I don't want to live with my boyfriend anymore. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has only been living with me for almost four weeks and I'm already getting tired of him. He is the most lazy and selfish man I have ever known. Before he moved in with me in my apartment I was already going through some issues. I've been unemployed over three months now and have been on a lot of job interviews struggling to find work. I've gone through temp agencies to keep money in my pocket but it wasn't much I haven't been able to pay rent in two months. I am literally living in absolute poverty and can barely afford to get basic needs like food and personal hygiene items. I am not getting any assistance at all. I go to food pantries which helps. Having my boyfriend around was great at first but now I feel like he is distracting me and find it hard to really focus on my goals and what I need to do when he's around. Everyday I wake up early in the morning and take a shower/bath and go out and try to be productive and it irritating when I just see him laying around all day every singme day not washing up for almost three days with slob hanging down the side of his mouth. I literally have to drag him and make him get out of bed. He does not contribute at all and all of the money I had left is now gone due to me paying for ALL our dates and dinner and it's like he expects it. I am literally out of money and he has been asking for money almost everyday. Keep in mind his grandmother gave him 500.00 and on top of that he gets almost 500.00 in SSI, he gets cash assistance and food stamps. The majority of his money went to himself. He got himself and xbox and video games and another load of stuff while we were out of toilet tissue, dish washing liquid and toothpaste. He does not pay rent because I told him he didn't have to but I expected him to at least help with something since he uses the majority of it. He helps out with food and groceries but eats up all of it all to himself in two days and I was literally starving trying to feed this guy.

[OmbreHues]

I seen people on this post saying get a new boyfriend and break up it with him. If you know he don't have a job then that's part of the issue too, plus you said you was going through issues. That's a big deal and he should not be there. Also, it seems like you didn't sat down and actually talk to him about what he should contribute to the house. Now if it was a roommate you'll probably want more but since his label is a boyfriend it's like he can do anything he want. it seems like he's not looking for a job either and that you're doing all the work. You should put your foot down and tell him he needs to do things around the house. You have to be truly ready to take that step for someone to live with you. It's sad that you have to pay for all the dates and dinners especially if his grandma gives him money and an SSI check isn't anything he should stop least give you $300 out of that. That's pretty selfish of him to eat all the food up, for all that y'all may as well get your own groceries. Overall, I feel like you should have a serious talk with him and if he don't agree to anything and don't change , he has to move out.. or go somewhere because it seems like you can't take it anymore.

[Megpie1987]

Next time he goes out change the locks. Sell his x-box as "back payments" and leave the rest of his shit in bags on the lawn. You can always find a roommate to share expenses.

by the way you should never tell anyone boyfriend or not when they move in that they don't have to help pay rent, utilities, etc. If people learn to expect something for nothing they are never going to change.

[IDKwhoim]

since u are living together he should be helping u with the rent and he is ur boyfriend probably the worst one, he should understand situation , just leave him god this triggered me so much I would punch him so hard and also didn't you tell him about the things u r running out of in the house? if u did he must be an assholes to ignore that he is using u

[Asker]

Yes, and especially the toilet tissue he used the majority of that. It been two weeks and he has not made any effort to try and replace it he waited on me to do it

[osgrr]

So you asked him to buy toilet paper and he still didn't?

[Asker]

Nope he didn't. And on top of that he already spent all his money then asked me for money haha

[osgrr]

He seems to be oblivious to your financial situation. Sit him down and explain your finances and that both of you need to setup a budget together

[osgrr]

You have to talk to him like you would any other roommate. Explain to him that you thought you would have a job sooner but since you don't you need him to contribute more.

[Sparkzs]

Break up with him immediately. The longer you wait the more stuck with him you'll be, and the worse it'll get.

[DaManTj]

If you don't wanna kick him out, tell him to buck up, then if he still ain't contributing, looking for work and paying for dates, just move on

[imRob]

Just break up ! If you already decided it then do it ! Leave him !

[F_ckBoyKen]

Shit on his carpet that should do it

[aestheticsofty]

Why do you keep getting new accounts?

[F_ckBoyKen]

people keep reporting my posts I guess im an asshole lol

[BADBOY22]

Than leave him. Who stoping you?

[Asker]

Because he moved in with me. I don't think he has where else to go. His grandmother doesn't want him to move back in with her.

[BADBOY22]

Beautiful babe Ur Happiness matters more than anything... wow after all this u still thinking about Ur boyfriend. Wow Ur boyfriend is lucky to have u.

[vinnu1988]

U should search a new boyfriend

[bonezrx7]

Move out