Why do guys fall in love so easily?

Question

It takes a woman days to fall in love but men takes 8.2 seconds to fall in love

Arbalest · Accepted Answer

I think it's very sad what the girls here are saying in their comments. It's almost as if you hate us men because the way love works for us is not the same as love for you. As if you, by definition as a female, have not only the moral high ground in love, but you are simply superior love machines, operating at a higher level than men. I think it's a bad way to think, and maybe, just maybe, it plays a small role in the reason why society tells men to suppress their emotions. Men can and do fall in love faster than women. We do feel love, and we feel it intensely. I guess women feel they are "correct" in love, because they stop to analyze every person, because for women their love means committing to raising a child in terms of evolution. So because men don't have babies and don't need to extra analyze every relationship, that means it's purely lust? Men don't feel love? I think it's just a lack of perspective. The sexes have a shitty time understanding eachother and instead of having a meaningful discussion, all of the women here are just bashing on men, acting like we are nothing but horny dog robots who don't feel emotions, we just run our operating system and it tells us to fuck females.  Yea I'm a bit tilted right now. Normally I can't stand other men. That's just how my life was. I love women and I love learning about you. But today I'm just mad. y'all really don't understand us at all. I think today more than ever, that the fuckboys and players that women fall for... are really all you fall for. That since you got played and used for sex so many times, but you refuse to date anyone less than "too good to be true" (because they are, they are players, they aren't real they control you like a keyboard controls a computer and you fall for it) and now you think 100% of men are just like the players and fuckboys who use you. Well I'm sorry, but that's not fucking true and I'm sick of seeing it because that's not how I am. That's not how any guy friends I ever had were.  It makes me wonder, do men and women need to work on understanding eachother better? Or is it all pointless? Will it never happen?

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Because mother nature didn't give us WILL POWER it gave us uncontrollable EMOTIONS at a young age with an injection of hormones so it gets what it wants... TO PROCREATE THE SPECIES. Before you know it MEN wake up MARRIED with kids and they go "WTF" happened.

LunaJ · Accepted Answer

you don't fall in love that fast.
you feel desire but that's not love. it tricks you so you think it is that.

guys build true connection with time n emotional investment toward the girl.

girls fall for guys lot easier, cos we are more likely to start to dream about the future possibilities while you guys enjoying the "relationship " in the present time.

livelife1018 · Accepted Answer

If they say they actually love you when it hasn't been long chances are they don't actually love you. They just really really like you or just saying that to get what they want. I have experienced this and it is usually all lies for me lol. Who knows they could actually care but the chances sometimes are slim

Blonde401 · Accepted Answer

LOL. No. In lust you mean? Yes. Not love.

ManOnFire · Answer

Sometimes it feels like love if you really like the girl and feel like you two relate and connect, but it's just a quick 'sense' of affection that thrills you at first. It does happen to everybody at one point or another, guy or girl.

btbc92 · Answer

That is so not true. All it is is lust. Real love takes truly getting to know each other on a deeper level, and loving them for who they are. And you grow and mature together. 'Falling in love' is just fleeting as the feelings you get throughout the day. Men lust that quick. There is a major difference between love and lust and falling in love.

Investigator · Answer

"It takes a woman days to fall in love but men takes 8.2 seconds to fall in love"

Uh huh... and where, pray tell, did you come by such knowledge? Which scientific article provided these parameters?

I have a difficult time believing a guy can "fall in love" in such a small amount of time. I'd have an easier time believing that a guy notices a girl and now fantasizes about wanting her--not the actual her, mind you, but his version of her. What he thinks she is like.

This is the basis of the "crush": the perfect version of a person (which is NEVER true to life), a mythical, idealized person who becomes a symbol of everything that person fantasizing about them could ever want. That person, that object, is the subject of lust...

And that is why porn is never as satisfying as the genuine article.

Odysseas · Answer

No mate... this happens when you are young (aka your age) and you are innocent, then you eat some shit and eventually you man up and that's the standard drill. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man is able to control his feelings and actions. Golden rule of dating: NEVER fall in love with a girl especially BEFORE you got the date and in general if serious amount of time hasn't yet passed in a relationship. Falling in love early clouds your mind, your judgement and eventually makes you do stupid things.

histiletto · Answer

This falling in love stuff is predicated on the people involved as to how fast it develops. It's lust hands down for both men and women at their initial introduction, even though they may both be repulsed by it rather than enamored. Love happens after there is an emotional bond that results from cultivating that lust. Relationships that make the effort to revisit or re-experience that lust, will grows stronger in love. Once love has happened, it is a type of hunger that needs nourishment and reinforcement from time to time: Sometimes moment to moment and other times day by day.

