How do some people get into relationships so quick?

I've noticed plenty of people I know get into a relationship pretty fast. Even the ones that have just gone through a break up and I'm one that has always struggled when it comes to dating. I'm not judging anyone but this is something that I've always wondered.


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  • It has become a standard now-a-days, people get into relationships at a very early age, teenage pregnancy is high and so on. Different people do it for different reasons, here's what I've noticed so far that seem to be the reoccurring ones.

    -They can't cope well alone, they need to be with someone else in order to validate themselves that they are still desirable.

    - Falling in love gives them the high feeling, the butterfly feeling that you get at the honeymoon phase of every relationship. Once that is over, the same feeling arises again and onto the next adventure.

    - Society & Group of friends, if you are with a number of friends who seems to be dating on and off, the chances of you doing that behaviour is highly likely too, being single for too long is considered as a "loser" to them.

    All in all, these kind of things all lead to the path of destruction, you are hurting yourself emotionally and spiritually by being with this many partners. My Ex-Girlfriend left me after 2 years and has swapped 3 boyfriends (1 year each) during that time period, there would be a time where she would come to ask "what am I doing, was all that really worth it?" or she would continue the same thing over and over again and expect different results, which of course is the definition of insanity.

    Have some time alone after a breakup, no need to rush in relationships, make sure that you've learned something from your previous relationship, always have the high moral ground in these situations.

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  • The simplest answer is this. All a person has to do is go up to you, tell you all the good stuff they figure you want to hear, and simply ask you to be their girlfriend/boyfriend. If you say yes, then you a relationship. As to the background and why they do, that depends on the situation and who is getting into a relationship. Usually 9/10x it's due to lust. But 1/10x is because each of them already KNEW that they wanted a relationship with them from the start and saw a future with them that they were readily willing to commit their lives to.

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  • well like the saying goes " best way to get over some old is to get under someone new". From my experience, people try and not get too emotionally attached to quickly, as people break up so quickly now in day's over the littlest of things. It not hard to get with someone new, the hard part is making it last and that the problem I see.

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  • www.court-records.net/.../miles-point(c).gif

    Are you asking "how" or "why"?

    Anyway, people will settle for security because it gives them a sort of validation that they are desirable and wanted. That being said, it would be easier to be in a relationship if you lower your standards.

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  • I've never understood that. It takes me a long time. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship unless there was at least 3 months of dating beforehand. I feel as though most of my friends and acquaintances that get into quick relationships usually end up breaking up within 2 to 8 months. This is also just personal experience though and I don't know actual statistics on a large scale.

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  • That's a good question, I've wondered the same thing. I've only been in one relationship and that is the only girl who has ever been interested in me. I don't get why some people seem to be so lucky that they can find so many people that want to date them.

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    • I'm in the same situation. I've only been with one person but it seems like everyone around me always has someone interested them.

    • I know, I don't get it. I'll walk around my college campus and see couples everywhere I go. And there's always those guys that always have a ton of girls talking to them too. I'd think odds are there would maybe be one girl that'd be interested in me, but I've not had very good luck so far. Hopefully this means we're both gonna find great partners because of this damn extra long wait we have :)

  • They settle because they don't want to be alone. Then they cry and moan because they settled for trash of a man or woman.

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  • I think it's because they are unhappy and think/feel like a relationship will bring them "true happiness".

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  • because they want a relationship more then they want the one (mr. right. or miss perfect)

    being in a relationship is kinda necessary there days..

    humans are weird.. i am going back to my planet..

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  • Some people have a natural talent for people and some don't. Others seem to just have dumb luck which some of them take for granted.

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  • because they dont know how to feel safe and good with their own company.

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  • Insecurities + an unwillingness to be alone pretty much

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  • i want to know too, i find that strange as im more of a picky person. i want to be with someone with similar goals n understanding

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  • I don't know

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  • Scared of being alone. The thought of loneliness frightens them.

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  • Dear lady, that just means you have refined tastes when it comes to getting a gentleman.

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  • I don't know either, people flip between people like cards, meanwhile I can't even get one haha

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    • Ugh I know exactly how you feel. The struggle.

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    • No I live on the west coast

    • I don't know what to say haha girls are usually more promiscuous on the west coast compared to east coast I've heard but its still not much better, as in relationships don't last long

  • Insecurity. I enjoy my time alone.

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  • Well hard to say as me too am still looking for a lady. Mayb they just look for sex thats all.

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  • Sounds like they ain't gonna enter these relationships that deeply, right?

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  • I know the feeling.

    I think some people are just afraid of being single. Part of their identity is being in a relationship.

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What Girls Said 7

  • Easy come, easy go. I think the majority of the time they had someone on standby. Maybe it's just easier for some people to jump straight back in (freshly from a break up) making the transition easier to deal with. Other times it's rebounds.

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    • Oh God, I guess you girl just opened my eyes! o. o I guess THATS fuckin why that one girl always kept on trying to keep me interested, like she did always glance at me, maybe hoping for me to at least wonder and thus have kind of an interest in her... right or wrong?

    • @scooogy I'm not sure. That wasn't really enough to go by

    • @mooky06 may I message you about it to elaborate this?

  • I have no idea either. It takes me a bit, I want to know the person first
    And others they're just jumping to the chance of something more like a week after knowing each other lol.
    it's usually the case of someone afraid of being single, someone wanting a rebound, someone very attracted to the other and viceversa etc.

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  • They just settle. Mostly rebounds I'm sure.

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  • I'm the same, I've had very few relationships.

    Even when my partners n I broke up had breaks if not be ready to move on start hooking up etc but I know he did.

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  • Immaturity usually

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  • A lot of those people get out of it just as quick

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  • thye don't care their emotions

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