super religious male vs. non religious female The religious guy wants a relationship and the non religious guys don't. Should I give him a chance? He's not that attractive but treats me nice.
Most Helpful Guy
From a relationship coaching lens, let me advice you emphatically that you don't want to date someone that you don't find attractive, no matter how nice they are. You can't invent chemistry and whatever rocks your boat with regards to physical, intellectual, and emotional intimacy, your partner MUST have. We can try to look past someone shortcoming's because they are nice or intelligent or even good looking, but if they don't have the whole package that we need, it will end eventually. I can assure you.
I've had clients date men that they thought were hot and that's why they dated them but the ultimate lack of intellectual chemistry killed the relationship.
I've had clients date men that were intellectually awesome but lacked the emotional availability to sustain a long relationship.
You want, and NEED, the entire relationship PIE (physical, intellectual, and emotional) not just one or two slices of it.2
Most Helpful Girl
Look. As a Christian who doesn't believe in religion, you need to understand what his values are and why he is interested in dating you. At this point from reading one of your comments, I will tell you that if you can't respect his beliefs it will NEVER work out. Because if you stick with him because he's nice then your using his kindness, and it will be abusive. You're not attracted to who he is as a person and what makes him up as a person. There is a difference between being nice and being kind. Your being secular have 0 to do with how you chose to treat a person who thinks differently than you. Again, it's not going to work if you can't respect him. Because when you disrespect what he believe's, your disrespecting everybody who believes what he does as a whole. We each handle how we believe differently. If you can't tolerate that, forget it. And I say this for anybody regardless to if they are religious, non-religious, believers in Christ, or not.0