Do girls fall in love way too fast?

[That1tallguy]

I feel like so many girls are helplessly romantic that they constantly fall in and out of love. They're so in love with the idea of being loved and falling in love that the convince themself it's love when it's still just lust and infatuation.

Do girls fall in love way too fast?

Yes

No

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+1 y

A lot of hurt guys on here

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+1 y

Don't you hate when gag picks mho for you. Cus for some reason it usually ends up being the last opinion I would pick.

[Hannah591]

No, science says men fall in love faster than women. They say "I love you" a lot sooner than women do too.

There is a lot of evidence that supports the notion that men fall in love faster:

www.relrules.com/.../
"In a recent survey, when asked how quickly they were likely to admit “I love you” in a relationship, it was shown that men were prone to saying it much faster than their women counterparts. Men are quick to declare their love for a woman they are in a relationship with after a few weeks. Women can sometimes take a few months before they can declare their love for their male partners."

www.zoosk.com/.../

www.vice.com/.../why-men-fall-in-love-faster-than-women

www.bustle.com/.../why-men-fall-in-love-faster-according-to-science-38675

www.elitedaily.com/.../965285
"There’s a common misconception women are crazy, running around looking for men to pour all our love into"

[That1tallguy]

blasphemy

[Hannah591]

You should choose the MHO faster next time then. 😉

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I avoid falling in love at all cost. It's such a silly state of mind which lowers my capability to think and analyze. My perfomance (singing) gets worse because it is difficult to control my emotions and voice when I have a feeling towards someone. I look like an idoit when I have a crush. I have guys telling me they liked me. But I think it's just physical attraction. Some of them never have a real conversation with me. Seriously?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Anonymous]

Women wanting love?
HAH! Where? In fairy tale books? Before feminism? In Thailand?
Mate we men were told lies! Women can live just perfectly fine without a relationship ever and even sexless. They are happy that way.
They'll only reconsider a relationship if you are rich.
But otherwise no, you and I and the average men are completely invisible to them when it comes to dating them. At best you'll find a girlfriend. On average you're rejected or laughed at. At worst nothing really happens.

Women in general so not show us love. They don't love men. At most they Love Mr. Perfect, who exists only in chick flicks.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I can assure you that what you are saying is not a rule my friend. I know that it's easy to get the impression that girl don't want love these days, but they do. My closest friends are all in relationships and I am engaged, neither of us makes 6 figures a year. You just need to find a good girl.

[Inneedofusername]

Lol. From what I've seen those statements are usually said by dudes who don't attend gym, don't care for their hairstyle, don't want to change glasses to contact lenses and generally think that they deserve a woman being attracted to them for the simple fact of being a man who just doesn't stink.

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion A very difficult task but equally so rewarding. I would love to believe in love but it seems like Santa Claus to me.
I do not give up my search. However I won't expect anything to unfold. I believe this is the right setting for persistence.

[Opinion Owner]

@Inneedofusername Here's a revelation for you: We men aren't rich to be able to afford gym membership, professional haircuts or contact lenses. Nobody owes anybody anything. You want something - you go out there and get it. Simple as that.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I wish you luck in your search bro!

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion You do have my gratitude mate! ✊

[Inneedofusername]

Lol, are you saying that caring about appearance is expensive for men? XD Stuff you expect from women are 10 times more costly. And best hair are long hair - doesn't require hairdresser often, but the problem is that short hair are just much more comfortable- so men keep their hair short but expect women to have it long. You CAN afford contact lenses, but you would have to give up on other things. I don't have even half of what my friends have because I'm from much poorer family than they are, but I cut expensess on food to have contact lenses.
Yes, caring about appearance is difficult and it costs (much more expenses for women though). You can choose not to care this much, but then don't whine that women don't want you, because they are putting in this effort which you don't

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Inneedofusername It is possible for a guy to put that effort on himself and still be single. It is not that linear.
I do agree that many people complain about their situation and do nothing to change it. Oh ya, too many!
Still let's not assume it is this guy's case. He is just hurt. You heard him he is still trying to find love.