Dale1982 · Answer

I know right away if I want to see a girl again. Its not love its potential. You don't need to wait weeks and months to figure a person out. There's tells in people's words and action and expressions that point to their character and if those are appealing the potential for love and a relationship is there. Besides that women are feckin amazing to look at, to touch, to taste, to listen to and to smell. They appeal to all the senses so if course a normal guys gonna become very inviting to a new woman in his life. Women see enemies until they prove themselves as friends but men are friends until they prove themselves as enemies. Different perspectives, different timescales, different attitudes

kitty71 · Answer

I thought it was the other way around. Women beause we are more emotional and less visual, we fall in love easily then men. Men maybe falls in love with the idea of lust desire when they see a hot chick so they believe is "love" and it is not.

thatguyfromtoronto · Answer

Guys fall in love with physical attraction first, women not so much unless she sees him as a 1-night stand or a guy she would want her sexual fantasies come true. I think girls/women take their time because they have other options and I guess for them it’s like a job, if you have 3 good jobs what the pros/cons and what is her heart telling her.

But what girls should understand is even though it’s true to listen to your heart, how often have girls listened to their heart to date a bad boy and push the nice guy aside only for her heart to be broken, thus, girls/women don’t use their intellect when it comes to those situations unless previous experiences she recalled in her life tells her not to go back into those situations.

I think when a guy or a man sees an attractive girl or woman he automatically assumes she’s precious, sweet, honest but again that may not always be the case. That’s my 2 cents on it.

_Mysterious_ · Answer

"men takes 8.2 seconds to fall in love" Dumbest thing I read today.

Anonymous · Answer

Men fall in love with women easily. It's mostly related how men and women see each other.
men concentrate on a total outlook of the women. she got a great smile even though she struts like a peacock but in the end, there might be something that makes the whole package more alluring and piercing., like a lion falls on its prey.

Women, on the other hand, they try to uncover the men and ties their habits and time around him so that she knows him inside out and finally she makes herself around him. like a spider cast her web.

G-Daz · Answer

I don't think so... rather the opposite

What i've noticed is women tend to fall in love quickly whereas men take longer to fall in love. With women, it's rather an involuntary response whereas generally for men one has to allow yourself to fall in love (more a choice).

The difference is women although fall in love quicker, usually cn much more quickly fall out of love whereas research shows men may sometimes not ever get over an ex, it takes months to years

Battooot · Answer

Oh man... look at this generalization power lvl. I won't even bother to answer this question as it does not fall into my category of 'smart' or even 'Normal' questions.

xolovenina · Answer

Really? Because my guy friends seem to have no interest in romance. Maybe it's just a phase (early twenties), I don't know, but as far as I know guys don't want to fall in love - maybe at least not until after they've gotten their life and career together.

Anonymous · Answer

guys rarely fall in love, they fall in love with the lust part because they're built like that. but no, girls can take as short as a second to fall in love with a guy (not lust, but love) because we're not programmed or built the same as guys who only have strong sexual desires...

ATuairiscean · Answer

As some have said men tend to be visual and women more emotional - Men may mistake that initial physical attraction as love, it may grow into real love but also may go nowhere and the guy moves on which if it were real love it would take longer than that. Also I think before a person falls in love, a girl feels she has to give more so she thinks more about it. That is my view in general terms, each individual is different.

Anonymous · Answer

You are talking about lust/desire. They are socially programmed to be that way.

burpzzzzz · Answer

It takes 2 to 3 months for a woman to fall in love. Men usually fall in love with a woman within a month.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like some women are so physically attractive, I could fall into love at first sight, or at least fall into deep desire.

Many attractive women naturally have good personalities as well, it's really just a matter if they see you as an equal or not, which is another debate for another time. Not saying it's right, but a lot of the most physically attractive women have it all, which makes it easy to fall victim to their aura. 😘

Billyscotter · Answer

Girls have to be more selective because beside having a guy with good genes who will give healthy children, he has to stick around and help provide for the offspring for years. So women lol at loyalty when selecting a mate.

Guys aren't stuck carrying a child in them so don't need to be as cautious. So guys generally pay a lot of attention to how genetically fit a girl is (how hot she is).

AlphaGhost · Answer

Lol, Man never fall in love in 8.2 secs
Man only fall in lust in 8.2 sec but I was thinking falling in love is kind of ladies thing but,
in the end only MAN LOVES A LADY
SHe just loves the idea of man falling for her

BlueDreams · Answer

Love is quite an unique sensation that you can have in your life because you can't describe the real loves how they work. I felt a love with a girl in my major of university, because she has great face, cute looking, amazing hair, well-characteristics and her unique beauty. In fact, true loves don't care anything physically, you love her/him without responding and your lover will be unique of your life.

What happy who can say: I LOVE YOU... ❤😍

RoBesPieRRe · Answer

Ducane Cundioglu (a Turkish philosopher) says 'Women can't love. They just can be loved. Some women say 'I love him' but actually they imitate men in this. I'm not saying women can't like a man but in essence, a woman doesn't want to have a man and a man wants to have a woman. So, women can't love.'

