Okay first of all when a guy starts calling you his wife it's a very beginning you have to really watch that it's too fast too soon I can go deeper but I won't but just pay attention to that okay the reason why people fall in love so fast is because we all have an energy within it our energy is our teacher or guide it's like a big magnet and when compatible with another magnet he wants to hook on it's almost as if that energy falls in love with their energy it's the most beautiful feeling in the world. But you have to pay attention watch the way the guy treat other people I don't care who it is just listen to his words because what he says to other people especially if he's upset or angry or blah blah blah that's exactly the way you can treat you except for ten times worse if the time ever comes so please pay attention to that people tell you who they really are in your actions towards other people I can tell you right now you have a very beautiful energy and I could see how you you can get caught up in this
My ex had this same issue; she was a serial monogamist and would jump from committed relationship to relationship and be completely devoted to her partner for as long as the love was easy. There are a number of reasons this could be the case; a lack of parental intervention to teach emotional competency, personality disorders, abandonment issues, lots of issues. In my ex’s case she had Borderline Personality Disorder that was originally misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder and severe depression and anxiety. People like the guy in question are generally harmless; but there is reasonable suspicion and a certain amount of fear that has to be applied to them. My ex went so crazy that she assaulted me once she stopped feeling like the love wasn’t easy; punched me in the balls, kneed me in groin, and tried to get her family to threaten me.
Her family was the best, I miss them all the time, but she was a nut job and should be in in patient hospitalization to get stabilized. To put this in perspective, I’m almost 3 years out from being with her and I still fear running into her again because I know she’ll fall back in love with me and I don’t know if I’m strong enough to turn her down because I know she’s in constant emotional pain because of this disorder. Not to mention I’m 2500 miles away.
that sounds like a mentally unstable person.
my friend is like this. she was barely single for a week before getting another boyfriend and i've known her for over 15 years. boyfriend after boyfriend after boyfriend. moving in with a guy not even a year into dating... me and her brother both honestly think she has bipolar disorder. she is also severely depressed. like manic. mood up and down... not a great person to be around either. she has everything she wants and yet she's still like "i'm a loser, woe is me, pay attention to me". i have a feeling her marriage won't last long. actually, for the sake of it, i hope it doesn't.
all i'm saying is, watch out for people like this... they will eventually deplete all of your energy.
i'd also like to mention, people like this are completely dependent. they also depend on you for how they feel. my friend can't spend a day alone without bothering someone to hang out with her. god forbid she has some alone time. she doesn't like being alone but one day she will...
I honestly don't know why. I'm like this myself and I try to fight it back because I know it's foolish but I always catch feelings and fall in love wayyyy to quickly.
It happened with my boyfriend. It took us a bouth to figure out but we were in love and it all happened really quick but I don't regret it with him as he loves me just as much back and we are crazy for each other.
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u This is a very sick guy! You need to get away from him. He is not in love with you. He simply wants to have you play a role in some fantasy that he has in his head. When things stop following the script for his fantasy, he will move on from you. . . and hopefully you will not the mother of his next child.
---------Could be many reasons. He hasn't been in love that much... his emotional circuitry is messed up... could be an anxious attachment style etc
Attachment theory is absolute bullshit. I’m not saying he doesn’t have his wires crossed somewhere but attachment theory isn’t the root.
@Nazgol You can always find out here. www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/
@Nazgol I am the same. Anxious attachment is a type of insecure attachment style rooted in a fear of abandonment and an insecurity of being underappreciated. People with an anxious attachment style, also called preoccupied attachment disorder, often feel nervous about being separated from their partner.