[es20490446e]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Don't pursue them, make it easy for them to come to you.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@es20490446e Well I am engaged and my fiance actually made the first move on me xD

[Opinion Owner]

@Inneedofusername I do not have high expectations but if you like having high expectations, that's on you.
Surviving in a money driven society like this comes with less resources than what the minimum for an adequate living is. Here it's about picking your poison.

When you can live up to your own standards you hold towards the others - that's where I draw the line and say that there's likely nothing wrong with it.

[es20490446e]

Most people aim for survival only because they are too lazy.

Uncomfortable true, but real. I don't know anybody who is poor and it isn't for a veeeery good reason.

[Opinion Owner]

@es20490446e My case is imposed poverty since birth. Daily and nightly was, am and will be fighting it.

[Lliam]

Your opinion is obviously based on your own personal experience, anonymous, but it's not generally true.

[es20490446e]

So what is preventing you to get a job, and start earning bucks?

Why having no university diploma, and barely going outside home, people is calling my door offering me good paid jobs? What is so different about me that you can't do?

Most likely these:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yT7FCRR7PkA

[Opinion Owner]

@es20490446e all things take their time. Call me again in a few years after I have graduated and risen up my career ladder.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Boy, you are too young to lose hope. Work your way out and don't give up. Try many things to learn which subjects you like. Apply it into something you can earn money from. Bodyweight training spends no money. You don't have to pay to do crunches and push-ups at home, right? I will appreciate a man who puts effort to win over my heart rather than ones who are already perfect. If a man is rich, he'd spend his cash on other women, too. I have many jobs I don't care about money he has.
by the way, why did you mention Thailand?

[Opinion Owner]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa people in such regions like Thailand or Africa live on a lower standard of life. The women over there are likely to look for a migration to European or American countries but they'd fake the relationship at all cost in order to claim that green card.

Money is everything and love is an illusion of weakness.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Hmmm? That doesn't sound like me. I think I'm okay with my country. I never want to live in America. It's a nonsense stereotype, thinking all Thai women want a Green Card. Men there want to leave aggressive feminists right now. Lots of food there are contaminated with GMOs. Poor education on morality and many more problems. Why would I want to go there? European zone is a bit better. It depends though. Of it's eastern Europe, their economy situations are not quite different from mine. You still go to school, right?

[Opinion Owner]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa I'm about to finish university next year, then I'm looking forward to migrate to the US for an MBA. I'm also going to look for work and/or corporate transfer over there.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Okay then. Take care.

[Opinion Owner]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa you too Mrs.. You too!

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Hahaha. I'm not married. 😊

[Opinion Owner]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa I will never marry in my life.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I see. For me, I just want someone who will always listen and talk to me. That's enough. Marriage limits our freedom. We will start to be obsessed and possessive over the other person. Only if we want kids, legal part is needed. But who knows? We might want to get married when it's too late?

[Opinion Owner]

@el_Te_de_la_Rosa marriage is a delusion with an expensive piece of paper contract to trick people into proving their mutual love.

But i believe actions speak louder than words or that overpriced piece of paper.

Your requirements are easy to follow. I personally have room for a special lady such like you.

I heard of stories of couples, who have kids and live like a very normal family but without the marriage part. I also heard of a story of a couple marrying in the UK and they ended up paying even more taxes than they did before.

All in all it's not worth the gamble in my eyes.

[Opinion Owner]

Marriage benefits the business most of all and not the couple themselves. Investing money can be done instead. It's a pretty high sum on average - ESPECIALLY the wedding.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Yes copules can have life long relationships whitout getting married. Marriage doesn't give you anything besides some social and economical perks like insurances. I am still going to get married. Why? Well for the simple fact that I want it and feels right with her.

[Riggers]

Ofcourse, this is why women cheat infinitely more, every single guy they meet they can’t resist the urge to bang just for that momentary ego boost of feeling like another guy likes them.

Women don’t experience the emotion of love, they merely derive pleasure from feeling wanted.

[LeeKenz]

That's not true at all

[That1tallguy]

Wow lol

[That1tallguy]

Who hurt you bro

[LeeKenz]

Right lol

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz 100% true.

[LeeKenz]

100% false.

I'm not like that.

[LeeKenz]

I've never cheated. And I will never cheat.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz Sure you aren’t...