Anonymous · Answer

girls fall in love as easy as guys do, but guys are more towards the lust while girls are more towards the emotional, mental, and physical parts. yes they're attracted sexually to guys but us guys don't have the attraction with the mental and emotional parts as much as girls do

pinkzoesbb · Answer

Not true. I’ve never fallen love in just a few days. Guys usually take longer then girls to fall in love.

FemWorship · Answer

Agree mostly but conceptually and many exceptions
What a gal has to offer physically, emotionally, socially meets what a guy's been denied all his life, in family, sports, school, etc.
So if she gets past his guards, she's in like flint.

raspberry0416 · Answer

I don't think gender has to do with how quickly or how deeply someone falls in love. It depends on their personality. Some people are naturally caring and sweet and love others more easily.

FatherJack · Answer

Definitely NOT the case with me , quite the reverse , I admit I'm a distant , more on the colder side type person , also my situation as a FT working single dad means I don't date...& don't have the inclination & prefer it that way !!

AHellaNo · Answer

I think you are overgeneralizing here. This depends more on the person then on their gender. And thinking "i would hit that" isn't the same as falling in love with somebody.

Anonymous · Answer

Uhmmmm can I ask where you got this information from and how credible this source actually is. 'Love' is a mixture of uncontrollable chemical reactions that allow us as human beings feel lonely or in retrospect significant. So in conclusion, neither one of sexes "fall in love" quicker than the other.

SarahsSummer · Answer

That's not true. They just don't understand the feelings they have and may assume it's love.

Keenisha · Answer

I didn't know that hmmm probably because women are emotional and men visual. Takes time to get emotionally undressed vs getting undressed physically

Briseida_Rocke · Answer

I didn't take a long time to fall in love with my boyfriend, instantly when i began talking with him i fell in love, and he did too.

archiz · Answer

Let me laugh: Hahahahhahaha

Toeferin · Answer

I avoid falling in love but some girls I've seen take hours to seconds. Others that take longer could be because they are cautious or have a lot of other options.

TheUglyMonk · Answer

Nope, usually girls are the ones that fall in love quicker and if you don't believe me walk up to 30 random girls and ask them about their past relationships.

Prof_Don · Answer

Because after rejection after rejection, it feels AMAZING to have a woman like us back! :-P

burstfirewolfloki6 · Answer

Since ancient history, women have been a weakness to men. Our kryptonite.

BradA · Answer

Dumb question. It's lust. "We" look at appearance first, then personality/attitude. Very few of us actually want to get to know the woman. Very few of us actually care about their personality.

Rainie_ · Answer

I think you mean lust and infatuation... Not love.

idontneedAname · Answer

And it takes them less to move on 🙂

CandaceG · Answer

Wow I thought girls were the one who fell in love easily?

Slothium · Answer

The economics of sex being aligned against them, making every woman who is interested seem better than she is objectively.

Unit1 · Answer

I wish i knew the answer. I definitely catch feelings very rapidly. Women seem to take their time in order to catch those same feelings😐 hmpf.

CasaNorba · Answer

a lot of guys nowadays can't tell the difference between love and lust so I think you got it the other way around

jersos1 · Answer

Guys are kinda impatient and desperate. I won't say that to be love. It's kinda infatuation. This arises due to excess of testosterone hormones.

Genbento · Answer

People always told me that it's the other way around. O_o It must all depends on the person. ^^'

hiphopbean · Answer

because of their behavior, they're very vulnerable when it comes to romantic relations.

es20490446e · Answer

Because guys decide visually, and girls by engaging with the guy.

Tall_Shy_Me · Answer

Takes me ages to fall in love, it could be true but most of the guys I know don't seem to fall in love easily

Norsie · Answer

All girls on this list: "duhhh lust not duhh love" Guy's fall in love very quickly but here's the kicker they cannot show it early on.

TriTree · Answer

Whatever that word truly is/means/feels... shades of it that I know of is the damn worst, nothing has come of it

pavlove · Answer

i think feminism made men more sensitive and women less sensitive

blondfrog · Answer

So many people mistake lust for love and many girls don't believe you on this just saying lol.

burnslm · Answer

I never thought guys fell in love quickly but I'm also young and guys my age aren't worried about being in love

edrolnosam · Answer

Could be personality, similarities, the fact that you can see that person as your wife and mother of your child.  Well that’s how I fell in love

Anonymous · Answer

Lmao guys aren't the only ones girls can also fall in love quite quickly but it may be just lust..

Anonymous · Answer

Men are generally about as deep as puddles. They mistake lust and/or infatuation for love.

Tomsta · Answer

From what dictionary did you get that definition from

ScottSummers · Answer

true for some men, not for me or for most men iam sure.

chrisbigman · Answer

You're referring to lust, not love. There's a difference.

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