Answering the question "why" may be temporarily satisfying to you but, ultimately, it does not help you to resolve the problem because he does not want to resolve the problem.
Getting into a relationship and thinking that you can, or should, fix your partner's "flaws" is a HUGE mistake. If they DO think they have a flaw, they don't need to fix it for them; then can do that themselves. If they DON'T think the matter is a flaw, then they have absolutely no motivation to fix it.
You choices, quite bluntly, are to accept him exactly as he is now - flaws and all - or to leave and start looking for someone else. You already have time and feelings invested and leaving is not an attractive option. . . but the other options are to live like this the rest of your life, or to invest (waste) even more time before you leave him.
Leaving someone you love is much more difficult than leaving someone you hate because they cheated, or because they are alcoholic, or whatever. I know. Been there and done that. I loved her but she didn't love me; she just liked having me as her boyfriend and, when it was convenient, she was a good girlfriend in return. I left because I knew I deserved more than that. That happened four years ago and I don't regret it.
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you're struggling because its hard for you to respect his boundaries. We usually feel anxiety for situations we have no control over. Be your best self and be the sense of peace a man can't find anywhere else. He will beg you to move in, i know i would. Especially if you can cook, clean, and agree to disagree.
Even though you seem to think that everything is fine with your relation, the truth is that it is not.
The fact that he claims that you are suffocating him being with him for 3 consecutive days indicates that he is not ready to move in together with you. He is a bachelor, a single person and does not want to give up his comfort, to share time with you over a longer period of time and sees you more of an annoyance that disrupts his daily routine.
It would be a mistake to move in together as clearly, he is not willing to make the necessary adjustments that are required.
I see it that he is comfortable with you for a few hours but he needs his privacy. How convenient is it for you to give in all the time so he can feel comfortable and not stressed. This is not going to work on the long run and you will be the one wanting to leave if his behavior does not change.
ehhhhhhhh? i mean if he says he wans to "stay alone all life" trust him on that, there's no hidden meaning to that but whattt
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Sound like you want different things from a relationship.
Do you ever want kids? Cause I doubt he does. He doesn't seem to want any responsibility in that way. You need to know what you want from life and have a very frank discussion. Seems you maybe wasting your timeSo here is the thing if this is somthing he won't change on which it seems he won't if he already needed a relationship because off this before u have to decide if u can be happy in that dynamic or not
i'm going to assume your first boyfriend was in your teens, or beginning of your 20s
Prob cuz he’s dating others
Either you move at his speed or dump him.
Then?
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