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It takes a woman days to fall in love but men takes 8.2 seconds to fall in love
www.bustle.com/.../why-men-fall-in-love-faster-according-to-science-38675
I think it's very sad what the girls here are saying in their comments. It's almost as if you hate us men because the way love works for us is not the same as love for you. As if you, by definition as a female, have not only the moral high ground in love, but you are simply superior love machines, operating at a higher level than men. I think it's a bad way to think, and maybe, just maybe, it plays a small role in the reason why society tells men to suppress their emotions.
Men can and do fall in love faster than women. We do feel love, and we feel it intensely. I guess women feel they are "correct" in love, because they stop to analyze every person, because for women their love means committing to raising a child in terms of evolution. So because men don't have babies and don't need to extra analyze every relationship, that means it's purely lust? Men don't feel love? I think it's just a lack of perspective. The sexes have a shitty time understanding eachother and instead of having a meaningful discussion, all of the women here are just bashing on men, acting like we are nothing but horny dog robots who don't feel emotions, we just run our operating system and it tells us to fuck females.
Yea I'm a bit tilted right now. Normally I can't stand other men. That's just how my life was. I love women and I love learning about you. But today I'm just mad. y'all really don't understand us at all. I think today more than ever, that the fuckboys and players that women fall for... are really all you fall for. That since you got played and used for sex so many times, but you refuse to date anyone less than "too good to be true" (because they are, they are players, they aren't real they control you like a keyboard controls a computer and you fall for it) and now you think 100% of men are just like the players and fuckboys who use you. Well I'm sorry, but that's not fucking true and I'm sick of seeing it because that's not how I am. That's not how any guy friends I ever had were.
It makes me wonder, do men and women need to work on understanding eachother better? Or is it all pointless? Will it never happen?
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Because mother nature didn't give us WILL POWER it gave us uncontrollable EMOTIONS at a young age with an injection of hormones so it gets what it wants... TO PROCREATE THE SPECIES. Before you know it MEN wake up MARRIED with kids and they go "WTF" happened.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYY5Ilo-l3I
you don't fall in love that fast.
you feel desire but that's not love. it tricks you so you think it is that.
guys build true connection with time n emotional investment toward the girl.
girls fall for guys lot easier, cos we are more likely to start to dream about the future possibilities while you guys enjoying the "relationship " in the present time.
If they say they actually love you when it hasn't been long chances are they don't actually love you. They just really really like you or just saying that to get what they want. I have experienced this and it is usually all lies for me lol. Who knows they could actually care but the chances sometimes are slim
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LOL. No. In lust you mean? Yes. Not love.
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989 opinions shared on Dating topic. Sometimes it feels like love if you really like the girl and feel like you two relate and connect, but it's just a quick 'sense' of affection that thrills you at first. It does happen to everybody at one point or another, guy or girl.
That is so not true. All it is is lust. Real love takes truly getting to know each other on a deeper level, and loving them for who they are. And you grow and mature together. 'Falling in love' is just fleeting as the feelings you get throughout the day. Men lust that quick. There is a major difference between love and lust and falling in love.
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"It takes a woman days to fall in love but men takes 8.2 seconds to fall in love"
Uh huh... and where, pray tell, did you come by such knowledge? Which scientific article provided these parameters?
I have a difficult time believing a guy can "fall in love" in such a small amount of time. I'd have an easier time believing that a guy notices a girl and now fantasizes about wanting her--not the actual her, mind you, but his version of her. What he thinks she is like.
This is the basis of the "crush": the perfect version of a person (which is NEVER true to life), a mythical, idealized person who becomes a symbol of everything that person fantasizing about them could ever want. That person, that object, is the subject of lust...
And that is why porn is never as satisfying as the genuine article. No mate... this happens when you are young (aka your age) and you are innocent, then you eat some shit and eventually you man up and that's the standard drill. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man is able to control his feelings and actions. Golden rule of dating: NEVER fall in love with a girl especially BEFORE you got the date and in general if serious amount of time hasn't yet passed in a relationship. Falling in love early clouds your mind, your judgement and eventually makes you do stupid things.
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This falling in love stuff is predicated on the people involved as to how fast it develops. It's lust hands down for both men and women at their initial introduction, even though they may both be repulsed by it rather than enamored. Love happens after there is an emotional bond that results from cultivating that lust. Relationships that make the effort to revisit or re-experience that lust, will grows stronger in love. Once love has happened, it is a type of hunger that needs nourishment and reinforcement from time to time: Sometimes moment to moment and other times day by day.
