He's 40... I'm 19?

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I'm so painfully infatuated it almost hurts

Older guys, private message me your opinions and thoughts thanks 😔

simonqq · Accepted Answer

I generally say age doesn't matter but sadly sometimes it does. He is in a different phase in his life than you. Either he wants someone to sleep with or he will seek a permanent relationship. You would not be a good solution for the second part because of the different stages you are at. Even if you are together for a long time at some point you will want a baby and he is too old for it. Also in our age things are not very stable, we study, find new friends, move around and go from one work to another. He is already settled for the most part.

I understand how you feel and it's difficult to listen to what people say about this now. You can do what you want but I just think you will be hurt in one way or another. It's going to hurt less now than if you get deep into it then it will hurt like hell.

Ayer93 · Accepted Answer

The guy is old enough to be your dad's classmate growing up. Does that not strike you as weird? He'll be dead around the same time your parents are. There's a rule I follow to the tee called the "half your age plus seven" rule and that gives you a good standard to follow of what is socially acceptable. The youngest he should be dating is 27 by that equation which sounds about right to me. You fall way out of that equation. The oldest you should be dating is a 24 year old by the rule. Now don't get me wrong. You're free to do whatever you want, but the thought of a 19 and 40 year old just makes me cringe.

BigRayFromNC · Answer

No need to private message you on this as clearly there is a huge age difference here and make sure you can handle a man who is 21 years older than you are in every single way. What's the matter he can not find a woman of his own age? Best of luck to you with this...

Anonymous · Answer

Ok so I am older. But the age gap doesn't worry me as much as the maturity gap. 40 year old men have a lot more serious requirements compared to 19 year old boys. Anybody needs to think real hard about this. It's an infatuation. This sounds like hurt. He may just on you as one of the little friends of his daughter. He probably has no interest in you. See if he still does it for you in 2 years.

TripleAce · Answer

You know like how guys are creepy for making moves on girls... well this is the equivalent I think you have issues you need to deal with - and I say that in the nicest way possible

thomascale18 · Answer

Yeah, thats a big age gap. You may think its ok now but when he's 60 and you're 40 you'll think differently.

serious · Answer

There is a big age gap yes. You said it's infatuation, so it will eventually go away.

matheus_mb · Answer

Do you want it? Do you like it? Go for it and let people who oppose it talk alone. It's your life, nobody has nothing to do with it.

thiagotf · Answer

Run away. Sorry. He is probably married and even if he is not... it still seams me like a bad relationship. Sorry again :/

AynonOMouse · Answer

If he doesn't have kids yet, he will probably want some in the near future. Are you ready for that? And to either work or go to college locally to have a family life?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If you both care and love each other that's all matters.  No one can message you to your level 2 on here.

Names93 · Answer

Gross is my opinion, but if you wanna do it go do it..

Decentguy · Answer

He just wants to bang you and nothing else. dont trust me? then go ahead, and you will regret it a lot in the future

Groisu · Answer

Age is just a number till it gets weird  Is it weird for you?

fredrick_27 · Answer

You said it almost hurt so you don't fully got hurt?, what is he doing?

teacher_Ed · Answer

C'mon, don't listen these youngsters, they are just jealous. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing. Wish you both luck

Sabretooth · Answer

it's not gonna work out for you

Anonymous · Answer

It also says you're beyonce, so, fuck that

Toad-1 · Answer

Nice bait

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