My partner and I have been together for 7 years.
End of last year he had to unexpectedly move towns for his job. I was able to transfer within my company and also moved to the new town. We moved in with his family in their house. It was my understanding that it was a short term solution.
I had been wanting us to find an apartment closer to our work as we currently spend 3 hours a day travelling. I am going back to uni for part time study soon (while working full time) and also wanted to move closer to enable more hours in the day to study at home.
However he was been working on starting a business for a year. He has been getting legal advice around leaving his job. He said ideally he would leave his job tomorrow if he could and just continue living with his family while he works on his business before moving overseas. He said he does not want to get tied down with rent expenses and have to continue working.
I never imagined living with his family as we are fully grown adults. I want to support his goals but I moved towns for him and I feel like he is not considering my needs. He has also said that he does not think I should go back to university since he does not think it is for me (and said his mum would freak out if she knew about it) but will support me anyway..
We have had a lot of ups and downs over the years. Every time I try to advance myself, e. g. apply for a good job in another town he has protested that I'm not smart enough for it. It really hurt me and he has said he will try to be less harsh but I am still disillusioned and have a lot of doubts.
Any advice is much appreciated.
End of last year he had to unexpectedly move towns for his job. I was able to transfer within my company and also moved to the new town. We moved in with his family in their house. It was my understanding that it was a short term solution.
I had been wanting us to find an apartment closer to our work as we currently spend 3 hours a day travelling. I am going back to uni for part time study soon (while working full time) and also wanted to move closer to enable more hours in the day to study at home.
However he was been working on starting a business for a year. He has been getting legal advice around leaving his job. He said ideally he would leave his job tomorrow if he could and just continue living with his family while he works on his business before moving overseas. He said he does not want to get tied down with rent expenses and have to continue working.
I never imagined living with his family as we are fully grown adults. I want to support his goals but I moved towns for him and I feel like he is not considering my needs. He has also said that he does not think I should go back to university since he does not think it is for me (and said his mum would freak out if she knew about it) but will support me anyway..
We have had a lot of ups and downs over the years. Every time I try to advance myself, e. g. apply for a good job in another town he has protested that I'm not smart enough for it. It really hurt me and he has said he will try to be less harsh but I am still disillusioned and have a lot of doubts.
Any advice is much appreciated.
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