[LeeKenz]

I'm not. 100% true. I don't see a guy and automatically think "oh he looks nice let's fuck and get attached for a week then ditch him." No if I get attached I'm attached. Completely. And 100%. Im fully committed and 100% faithful in a relationship. Whether dating a guy or girl.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz yeah that’s bullshit. If you were dating someone, and a hotter guy came along and shown interest in you, you’d jump on him in a fucking heartbeat.

[LeeKenz]

No... looks mean nothing to me

[LeeKenz]

If I can get a guy who respects me and loves me for me, that's all I want. I mean who's also into the same things I am but if he's cute that's great, but how's his personality?

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz if you had a boyfriend who was a 6/10 looks wise, enjoyed the things you enjoy and cared about you. But then a 9/10 looks guy who also is into what you’re into and and cares about you fake along. You would 100000000% of the time leave for the hotter guy.
Women will ALWAYS upgrade if given the chance, whereas men can be perfectly content and happy with the same person.

[LeeKenz]

Not me

[LeeKenz]

Like I said looks don't mean anything to me. Once I fall in love or start to fall in love, I only have sights for that person.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz I mean if lying Is your thing sure. Whatever

[LeeKenz]

Whoever hurt you hurt you bad and I'm sorry for that. But I'm not lying. Of course I have no way to prove it. But that's who I am, I'm not a cheater. I've never cheated ever, not even in school, and I never will.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz I’m just a stranger on the internet, you don’t have to lie and seem like a morally better person then natural female human instincts built you to me. If you don’t wanna accept that’s the truth then eh. Live in delusion I guess

[LeeKenz]

Okay, fuck you. I'm sorry for having morals.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz Jesus I’m not personally and individually attacking youhere or some shit, all women are like this not just you, it’s just instinctive

[LeeKenz]

But I'm telling you IM NOT like this

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz if you have XX chromosomes and don’t have any brain disorders or mental illness, then you are. Just like the other 3.5 billion healthy females on the planet

[LeeKenz]

No I'm not. I have depression and I've been raped multiple times and abused. So yes I'm different

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz I mean, it’s debatable whether or not depression in women is real, and those other things do not effect your mental state, so, again, exactly the same as every other normal woman on the planet.

[LeeKenz]

You don't think being raped affects you mentally? What the Fuck?

[LeeKenz]

You know what fuck you. You're just ignorant and don't fucking care.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz I do not no. And, I don’t care no.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

She is right, men tend to cheat more. And they do stay with a guy for love. Just love.
If you don't believe that you haven't been loved yet. Don't close your mind like that my friend your chance will come.

[LeeKenz]

I didn't say anything that men cheat more. It depends on the person.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@LeeKenz I agree. That is why I said "tend to".

[I_Can_Help]

Riggers is the thumbs-down king!

[Riggers]

@I_Can_Help People can't handle fucking reality so they dislike it.

[LeeKenz]

No... you're not spouting reality, you're spouting some fucked up version of what youve gone through.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz Am i an illusion or a robot? Surely if its 'what I've been through', Then its in the real world, and thus, fucking reality.

[LeeKenz]

No... you can't base every other female off of your experiences

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

But what you have been through represents your reality, not everyone else's.
I feel sad that some guys never got to feel the love of a partner.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz I can and will, thank you very much.
@ThisIsMyOpinion My reality is the same reality as everyone else. We all share this existence together. I'm not in a secluded little bubble, Ofcourse all the fucking venomous disgusting whores of the planet will deny its reality because they don't like to admit just how fucking worthless and scumfuck they actually are, And i don't expect most men to admit it either because their instinctual drive to put their dick into anything with a pulse likes the fact every woman is a whore.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

You really believe that every women on the planet isn't capable of loving a man? That they all are cheating whores? How? Do you know how many there are? They are humans. Humans have very different personalities.

[Riggers]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Yes. I do. Quite firmly.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Then you were hurt too much in your life my friend.

[Riggers]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Just part and parcel of sharing a species where one gender is fucking putrid cunts.

[LeeKenz]

Well believe it or not but not every single one of us are whores

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

They are not all like that. So many women take good care and love their husbands.

[Riggers]

@LeeKenz I choose not.

[Riggers]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Thatttts bullshit.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I have no way to make you believe it. I am engaged I know how good they can be.
I just hope that if a girl ever takes interest in you, you don't shut her aside right away. Try to know her.