Desperate , he is looking for someone to take care of him and doesn’t value his own self worth , word of advice run , The fact that he had 2 failed engagements just shows that he isn’t capable of Making a relationship work , he is probably a selfish person and only really cares about himself , Cause I guarantee he is blaming his exes for why the relationships failed and trying to play victim , please don’t think you can save him , cuz the truth is you can’t , I guarantee this guy is Narcissistic , wants he gets you to where he wants you , you will see his true colors , don’t fall for it , There is no possible way someone can love someone after a week of dating , you can be infatuated with someone but saying I love you and treating you like you are his wife is a huge a red Flag ,
This exactly, sounds exactly like my ex minus the falling in love that quickly. He told me he loved me after a few months
After a few months of dating isn’t that bad lol but after a week that’s creepy , Some people say I love you out of context of implying they really like being around you and are happy that you are with them , 3 words that people
Really shouldn’t use until you are happily married living together and been by each other’s side no matter what obstacles you both faced , but people use I love you out of context all the time , I guess it’s just 3 easy words to say letting someone know you really like them , and yes confuses the shit out of a lot of people as well lol
Maybe they know something we don't?
Yeah it sounds silly but hear me out...
What if they have a alternative preference?
As in, maybe they r not falling in Love with the person. What if they r in the moment, enjoying every second of it. Like a young minded kid. One who doesn't seem to have a 'file' in his head labed, "All the things that could go wrong."
If this be the case, then, what would that mean for us?
That we might not have reached a greater potential of Love?
Just my thoughts on this...💘❣️
One week?
Id say he is unhealthy. But no offence you sound unhealthy too for even asking this question. It’s very obvious if someone is doing this after one week.. it’s not normal,
for you to even be still considering him probably means you desperately need to feel loved for whatever reason,
work on your self esteem dear.
That’s not falling in love then. Just because he says it doesn’t mean he fell in love. People who really understand love will confirm that when it happens then it just happens that once. If he’s moving from one to another saying he loves a new one every few months then he loved none of them. He is a frivolous person.
I'd start running if I were you. Not only does he have several exes with kids, but he says "I love you" after only a week? Major red flag. It leads me to believe that he gets easily infatuated and will pursue any girl he believes he's in "love" with, whether or not he's in already in a relationship with someone else. Once he finds another girl who becomes the prey of his extreme infatuation, he'll discard you just like he did with his other exes. That's my theory, I could be wrong.
Thirsty for “real love” but likely self-sabotages all their relationships and likely can’t stay single long enough to actually get to know a person so they can actually realize if it’s right or wrong.
Or could even be that their not a decent person and keep loosing everyone because they just aren’t a good partner or person in general.
I fall in love pretty fast. I know and am very aware of the qualities I like in a girl and fall for her fast when I notice them. Just because I've had an ex I loved doesn't mean I can't love easily again. I don't build up an emotional wall every time a relationship doesn't work out. That's immature and will never let you fully commit to a relationship.
Sounds like he has a **lot** of growing up to do. Either that or he specifically aims at women he sees as lacking confidence, etc. and says what he thinks they want to hear to get what he wants.
Either way, I'd run if I were you. A guy who has several exes and multiple kids at a relatively young age, I'll assume if he's 18-24 as your profile, isn't exactly a "catch". Screams of lack of responsibility for one.
Sometimes two people just belong together. They know it almost from the beginning and they just cannot help but fall in love.
Other times there are chemicals called pheromones' that are relapsed. pheromones are different from person to person and sometimes a person's pheromones just happens to agree with another person and the feeling can mimic love.
Some people are just in love with the idea of love, I have a hard time taking such people seriously. Love is not something that comes out of thin air, is something important that develops over time, so it annoys me big time when people take it lightly like that.
Some people just have less hang ups than others. It's not a bad thing. I sometimes wonder how much of it is the person. Or their early experiences that mold this behavior. I'm just the opposite. I discovered how mean some women could be early on that it's made it impossible for me to trust any woman.
I think it's probably because he's desperate and just wants to be in a relationship regardless of who it is. I was in a similar situtation as you, he had a girlfriend who he broke up with they've dated for five years. Even though I only "dated" this dude for like a month he told me he loved me on our fourth date brought up "our kids", marriage, and he would talk about sex. I decided to break it off with him, because he was moving way too fast for me, plus he scared me away haha.
Depending on the girl I'll know after the first date that I definitely want to see her again. Then depending on how much we talk/date I may fall for her after a month or two. Not sure if that's fast or not. Of course I'm not going to mention it to her though, but I will try and be exclusive after a couple months.
