Would you date someone who was a sugar baby?

[Anonymous]

[Lilyanony]

I was a sugar baby/mistress without even realising. I bet this guy through a site (not dating site) and he was the nicest man I've ever spoken to. He opened up about a lot of things that was going on in his life. Eventually we met it was only meant to be a casual thing as I was nervous about the age difference. I don't want to say everything was smooth sailing but he would pay for sometimes if i was going out he'd give me money for a cab home, he'd give me money to cover the cost of my outfit. I never asked. He would send me flowers out of the blue. But things started to get heated when he claimed I was ashamed of him but when I tried to include him in more of my life he would flake on me. I then realised he was lying about his private life. I did my investigation and it turned out although he and his partner hadn't slept together for 5 + years they were very much still a couple. I was devastated as was she. They have now split for good and I've not spoken to him for over 8 months.
I'm not cut out for all of that as my heart was badly broken. It was so hard to catch him out we spent like 4days a week together him staying at mine me at his. Sometimes in hotels if we went out for the night.
(She travelled with work) 😢

[Humbledman74006]

Sweetie that's not a sugar baby, that's a cheater

[Lilyanony]

@Humbledman74006 sugar baby would be the girl. Meaning the guys a sugar daddy.
And I agree, after talking to her yes she assumes they were going through a dry spell (after 5 years of not having sex and sleeping in separate rooms)
And I wasn't the first one.

[Humbledman74006]

The Sugar Baby is an individual seeking mentorship, financial support, or general companionship under the terms of an agreed-upon arrangement.

[Lilyanony]

@Humbledman74006 and we would have had that if she wasn't apart of the equation.
He very quickly became very important and significant figure in my life. As stated it was meant to be casual as we already developed a friendship. Everything he told me was true except for the common law wife...

[Humbledman74006]

Ahh I miss understood

[Monikin]

Only if there was some attraction besides the money. Money can't buy love and I can't be bought.
I have been in this situation a couple times. One of them only wanted to take me out on dates, he was persistent, he enjoyed spoiling me. He loved it when I dressed up to look good and be at his side. Just because men have money doesn't mean they don't need some sort of companionship. They make this money and insist on enjoying it with someone. Anyway I did kiss him, I did ask him if I could be his girlfriend, take it to the next level but he said I was too young. I was 22 at the time. Then when I was 25, he decided I ripened into marriage material and he wanted to give us a proper go, but I turned him down for a regular guy.

[Monikin]

lol I read it as "sugar daddy" I guess sugar baby would be the one who is mooching. In that case, no. But I don't make enough money to be a sugar mama.

[pingiluv]

lol I'm 33, I think there's a small chance of me finding a guy who's a sugar baby and willing to date me

[krrish007]

Hi can we chat

[Anonymous]

Heck no. I can't compete with suga mama

[Asker]

Lol. I remember her😂

[Opinion Owner]

That's the first thing i thought of. But otherwise I'm broke.

[Opinion Owner]

Yay i got mho

[Margillard]

Men aren't marrying now anyways, what diffence does it make?
70% of people 20-35 are single. 90% of marriages fail in some demographics. 70% of women initiate divorces and are repeat offenders, fleecing each victim like legions of black widow spiders, financially and emotionally killing their mates. Men are finally catching on, Mgtow is spreading like wildfire.
Like the Fox and the Grape fable... The Grapes Are Sour Anyways!
www.foxnews.com/.../why-men-wont-marry.html

[OlderAndWiser]

If a girl was content with dating an older guy and having sex in exchange for getting money from him, that means that she is a prostitute who specialized in rich married men. If she lacks respect for herself and she lacks respect for the sanctity of marriage, why would I consider her to be a good candidate for a long tern relationship with me?

[Asker]

sometimes people do things to help them through a difficult time.

[OlderAndWiser]

Are we talking about you and extenuating circumstances?

I have previously dated a girl who I learned had previously been a prostitute. PM me if you want to continue the discussion.

[Dreamweaver671]

So you never had sex with your wife nor gave her your money to buy her cloths, jewelry, a house, car, etc? Etc? According to your definition; your wife is a prostitute who specializes marring men.

[Dreamweaver671]

Answer to question. Yes I would date any woman who is a soul match and or we enjoy each others company. Her past is only concerning if she keeps it a secret or lies about it. Otherwise love can lift even the hardest of rocks. And 'Yesterday's history and Tomorrow is a mystery.' If you are not in the here and now then you're not alive.

[Stamps]

@Dreamweaver671
Difference: his wife is in love with him and is married/in a relationship with him because of that. Yes, women will also care about your finances, but the main reason is being attracted to you. Sugar babys are LITERALLY people who are paid to be in the relationship, thus ONLY caring about the money.

[HGG3805]

@Stamps you obviously have not been in a Sugar relationship. People are people. We all need to find a way to survive in this life. Some ladies offer friendship and companionship in return for financial support. Some people get married to have the same thing. Would you date a divorced woman? Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

[Stamps]

@HGG3805
I'm not blaming sugar babys though. I'm only explaining the difference between sugar babys and women who really are in love with the man they are in a relationship with. Unless you can prove otherwise.