[That1tallguy]

@LeeKenz a little advice take it or leave it. Stop trying to qualify yourself to people, especially to strangers. You'll be happier if you care less of what people think of you and just do you

[Riggers]

Cheers for your input into the convo attention seeking white knight fuckoboii.

[LeeKenz]

I don't care what people think of me I'm just trying to prove that not even woman is the same

[I_Can_Help]

Riggers is collecting even MORE dislikes!

[Riggers]

@I_Can_Help I probably get about 40-50 downvotes per day, And about 5-10 posts per day removed for being too offensive, Lmao.

[Hannah591]

ifstudies.org/.../who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

[Boppy]

@Hannah591 Oof. Those numbers are really high, even at their low starts of around 6%.

[mistixs]

No. Studies show that men fall in love faster than women.

[stormbreaker06]

they fall in love with what you got. (Looks, money, car etc.)

when they freak out for celebrities. Do you think they are freaking out for who he is as a person or for what he does and have?

obviously crush and fall in love with celebrities because of what they do.

Many regular people can be better looking and girls wouldn't care for them.
Give that regular guy money, status and the girl will love him for what he has and can do.

Looks plays an important role to what women falls in love with but its not always 1st or 2nd priority to women.

girls don't fall in love because you got a great personality.

[BlackRoseFairy]

Many mistake infatuation and the first excitement for love. Hence the term "in love" has become more an expression of that lust and attraction you feel towards someone when you first connect, rather than an expression of real love.

[BlackRoseFairy]

To answer your update it selects MHO after 7days. And to be fair you get a notification that reminds you time is up to pick one 😉
And yes, I don't like it either that's why I try to do it myself, unless none of the answers stands out really to me...

[Larajeanfake]

I'm guilty of it. I try to pace myself and go at a slow pace, but I tend to fall in love faster and it's intense, so it's hard for me to pick myself back up if I get heartbroken, which sucks lol.

[elite665]

I say no cause I see girls all the time going from boyfriend to boyfriend guy to guy and yea they say they love them every time but then they meet another and it’s by bye to the last

[That1tallguy]

Didn't read my summary huh

[meenarai]

I used to when I was younger but I'm 23 and take it more seriously so I need a good 3 months to get to know the man before falling in love.

[That1tallguy]

3 months still seems short to me tbh

[Alpha09]

No. They get attached to fast. It's biological, but that doesn't mean it always happens. Some of us don't or not quite as easily.

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

From my experience, no. Takes a lot for me to actually fall in love.

[IslanderSparkle_Siki]

I do. That's why now, I prefer to friend zone everyone I meet.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I agree. If a man can't be around, being just a friend first. He just looks for sex then.

[TexasBorn217]

I think every girl is different.
As for myself, no. Especially after I had my first heartbreak in my early 20s. My struggle is taking too long to open up emotionally and trust.

[LuWe22]

I took 6 month. Don't seem fast to me. He confesses his feeling after a month. I took my time to get to know him and to get used to him. Romantic Feelings are still new to me. I never was before him in love.

[tonicandgin]

I dont think i ever "fall in love" just like the person

[Claraaa]

I personally don't, but I know a shit tone of girls who mistake infatuation for love

[marleyanna2016]

I used to. Now I can’t fall in love. It all depends on the girl honestly.

[3rdSrike]

you used to? you're 19!

[marleyanna2016]

I used to get attached easily

[Lance1965]

No, they fall in love with what you supply to them. Take the supply away and they will look for someone else. The concept of "she loves me just for me" doesn't apply to a lot of women.

[JamesBoradil03]

scientifically guys fall in love faster and take longer to get over it

[3rdSrike]

In this day and age, girls dont know what love is, they sabotage their own happiness way oftenm they have no idea what it feels like ot love someone , they like the idea but they can't do it.

[ITGirl95]

Many do, but I believe we get attached way too fast.

[DDpsy]

I think it's the opposite. The last few times by the time they wanted to open up to me I already stopped giving a shit.

[up_64]

Yeah 6 foot and good-looking and you already done most of the flirting as a guy from what I've seen.

[That1tallguy]

Are you talking about me? XD

[up_64]

Dunno. Can't see your face.

#nohomo