment of perfection lol
    https://images-cdn.9gag.com/photo/aL2K6YW_700b.jpg

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  • the way i see it is that women are lime paintings. if you have a picture why narrow the options down to one color (aspect of a body) why not mix colors (haveing a nice face, body, butt, legs ext) for instance my girlfriend is perfect when it comes to looks, and therefore is a rainbow of colors all in one Beautifully drawn picture, perfect face, hair, legs, nice butt, sexy body, everything matters, cause its the details that win or loose battles.

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    • because not everyone you will find attractive will have both so its either you're looking for love or sex.

  • No a perfect body on a woman is not something that is needed to make me happy, but a good personalty, and other people skills are what drew me to a certain person to start with.. and if some guy says.. hey you are not perfect.. it just may be time to walk away and cut all ties from a person like that.. you may never be good enough for him or them.. take care now and have a great day and the rest of the week

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  • Not sure what you mean about perfect... Perfect to everyone is different which is why you can't please everyone... Which is also why You can't get that guy you want because he simply prefers a different kinda body

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    • I mean the individuals idea of perfect so whatever your idea of perfect is that's what I'm asking.

    • Perfect doesn't matter BUT a few key things about her body does matter

      Also sometimes she can be too awesome that itms doesn't matter too much BUT there is a line that no matter how cool, it just won't work

  • all bodies are appealing once I get to know and like the person inside. sure, some bodies are more attractive to me initially than others, but the range of what I find appealing is far wider than the prevailing definition of a perfect body. what I am unattracted to is somebody who is overly concerned with what their body looks like whether that manifests itself in the form of preoccupied narcissism or an overly protective low self esteem. I like people who are warm, welcoming, and cuddly which encompasses a nicely varied range from thin to large. also, the more I get to know and like a person, the more I'm attracted to what might be normally considered their physical imperfections. these become often, their cutest assets. this applies to men and women both. although I am primarily attracted to women, some guys turn my head as well. in either case it's a person's energy and personality that really draws me in.. their face, their facial features and expressions, their voice, the way they carry themselves, the things they say and do, their charisma, and their warmth towards me and others... all these factors are much more eye catching to me than their physical fitness.

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  • No. I care more about face and personality. I am attracted to girls over weight as long as they have nice boobs. I am attracted to skinny chics as long as they have a nice round butt. I value curves. my ex is actually obese but with nice curves. Sex was better with her than a bony skinny chic.

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  • What is perfect? People have different views on perfect, what is perfect for you may not be perfect for me. That's why I don't care much, no need to be perfect.
    However I'd like someone who cared about her body enough to keep it good, if I do it with my body I think I'm not asking much (since I'm asking something I do myself).

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  • Using an objective scale, no woman I've been attracted to has had a "perfect" body. I found her body attractive and I found her attractive hence my attraction but objectively she was not "perfect." Typically the men who pursue quote unquote "perfect women" are dating for status not to try to form a connection. If you let your feelings guide the way rarely are they going to direct you towards somebody who is perfect looking.

    Men are more visual by nature. But the idea that men only care about looks is false. If men want a trophy wife looks will be valued above most other things- if they want a relationship, looks are one of many factors.

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    • Well everyone has their own idea of perfect. Perfect itself doesn't exist because we all have out own idea of perfect. Whatever you find attractive is your idea of perfect so they were perfect for you.
      About men being visual is bogus. Everyone is different and some men aren't visual and some women are. It varies to the individual. Our nature is human beings and if one is visual and the other isn't then we're not compatible.

  • it doesn't have to be perfect that would be setting your expectations to high. I rather the girl have a pretty face because that's what your going to be looking at more often but she can't be fat I can't fuck with fat chicks. if she also has a nice body that's a defiantly a plus I girl with a cute face and a banging body would be great.

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  • The real question here, is why is she holding her arm with the measure tape so far away from her body? That part doesn't matter, She's supposed to be looking at it by her waiste... Which she obviously isn't doing because she's so arched back that her own bewbies are in the way to see it makes no sense

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    • I don't know lol I didn't upload a picture for this do I don't know how a picture always appears

  • a perfect body is more of a myth ! if you are things people ask why are you thin, if you are fat, people say you need to lose some that. so that means a perfect body is only having abs is perfect? and that is something required by professionals are those who are fond ! so I conclude not a perfect body but good fitness does matter.