[HGG3805]

@Stamps that is one of the dangers of a Sugar Relationship. It is difficult not to fall in love with someone you spend time with and enjoy being with especially if you are having sex with her or him. Complicates things a bit.

[OlderAndWiser]

@HGG3805 @Stamps I just got back online. The storm has passed and we are safe. The question is 1) whether the girl would continue the relationship if the guy did not/could not give her money, and 2) is the guy married?

I have dated a former prostitute, so I really don't need any lectures on things not being black and white. The question is how recent that activity occurred and whether it is a reflection of her current beliefs and practices.

[Dreamweaver671]

In love with him or his material wealth? Just wait until he has a crises, losses his job, or someone better comes alone. Otherwise there wouldn't be divorce and money wouldn't be the measure tape in court.

[goodstaka]

Someone give this man a medal. Seriously. 👍

[MileyHouey]

I don't think that it is some kind of evil or something like that... I have been in such relationships too when I used the sugar dating services from
for example. It was very fun and good to feel the support of a man who really cared about it.

[Logorithim]

Depends on what she would want out of the relationship with me.

[HGG3805]

So what it the problem with dating someone that had sex for money? Sugar babies are not prostitutes, ask one. I actually have a good friend that was/is a prostitute. I adore her. Life is what happens to us while we make our plans and try to survive. Cut people slack. We all do things that others may not approve of.
Besides prostitution should a legal way to make a living. Why do we feel that it should be illegal? Because...

Right, like Dreamweaver said, it is all a matter of definition. Ever taken a lady to dinner and a movie and then had sex with her. Oh, that is different? Errol Flynn once said when asked if it was true if he paid women for sex, "no, I pay them to go home."

[WalterRadio]

If that is the question, then there might be a misconception about what a SB actually is.

Some people butcher the meaning, but traditionally, a SB is a mistress. The man is usually married and the couple have genuine affection for each other and sometimes love each other. He is a boyfriend who doesn't mind financially supporting her (sort of like what husbands often do for their wives).

The SB/SD couples I know are very happy together, and yes, the men are married, over 40, and the women are under 30. If they are happy, it isn't anyone else's business.

[OlderAndWiser]

Wrong. It is the business of the wives who are getting cheated on and the business of the children in those families that are at risk of breaking up.

[WalterRadio]

@OlderAndWiser
For the SB/SD I know, the existence of the mistress is why the marriage still exists.

[Claire2017]

A sugar baby is someone who enters the relationship (initially) purely for the monetary benefit. To me that pushes it from mistress to prostitute

[OlderAndWiser]

So that means it is not the business of the wife or kids?

[WalterRadio]

@Claire2017
That isn't true. There are prostitutes who abuse the term, but the real SB/SD couples I know truly like each other. They have to try not to fall in love. It just happens the girl has a boyfriend with spare money. It is no different than a husband that makes more than his wife. It is most certainly not "purely" for monetary reasons.

[WalterRadio]

@OlderAndWiser
Some wives know about it, and it isn't the business of their kids.

[OlderAndWiser]

This sounds like the kind of justifications, excuses, and denials that come from someone who does not think it is important to be faithful to a spouse. No sale!

[WalterRadio]

@OlderAndWiser
"faithful to a spouse"
That is a two-way street. If a wife isn't interested in sex, isn't keeping herself fit, or any number of other issues, then the guy with the girlfriend isn't the only one being unfaithful.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are using a funny definition of unfaithful. If you have a wife who refuses to have sex, try to resolve the problem and, if you can't, divorce her. Cheaters and liars always have a justification.

[WalterRadio]

@OlderAndWiser
Why divorce someone when everything is just fine except for the sex? They cherish what they have. It doesn't mean they aren't missing something.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you don't know why it is wrong - at your age - you'll just argue and disagree with everything that I might say. I feel sorry for your wife, and for your children if you have any.

[WalterRadio]

@OlderAndWiser
You sound like someone who has a great match in life.

Not everyone is so lucky.

[OlderAndWiser]

Then keep looking!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not.

I spoke to an old acquaintance a while back who was dealing with having fallen for a sugarbaby who liked him back apparently and who had an arrangement to be exclusive with some older rich guy. Really pondering sugarbabies made me very upset on it's own, but hearing the distress coming from this guy I used to know was too much. The whole things makes me so upset to the point of physical illness and revulsion.

I don't think it should be illegal, you can do it if you want but I feel like it's essentially selling your soul. You're burning the bridges to the hearts of all good men, who will now want nothing to do with you. Unless I'm some sort of special exception, I think most guys will find it totally gross and be supremely turned off.

[Asker]

do you think all men who want sugar babies are bad by default?

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all. I didn't even say the one in the story I referenced was bad.

[Asker]

"You're burning the bridges to the hearts of all good men, who will now want nothing to do with you"

to me, that implied you thought people who engaged in this kind of relationship were inherently bad.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not exactly "bad," more specifically it's gross, that and the burning bridges thing is mostly referring to the girls, not everyone. To me the 'daddies' seem to be the same as the 20yo guy who fell for the sugarbaby only they're twenty or thirty years further down the road and have become successful and wealthy.

