Why Do Some People Jump From One Relationship To Another So Quickly?

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PinkieClouds · Accepted Answer

I did it. Three times 😅 First was because I was in a shitty LDR and someone new appeared near me. The second time I did it because I needed someone to appreciate me and spend time with me. And the third time was just for sex. I must say I never started a new one while I was in a relationship. That's cheating. And the jumping was like two months or so after the break up. And it's not about caring or feeling lonely. I needed something that I didn't have and couldn't get from the person I was with at the time.. I had a bunch of emotionally incapable "lovers" . And it doesn't help with getting over a bad break-up. If you cared enough, invested energy, time and feelings it still hurts like hell even if you're living a pink dream with someone else. It helps with self esteem tho. You're worthy of love

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They cannot be alone.

Some people just cannot be single for any length of time for multiple reasons. Some base their worth off of whether or not they are in a relationship (and honestly, the stigma surrounding being single is incredibly stupid and being in a relationship does not necessarily mean you're wanted, loved, or desirable compared to a single person; there is no shortage of very unhappy relationships where two people are trying to force a square peg into a round hole), some are completely lovesick and desperate and just cannot take their time and wait for the right person, and some see it as more of a game than looking for something serious.

Aethereal · Accepted Answer

In my opinion:
- They didn't/don't take entering a relationship seriously. It was/is just for a short-term happiness like out of loneliness, for sex, or some other convenience.
- They didn't seek compatibility in their partner, or they worked off the heat of the moment instead of thinking long-term.
- They sought an unequal relationship and their partner wasn't having it, or their partner sought an unequal relationship and they wised up.
- They didn't/don't know relationships are a responsibility, and so run away when they realize there are certain expectations of them in a relationship.

robertKugler · Accepted Answer

Because they can they have a strong social circle that can support trading.. in or swapping out to a different model. When it suits em. When supply is abundant we Don't value what we have.. especially when some thing there to jump in. So there's no sense of loss. They don't have to care it's a none issue. When there options plenty of choices... why not try em all. It's in our nature to consume and expoit all resources in. Our environment. We are taught to use every thing thing at our desposal to get what we want.

Apple1996 · Answer

Because they think they always need to be ina realtionship

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Not sure, even if I'm guilty of having done that.

Shalaaa · Answer

As one of the many serial monogamists in the world, I can tell you.. at least for me..
It comes from a chaotic upbringing.
When the parent you were more attached to constantly went back and forth from idolizing you to abusing you, and then blaming the switch on you instead of their addictions..
A part of you always craves intimacy.
And feels the same worthless feeling without it.
Healing from childhood hurts and accepting responsibility for what you can change is crucial in breaking the cycle.

However, I'm happy here so I think I'll just realize it for what it is and leave it at that lol.

With that being said though it's more than likely different for everyone.

I've tried to remain single,
But there's always a flood of guys who I feel like an asshole for not responding to.
I end up attaching myself quickly, and being addicted to the idea of being special to someone doesn't make resisting any easier.

NYCstreetPhotog · Answer

Many reasons really. For some they think going from one to another will allow them to find the "right one" faster, for others they want to fill the gap of loss, these people are generally chemically addicted to the feeling of love, still others may use it to reenforce their decissions made in the previous relationship. The psychological implications of this type of action can have a variety of reasons, but ultimately it ussually has a fear of loneliness linked to it in some way.

Moonchild714 · Answer

There are many Psychological reasons.

For me, I was always just in "for now relationships" and looking while in one. So as soon as I found another I ended one and started the next. Had to be in a relationship for guranteed sex. I knew I had the propensity to be a Sex Addict andcas long as I was getting it daily I could keepnit at bey, but tgey suddenly that ended and the Sex Addiction took complete Power Over me.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Cause their rebounding and think getting involved with someone else is the fastest way to get over someone when in fact, it's not. I think a lot of people do this to avoid focusing on the break up and being lonely instead acknowledging their feelings and letting them release. Also some people do it out of spite and jealousy and just want to get a rise out of their ex. These type of relationships usually never last long.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

They had the replacement lined up and ready before the breakup and don't want to have a downtime. Which is why you may see your ex with another guy/girl within a week of the breakup.