I know right away if I want to see a girl again. Its not love its potential. You don't need to wait weeks and months to figure a person out. There's tells in people's words and action and expressions that point to their character and if those are appealing the potential for love and a relationship is there. Besides that women are feckin amazing to look at, to touch, to taste, to listen to and to smell. They appeal to all the senses so if course a normal guys gonna become very inviting to a new woman in his life. Women see enemies until they prove themselves as friends but men are friends until they prove themselves as enemies. Different perspectives, different timescales, different attitudes
526 opinions shared on Dating topic. I thought it was the other way around. Women beause we are more emotional and less visual, we fall in love easily then men. Men maybe falls in love with the idea of lust desire when they see a hot chick so they believe is "love" and it is not.
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Guys fall in love with physical attraction first, women not so much unless she sees him as a 1-night stand or a guy she would want her sexual fantasies come true. I think girls/women take their time because they have other options and I guess for them it’s like a job, if you have 3 good jobs what the pros/cons and what is her heart telling her.
But what girls should understand is even though it’s true to listen to your heart, how often have girls listened to their heart to date a bad boy and push the nice guy aside only for her heart to be broken, thus, girls/women don’t use their intellect when it comes to those situations unless previous experiences she recalled in her life tells her not to go back into those situations.
I think when a guy or a man sees an attractive girl or woman he automatically assumes she’s precious, sweet, honest but again that may not always be the case. That’s my 2 cents on it. -
"men takes 8.2 seconds to fall in love"
Dumbest thing I read today. 477 opinions shared on Dating topic. I don't think so... rather the opposite
What i've noticed is women tend to fall in love quickly whereas men take longer to fall in love. With women, it's rather an involuntary response whereas generally for men one has to allow yourself to fall in love (more a choice).
The difference is women although fall in love quicker, usually cn much more quickly fall out of love whereas research shows men may sometimes not ever get over an ex, it takes months to years- Anonymous(36-45)
Men fall in love with women easily. It's mostly related how men and women see each other.
men concentrate on a total outlook of the women. she got a great smile even though she struts like a peacock but in the end, there might be something that makes the whole package more alluring and piercing., like a lion falls on its prey.
Women, on the other hand, they try to uncover the men and ties their habits and time around him so that she knows him inside out and finally she makes herself around him. like a spider cast her web. Oh man... look at this generalization power lvl.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SiMHTK15Pik
I won't even bother to answer this question as it does not fall into my category of 'smart' or even 'Normal' questions.-
Really? Because my guy friends seem to have no interest in romance. Maybe it's just a phase (early twenties), I don't know, but as far as I know guys don't want to fall in love - maybe at least not until after they've gotten their life and career together.
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guys rarely fall in love, they fall in love with the lust part because they're built like that. but no, girls can take as short as a second to fall in love with a guy (not lust, but love) because we're not programmed or built the same as guys who only have strong sexual desires...
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As some have said men tend to be visual and women more emotional - Men may mistake that initial physical attraction as love, it may grow into real love but also may go nowhere and the guy moves on which if it were real love it would take longer than that. Also I think before a person falls in love, a girl feels she has to give more so she thinks more about it. That is my view in general terms, each individual is different.
- Anonymous(30-35)
You are talking about lust/desire. They are socially programmed to be that way.
It takes 2 to 3 months for a woman to fall in love. Men usually fall in love with a woman within a month.
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I feel like some women are so physically attractive, I could fall into love at first sight, or at least fall into deep desire.
Many attractive women naturally have good personalities as well, it's really just a matter if they see you as an equal or not, which is another debate for another time. Not saying it's right, but a lot of the most physically attractive women have it all, which makes it easy to fall victim to their aura. 😘 -
Girls have to be more selective because beside having a guy with good genes who will give healthy children, he has to stick around and help provide for the offspring for years. So women lol at loyalty when selecting a mate.
Guys aren't stuck carrying a child in them so don't need to be as cautious. So guys generally pay a lot of attention to how genetically fit a girl is (how hot she is). -
Lol, Man never fall in love in 8.2 secs
Man only fall in lust in 8.2 sec but I was thinking falling in love is kind of ladies thing but,
in the end only MAN LOVES A LADY
SHe just loves the idea of man falling for her
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