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  • I think in the most cases, the body really matters to all guys, but for me it doesn't really, actually it makes the difference, but a beauty and nice face it's what you see in the morning, in the finish, the body matters as an optional (but if u have a good one, is more than just a single "thing" to get, you know..)

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  • For the face to be attractive, the guy's probably gonna need to be trimmer anyway, though. So you're killing two birds with one stone.

    In my case a body I'm attracted to can make up for a sub-par face and vice versa.

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  • Decent guys don't demand a perfect body.
    The guys who do demand a perfect body aren't worth your time.

    However, it is important to a guy that the girl take care of herself.
    You can only do so much to increase your bust and hips.
    However, a young woman should NOT have a waist over 30 inches/75cm.
    If you are overweight, for the sake of your health, you should slowly but surely trim back to a healthy weight.
    Hope things work out for you.

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    • That's true and vice versa but also not all guys like a huge bust or really wide hips either.

    • You bring up a good point.
      (You can have too much of a good thing.)
      While generally "hourglass" is generally preferred, there is a large range in men's tastes.
      I suspect men's tastes vary much more than women believe.

      My point was that the waist is the area women have the most control over.
      It's also the area where men would most likely agree that smaller is better.
      (Though there is probably some disagreement there, too.)

    • Well I know a good amount of men like curvy women and another amount like skinnier women with not much curves. But for having control over your waist it depends on her body type. Some women don't get fat in their midsection as much as others would so it depends. Yeah I see most men would prefer a smaller waist but not always a tight small waist. Just cuz a lot of men told me they like a waist with a little chub on it xD

  • I don't look for partner but as far as my concern for myself I want to achieve the "perfect" body which means the best body that I can develop.

    I agree with you that beauty is mainly an attractive face feature but you cannot sculpt and outwork ya bad face, you can sculpt and outwork a bad body.

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    • As do I! Yes that is true. I agree 100%

  • I prefer both. Ugly face but body of goddess = I'd get tired of doggy style or the lights always off every time rather quickly (possibly after just 1 fuck). Face of a goddess but body of either a whale or a death camp escapee = can't do shit with that since sexual position or lights off won't help much.

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  • an actually healthy body matters to me. if you can take care of yourself, that's attractive.
    You are not healthy at every weight.

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  • priorities. it's all personal. i don't really care much about persons body. a normal face with a good and warm attitude would be nice and enough tho

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  • I actually like the petite look much better on females. Its flattering and compliments almost anything a female chooses to wear. I feel like having a big butt and big boobs are a distraction to men. But hey thats just me. I have a nice shape, and do not feel that my shape is distracting. However, just because a female is on the heavier side I feel that she shouldn't feel insecure about her body nor looks.

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  • I never pay so much attention to one's physique when dating. More on the face but even then Im more into his personality it seems because there's always someone that comes up and say "why him? You deserve someone hotter" and I'd just laugh it off 😂

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  • I have no problem dating someone with an 'imperfect body'. Beauty is subjective, we all like different things and our tastes definitely change over time.

    I'm also attracted to many different things. So I tend to like different body types. I too though am a lover of faces :)

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    • Yes face is everything.

  • personality>face>body
    As long as they aren't overweight or repulsive, them having a personality that is compatible with my own, as well as the obvious good chemistry, is far more important than whether or not they have a six-pack or look like a male model.

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    • I agree! That order exactly. A bad personality is definitely a turn off and doesn't make you attractive even if you are physically attractive. I've never been able to find myself attracted to a guy after I see how ugly his personality is.

  • I would say that I care much more about my own body; if I don't look good in my clothes/stay in shape, I feel awful.

    As for the guy, in terms of appearance, the face would mean more to me, he doesn't have to have a six-pack, I don't expect one. As long as he takes general care of himself, I'm fine.