They had options available and lined up because they were waiting for the breakup to happen

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I think I do this. My reasons are:
1. When I leave a relationship I'm totally over them and have been for a couple months and I know they're not willing to fix things.
2. B dating others I am not thinking much of my ex.
3. I enjoy having a special someone in my life.

thecrazystudent · Answer

That picture describes a person cheating, not moving on. But yeah, that could be fun cause of moving on in some cases. It depends on people, some get into it too quickly, and then realize they don't really want something like that. But if you're doing that, it'll become a cycle. I'd suggest spending some time as friends before in order to avoid this.

Salad982 · Answer

I've only been in two relationships so I don't have much to say about this. But I broke up with my ex-boyfriend because someone new had joined my friend group who I found I enjoyed being around more. So I left my ex, and am now in a happy relationship with the second guy that has lasted longer than the last one

mavric15 · Answer

I believe it's a fear of being alone.
Some say that the best way to get over your ex is to find someone new but I feel that having a break from commitment should help you grow as a person because you should learn from from your past relationship. I don't feel people learn if they are just jump into a new relationship immediately.

Anonymous · Answer

Many people are afraid to be alone.
Many people don't want to look in the mirror and do some personal development & own their issues.
Many people need a new place to stay so they don't end up homeless.
Some people need a new host to latch onto because they are toxic parasites.
But more than anything the jumping from one relation to another so quickly is due to be emotionally immature, & avoiding healing the past.

Skelmir_Nathair · Answer

Fear of being alone. Insecurity. Incompleteness. Using input from others to feed ones own emptiness and ignore ones problems. Kinda like a drug addiction really.

PeanutButterBrother · Answer

Most people do this for one or more of the following reasons: seeking validation, boredom, emotional indifference, sexual congress/conquest, temporary emotional security, temporary financial security. They could just be the type of person who chooses not to work on relationships, or they never see themselves as part of the problem.

Nikunj70 · Answer

There is number of reasons but one of them is now a days relationship is based on our need , expectations, requirement and based on our mood which is not permanent

But in real relationship must have trust, understanding , love , feelings , some what compromising which comes from heart...

renee777 · Answer

“Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else”. Simple it’s a rebound. Lots of people jump from one relationship to another one extremely fast, even from long serious relationship as they have their rebound

flowers70 · Answer

They are either bored, ruin every chance they get with constant demands so it ends, or they fall in love too quickly (what starts quick ends quick), they give too much detail out about themselves in the beginning to where the other person is no longer interested so they move on to the next person (nothing interesting left), indecisive, or player.

Tony1Kanobi · Answer

Scared to be alone. Thay feel Insecure without a relationship. I see it all the time. Some have affairs just to have a relationship ready because they know there current one is failing. I think its normal but maybe not super healthy. Wish you well.

SarahsSummer · Answer

fear of being alone and jumping to the next one help reduce the feelings of rejection from the last. I always think its healthiest to take time between relationships to reestablish what it is you are looking for in a mate.

Hamsteroids · Answer

Some people just can’t stand being alone. They always have to be in a relationship and honestly it’s annoying. You’ll be on social media and go “omg, another one?” And just roll your eyes. Not sure why it is but I have some friends like that. Ugh I could never 😬

Caramalkisses23 · Answer

I think people jump into relationships because they can’t handle the hurt of a breakup. So to cover the pain, they try to go from relationship to relationship. Plus, I think the feeling of being in love- it’s almost like a drug. Ur high. So as soon as the high goes down, all people remember is how it feels to be on cloud 9... to avoid themselves from being hurt or not in love or to not be high, they move on and try to rush into another relationship. Just my opinion.

binginghockey · Answer

Had to deal with this girl for a few days because she was dating my best friend and she was very insecure of me because I was friends with him, I would say insecurity

akiflyer · Answer

Coping mechanism. People think if they start liking someone else or having fun with them they won't think about their ex so much.

rxm_bxl · Answer

Aaahh, the need for human affection always puzzled me.  i've asked a lot of peoole guilty with this and I blame it on insecurities and just low thinking capacities.

GhettoGirl · Answer

With some it's just like getting out of one car and climbing into another. And then it's so constant and serious till it's not. And they claim I'm incapable of sincerity?

Jasonarimatea · Answer

I my humble opinion, I think the best way , is have a very good relationship with someone, who is special and a good friend to be your partner in your life, but with the common agreement that you can meet another people and have another sexual relations. This kind of relationship , I think, would be longer than others, and live that with naturality

roxyn3 · Answer

My cousin does that and it always works out badly. I think she's scared of being alone. So it could be someone who's not used to being single or they enjoy the beginnings of relationships

ImagineSketchy · Answer

Fear of being single. Incapable of being without a loved one.  They could also just move on quickly. They may process things differently than others. It's just who they are at the end of the day.