[Mexicoman101]

No I don't like women who view sex as like a transactional thing they can use to extract resources from men with. I would like that to become an outdated use & interpretation of sex. Like, I understand sometimes women have no money & perhaps few means of getting that, but a vast majority of these women signing up for like 'Sugardaddies. com' are hoes & a bad emotional investment to make in your lovelife. I don't even think I would be a sugar daddy if I was able to put myself in that situation. Its not like, impressive to get a girl who a much older mans wealth could get as well. Maybe its mean, & I get that people make mistakes, but past a certain degree of that shit I just can't deal.

[10dsw]

Uhhmm no?

It shows me that she formerly had the psychological mindset that "I can get anything with my vagina!" which is a terrible foundation for any relationship.

Of course 95% of guys who think only with their penis (and not logic) will still date a former sugar baby sadly.

[smackable]

I was actually gonna comment that I don't see why not, but that's totally why. She'd just cheat or something for red bottoms. Good point.

[10dsw]

@smackable I just know a lot of guys that are in bad relationships and it amazes me because there were so many signs early on... it amazes me how many guys can't think in the long term. The same could be set for girls too

[smackable]

Seriously you just spotted that one out quick lol. Nice. Even if she doesn't want or expect that, the second a guy offers she's probably gonna entertain it. At least a little.

[10dsw]

@smackable And hey! I don't blame her. It's human psychology. If I was a chick and guys were offering me free stuff for nothing, I'd be entertaining myself a little too lol. But in the context of dating a chick like that, no thanks =P

[smackable]

You sir, are pretty fucking pragmatic.

[10dsw]

@smackable Haha thanks :)

[Astoriana]

I really really doubt it.

Firstly, I have never been attracted to younger men. I feel like I'm babysitting, and that just feels gross.

Secondly, I don't find leeching someone else's money attractive. Like, where is your ambition? Is that all you want out of life? Why should I pay you to be around me, when all you want to do is spend my money and use me?

In short, do what you gotta do, just not with me.

[Cmasterson]

I could only imagine not a lot of men would be comfortable with their girlfriend exchanging sex or favours for money- the only men I saw that are comfortable with it are basically low lives, who can't support themselves who need their girlfriend to support them both.

[aicarg]

Nope, no thanks, I have no desire in ever being a sugar mama... I prefer a man who can help provide a good and stable lifestyle alongside with me to enjoy life together, rather than having to baby and provide him with the materialistic desires of his heart which I oh so generously give to him.

[TripleAce]

Nope lol... defiantly not, I don't even like paying for dates sometimes if I notice poor connection between us hahaha

Too many amazing girls out there that are real... and want something real... there is no need to subject yourself to dating a so called 'sugar baby' lol

meh...

[gGreat]

No change. Degradation in quality of relationships is one way street. So someone who has fallen to exchanging money for sex can't experience relationships is same light anymore. To be fair, I think even girls should avoid dating guys who pay money for sex regularly.

[RegularTK421]

As long as you don't marry them. Many women use men, obviously they are not going to be straight up about it. They pretend to be nice girls, and loving girlfriends or wives. Divorce is where most men get fucked over, if you don't marry, your good. Keep separate bank accounts, and control your money and your property. It's really that simple.

[jansoka]

Depends on the context but a Girl who is: 1. Sleeping with old Guys who could be her dad
2. Proably looking For Money in a relationship (Or if she does Not and she Just Likes old Guys she is even More creepy) should have been in a very Special Situation to be a candidate For me

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I could see myself being a sugar daddy to right girl. We all pay for it one way or another. If I could have all the positives of a hot young woman's companionship and the only negative was paying some of her bills? No nagging? No questions about where I go and what I do?

Yeah, I'd probably be down for it. But she better have the skills to pay the bills.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Sugar Baby - A young female or male who is financially pampered/cared for by a sugar daddy or sugar mama in exchange for companionship.
I would never date someone who does not want to be with me for me.

[jackmoore]

You could probably make more money by becoming a cam girl. A sugar baby is basically a prostitute if she has no plans to marry her sugar daddy. A sugar daddy is a disposable piggy bank. I wouldn't want to be someone's piggy bank.

[Anonymous]

Guys say no but the problem is how would they ever know? No girl is going to come up and say she was a sugar babe
She can lie right? If she tells you the truth then forget her past she is a keeper she is honest...

[Dreamweaver671]

Why not. I've dated strippers, prostitutes, cashiers, secetraries, business owners, and Church chior singers. They were all beautiful women and wonderful lovers. More importantly they were human beings. Their source of income was not the issue. Lawyers, Bankers and Government officials are bigger whores and thiefs. "If you want to get fucked.. go to court. If you want justice, go to a whore house." My 3rd year law professor.

[Richareens]

So she will claim all my money when I'm laying in the fucking death bed? And celebrate my funeral? No thanks.

[normalice]

I mean, I don't have any 'sugar,' so I assume she's getting it from someone else. Which means the thing she is getting from me must be the sex. I'd be content with that, yeah.

[ATuairiscean]

No way - Even if I was rich, just to be perceived as a walking wallet would feel demeaning - She would have to see other things in me.