Do guys ever get trust issues with girls who are too open?

[daydreaming09]

i mean, if a girl is too open to you don't you think she'd be too open to everyone else as well? or y'all don't really think too much about it? like, you think it's normal? and it's okay? ( assuming that the girl is someone you have feelings for ! )

[Lancaster4201]

Being too open can cause trust issues because someone might not be able to trust you to keep a secret when that is required. If you always share things to your friends (especially male friends, especially friends that are attracted to you) that may be against him, they can wedge in the relationship or he may not want certain areas of your relationship to stay private.

Also being open to everyone can make your SO feel like they are being emotionally cheated on if you never go to him.

It is possible. Just communicate with your SO to figure out what works for you two.

[daydreaming09]

ahhh i see. i was worried about that! but i can't help it to be open with almost everyone especially those i'm close to... okies thanks !!

[Lancaster4201]

Your welcome! I am guessing he will find out very quickly that you are an open person. I would discuss it with him once you two are dating for a while. Discuss some ground rules with him, and when you can break those rules. Discuss who you can and cannot talk about stuff with. Make sure you discuss it when you are in a positive point in the relationship that way you don't do something bad during a negative part that might divide you two.

Also yes you want to satisfy him, but don't throw yourself under him completely. Compromise and find the best middle ground possible.

[ROCKS128]

if a girl is too open for me, that all I need from her as trust! I don't see any such girls, even my girlfriend is not open with me!! it's very difficult to comfort/ care her! I sometimes feel that I am the one with defect!

[daydreaming09]

so you're alright with someone who is too open?

[daydreaming09]

but if ever your girlfriend is actually the very open type of girl, would it worry you if it's her personality to be open to almost everyone? meaning, she's not only open to you, she is open to others as well?

so would you still prefer someone who is too open? or it doesn't make much difference whether or not she's just as open to everyone else as you?

[ROCKS128]

I can handle her if she's too open with all!
I treat her as a part of me, so it's very hard when you don't get to know about that part! I am totally open with her, I always ask her a lot of questions & opinions coz she generally answers formally & not really!
if she much open with everyone, I can make her understand & realise how she should be in a good relationship!
though I have not experienced this one but I m confident I can handle her!
being not open is what a very hard thing,

[daydreaming09]

ohhh i see. alright ! thanks !!

[BellePepper]

If a guy is using logic like that, it's a sign he's insecure and you're in a bad relationship

[scottish]

absolutely... ask him if he gets along with his father or mother... that will prove many things..

[daydreaming09]

whyy :o what does it prove?

[scottish]

the way a guy treats his mother. is the way he treats his women. the relationship with his father shows his emotional side. level of confidence, commitment etc.. everything a man holds himself too.

[scottish]

my point is. I dont know the guy. but anyone can lie.

[scottish]

those qualities determine his intent. just be secure and confident. know what u want and dont be vulnerable.

[scottish]

some guys may take that openess as weakness.

[Texasmade1]

Well if she is open to me, then I feel like I can trust her more.

[daydreaming09]

ohhh okie, so you don't really think much about whether she's just really open to everyone? (like, not only to you)

[Texasmade1]

Not really. If she starts to talk about personal problems like on the first date, that might be a red flag because its way too early. Other then that. I wouldn't think much

[daydreaming09]

red flag? how soo

[Texasmade1]

Well it would come off as weird if like on the first date she talks about really personal things when we barely know each other. After a while when we know and are more comfortable with each other, thrn its fine.

[daydreaming09]

really ! oh no... i do that hahahahaha... it's just that for me it's normal to talk about these things?

[blackwolf3x]

girls that are too open are commonly known as what know and think about their popularity reduction as time reveals all your experiences

[daydreaming09]

what do you mean !

[Anonymous]

I just don't trust anyone anymore, doesn't matter who they are or what they do.

[daydreaming09]

why?

[Opinion Owner]

Got fucked over too much all throughout my teenage years.

[daydreaming09]

how so? they betrayed you?

[Opinion Owner]

That and I was played for laughs too much. Everything anyone ever said to me was some set up for a sick joke, or a lie.

[daydreaming09]

oh man :( i would never do such things.

[SadDude37]

What do you mean by open?

[daydreaming09]

talks to you about everything

[SadDude37]

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Integrity is sexy

[daydreaming09]

so you wouldn't think too much about it? like, question yourself whether she's just really open to everyone and not just you?

[SadDude37]

I don't know why it would bother me if she was open with everyone. I'd be more concerned about her if she didn't have other social supports aside from me

[daydreaming09]

okies ! that's good. i hope he thinks the same