Social media puts the pressure women want to show that they’re in love so they could post it on the social media to show that they’re also love. people don’t go out on dates anymore, they date people to in reality to be able to then date their phones.
Sounds like someone who thinks they fall in love easily. Why is t he with the first woman he fell in love with?
Because it’s not that type of love he feels.
He feels the type of love that is free and bares little to no responsibility. Can’t blame him.
Some know who they want and are content happy good to go some just is needy desperate why they fall for first person that shows them Any attention is it a good or bad thing depends on what your willing to tolerate
It's most likely what is called infatuation but he doesn't realise it and thinks it's love. I'd suggest you'd let him know you don't feel comfortable with him saying those things as it is too soon. If he can't respect it dump him
I think a lot of people are in love with the IDEA of falling in love.
I had a couple friends who were hopeless romantics and they just wanted to fall in love like the movies so they're kinda in lala land.
It's not love, it's the idea of being in love. He doesn't love you, he's got an addiction.
Laughing my ass off at "letting me use his phone!!". Good Lord, there's proof of love if EVER there was, right? Wake up girl.
Nobody falls in love quickly.
Not even him or you.
What he is experiencing is called infactuation.
A feeling of wanting someone or to be with someone.
Even if he gave u his phone its only to gain ur trust.
Okay your update means nothing. He is a serial love bomber... I would advise getting rid of that dude.
I think for some, they don't know what love truly is and get caught up in the initial excitement and think that is love they are feeling. And especially if they have never really been in love before, they won't know the difference.
I agree it sounds fast, but Is there a right and wrong in how long it should take to fall in love then?
They are dependent on other people for their own happiness.
... don’t be that way. Take control of your own life and the right people will come.
Why would they not? Do you like waiting?
I mean, patience is a reward, but what is wrong with being clear and quick? It is the opposite of confused, undefined, uncertain.
This is ridiculous to me, women must know how to protect themselves
"has kids by two of them and engaged twice." what the fuck. I dont know if he's also around 18-24 like on your profile,. But this is nutts!
I don't believe that someone truly falls in love that fast. A lot of people confuse love with infatuation.
That’s probably one of the biggest turn offs.
Unless you’ve known eachother for years, saying I love you after a week stinks of insecurity and neediness.
Might have Disney logic. "Love solves everything"... Yay
Don't believe his words yet, you don't wanna be a single baby mama.
I believe in love in first sight but it might just be script. I mean people are in love with dating stories and the situations that love happens. They might not be in love but they are acting. In LGBTQ society we call them drama queens.
I can fall in love fast because I can usually find things to love.
Some people are scared of that word and others embrace it almost too much like me.
Hormones and we tend to try and replace important figures we had before in our past lives with others sexually.
because they have had bad marriages or relationships and want love and affection from someone who will make then feel safe and loved.
Some people are like that due to attachment issues and loneliness. Could be from his childhood
Love is a hunger. When you are starving, everything looks like food.
That's the problem. Some people catch and leave feelings fast
To be perfectly honest I would say take your time and don't be the third common law wife with absolutely no Support.
pretty sure he did the same with his other lady friends as well/
he just shoot his arrow to every women that he is interested
Luck mainly. There’s no fate or falling in love at first sight really. We try other people on like clothes and if we fit, we stay together.
for me.. With this pandemic shit. I thought it was the end of the world. I didn't want to be alone... but in the end... I did...
Because their heart is not into it and they make mistakes and push for sexy way to much
Needy, possible attachment issues? real love takes time i would say.
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Use his phone.. no that's wrong that guy doesn't have boundaries. I would say he's kind maybe but It looks like there's something wrong
there is a way of approaching someone and it going so well you just click instantly
Cool now you're one of his several exes.
because they're pisces
I am some people. Some people is me😹
They lost interest so fast too.
Because they don't think so much.
they don't. they're fooling themselves
he has a pattern, do not become another "Ex"
This guy is fucked up.
They are not dead inside
Well isn’t that a good thing for you?
Stay away. He's a player
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