Chadnelson1973 · Answer

They jump from relationship to relationship quickly either they don't like not being single or they like the thrill of it. I've never been in that situation. I guess to answer that watch a older tv series called three's company staring John Ritter.

menina · Answer

I guess it's because they're afraid of being single. Or sometimes they don't want to be judged because they're single.

stardust101 · Answer

I used to do this. I was searching for love in all the wrong places. Looking back now, I didn’t love myself, but it was because I didn’t know how to.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Usually from experienced people. They’ve been there done that in almost every situation guys in particular. So when a new person makes the same mistakes their past girls have done they know to move on and do it easily till the one who doesn’t do that comes.

Kssal · Answer

Some people don’t know how to be alone. It’s quite side!

DizzyDesii · Answer

I honestly get bored quickly and like to be entertained. I also hate wasting time. And believe it or not, i couldve loved u with all my heart but when u fck up, tthat contract expires. Null and void. My heart starts over and Its on to the next

Andreadeb · Answer

Because they think that they need what they haven't and don't appreciate what they already have The same reason you always need to buy something more.

Teahappy · Answer

The fear of being alone. I haven't done it, I guess it's something I don't fear.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Cause there desperate to be apart of something and as long as they do that their relationships will never work cause their not giving themselves time to heal

Tulips11 · Answer

For ego boost. Breakups have an impact on self esteem. To make themselves feel better that they are desirable.

lightbulb27 · Answer

can't stand being alone, trying to fill a need/void, in ability to process negative emotions. it is possible they were't in the other relationship that much, but consistent pattern is not a good sign.

Blue_brood · Answer

Might not, be open to receive what's in front or reality. When you move on and break all the barriers from within, you get to know who are you actually and then you attract the vibes you feel home with.

JohnAlaska43 · Answer

Either they feel to lonely or they feel that its vest to just jump in a relationship.  Some are in it for sex if they dont get it they move on to the next.

ariadneR · Answer

I dont know how they do it. One dick/vagina to the next  Personally I need time to heal. Before I got into my current relationship, I was single for 4 years.

JKingOff · Answer

Best guess. Probably because they are a bunch of sluts and gigolos.

bruhimboredbruh · Answer

I look for somthing im missing then disapear when im bored-drake

Twalli · Answer

The honeymoon stage is very pleasurable, many people don't realize that relationships don't remain in the honeymoon stage forever. Yet some people love that feeling, so they keep leaving after it's over.

Mixedlove21 · Answer

The fear of being alone... I dislike people like this

Jackieboi · Answer

They have an addiction for going through ppls phones. 🙂

angelospetlis · Answer

The move on quickly, like they supposed to [Case closed]

AWExcalibur · Answer

It's due to the reason of attachment.. if one has a strong reason of staying with one, he won't move to anyone, if the soul purpose is to pass time, it won't last long anyway

Jjpayne · Answer

Because some people lack the patience that a good relationship needs but it can also be trying out a guy until they find a guy they connect with

Sarisalive · Answer

Fear of being alone, believing the myth that “you have to date someone else to get over someone”, etc

realkellzjr · Answer

I would have to say it's different for everyone. Some people do it as revenge and some do it so they can feel love again after a break-up but doesn't always mean they are over the other person.

Quidthonian · Answer

To get a body count high score. They are players. Not for me.

dwgwnr · Answer

I think it's about insecurity.. I know lots of people who just can't be alone.. codependency may be a better term

dewatergirl · Answer

Because they are dependent people and fear being alone.

jmorris86 · Answer

Some people are addicted to that new relationship feeling and when that goes away they move on. They are confusing the butterflies with love

coolbreeze · Answer

They are serial daters and some people it becomes a bad addiction and a drug.

Atrocity · Answer

They can't stand loneliness, it helps them to forget the previous relationship and it is a way if not looking to yourself, where did I go wrong...

Anonymous · Answer

simple:boredom
one of my acquaintances i see every time i get on the bus tells me how she has gotten with a guy and it was basically a different guy every few weeks then i realized that she was that type even though she's nice

CarpetDenim · Answer

Because they’re selfish and impulsive, and they get bored of being with the same person for so long.

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