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  • I think its more important to have an initial attraction to their face and then if they've got a good body thats just a bonus. I tend to date men who have good bodies because I also work out so most of my previous relationships have been formed at the gym or likewise but I'd be open to dating heavier guys and have done in the past.

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    • That's 👍 It's also good to have a guy that would workout with you.

  • I have to be attracted to their body.
    But my idea of perfect isn't someone else's idea of perfect.

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    • That's the point. It's about your own idea of perfect but you definitely pick body over face?

    • I don't know haha I mean face is probably more important because you can always change your body through exercise.
      But I mean, gotta like both. Hahah

    • Yes lol also the face is what you're going to be looking at the most and waking up to after all xD

  • I care more about his face than his body yes, but I don't care for his body as long as he loves me (I'm not perfect as well and most of the guys I've dated had belly fat). He shouldn't be obese though because that significes for me as an unhealthy, lazy person.

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  • It doesn't have to be ideal, neither body nor face, but I wouldn't say I don't care at all if they're too thin or too chubby. It does matter to me and I link it to being healthy and what kind of genes would my children receive in case we stay together.

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  • I like guys that have a good physique. He doesn't have to have a six pack to have a good physique. He has to be healthy. I don't care much about the face though it does matter to a small extent. Also, personality matters THE MOST. I won't date a guy who's rude, stubborn, forceful or impractical most of the time even if he has supermodel looks. Also, to me, a too muscular body is a no-no. That's just me though.

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  • No. I prefer obese tall guys. I'm 5'9 and curvy (not fat) so I love guys that can make me feel small but it's kinda hard to find.

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  • Nobody is perfect. Yes, you may have models who look to be perfect, but often times they're not. They have to do extreme training and are taking in very few calories. And plus, a lot of "perfect" people don't have very good personalities.

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  • Yeah it matters to an extent. I won't date a guy who is a bean pole. I'm just not attracted to it at all.
    Also, if he's built up top but has chicken legs or just has legs that splay out at exteme angles -pretty unattractive.
    I've actually known a guy who had stretch marks on his arms. It's not a deal breaker cuz I still wanted to get with him lol

    I always find it super unattractive if the guy has a smaller torso than me or if his arms are shorter than mine ( I'm 5'7)

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  • I'm the opposite. I can look past an ugly face if their body is the type I'm usually attracted to. I really don't focus on facial features all that much -- I mean, if he's got a pretty face then great, but an ugly body would probably be a dealbreaker whereas an ugly face is not.

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  • Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I find one body shape a turn off but yet fell for a guy who had that shape :/ . The rest of the bodies all mean the same thing to me. A body that is slowly decaying.

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  • I prefer that they are comfortable in their own skin. It really matters less if they are fine with how they look because then their confidence shines and makes them attractive. On a personal level, I think someone's face plays a big part and as long as they're not on deaths-door skinny or obese then what's the difference. I do like a bit of height and chunk (not necessarily muscle) but that's my personal preference.

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  • Body matters to me, face matters too. I don't want to be with anorexic or obese person. I don't wanna be shallow but a person should try to be healthy as much as they can.

    I saw one very handsome guy in local shop and despite him being chubby, I'd date him immediatly. I think that face matters a bit more than body.

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  • No a perfect body doesn't matter to me, but for me I am involved in both gymnastics and swim team and need to be concerned about my body size. However out side of that I think that people of all shapes can be attractive.

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  • No, the only requirement i have is that he feels comfortable in his skin. And why? Because society and media has made us hating our bodies even if we're perfectly fine. Hating that bit of fat that has no impact on our health. Hating that skin because of the cellulitis but still being able to do lunges and squats. But you know that doesn't count, you still have cellulitis.

    I've once read: If your biggest fear is to gain 5-10kg then you have a fucking good life.

    I wish that people would start embracing their bodies and working hard to improve, not to lose that fat or make those abs shine through, but to be able to lift 5 more kg or do a faster sprint.

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  • Even though I'm a physique competitor and coach, I am very open minded abou body types. I don't like being judged on mine, so why would I judge someone else's?
    It's someone's vibe more than actual features which I find attractive.

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