After my feelings got hurt a year ago, I can't develop feelings for anyone anymore. I really try to do otherwise, but it just doesn't work. Since then I met a guy and he was so adorable and he really liked me but I had to "break up" (without hurting his feelings because he also didn't develop feelings for me) with him because I wasn't able to feel something for him, thankfully he understood and we stayed friends. Now I've met a guy who wants to be around me on a daily basis and always tries to come near me, but I just can't handle that, I need physical distance, but he can't understand that and I don't want to be rude. Tbh it somehow really pisses me off. He's always asking "Why are you like that?" And the only response I can ever give is "Because that's the arsehole I became." He already knows the story why I'm the person I am now, but he thinks he's different and that I shouldn't be this way around him. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
If you do or don't like a guy... don't TRY to get attached. That's just asking to get hurt if you end up succeeding. Getting attached too quickly doesn't generally end well because once the hormone high wears off you tend to find you're not so compatible and then the relationship often falls apart...
That being said, don't try to force anything in terms of emotion or attachment. If you do find one day that you're able to become attached again that's great, but until then my best advice is be willing to let people love you, and make it clear to them what they're getting themselves in to. For the guy who thinks he's different and therefore you shouldn't treat him the same make it clear that it doesn't matter who it is, the issue your ability to trust and be attached, rather than some problem with him. It's not a matter of "when it's the right person I'll be able to open up to them." Maybe it's something you'll get past one day. If it's not, so be it. I would bet you have friends nearby who care for you whether it's returned or not, which is awesome. They may be few and far between, but there will be those few people who simply love you for you without expecting or needing anything in return. You don't have to love them for it, but perhaps you will one day, and if so, I'll be very happy for you and them :)2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
You have a wall up now and you're afraid of getting hurt again. I understand but the longer you keep it up its going to be impossible for you to find someone who really cares about you. You'll end up missing out on a guy who will really love you and and support you in anything plus you are young, don't let that one person hold you back from loving other people cause all you're doing is giving that person power over you life. They've moved on and probably don't even remember or care about what happened a year ago anymore and so should you. As for the guy, you could either give him a chance or if your truly not interested in him just say you don't want to go anything with him but don't mind being friends. But for guys in the future that you will like, don't constantly push them away out of fear.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE