How long should I wait to be asked on a second date? (Page 2)

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I went on a date with a guy a few nights ago and it went really well. We ended up staying in the bar for 7 hours, the chat was great and I felt like he was really keen. When we said goodnight he told me he wanted to see me again and took my number (we were previously talking on tinder). He text me the next day all day, and all of today. The texts have been really good, lots of questions and flirting but no mention of a second date. In my experience, when a guy is interested, he locks down a second date before the first is over, or within the first few text messages. So is hope lost, or should I carry on the chit chat?

NickoN · Answer

all depends who is the guy you're dating. I'd ask my girl immediately when does she want to go out again, if weekend is ok.
and judging by your story he is doing fine, maybe you should ask him if he has time to go out again?

GeneticX · Answer

If you like him and want to go out with him more just ask him

bopeep0388 · Answer

Don't wait. If they don't ask again move on. And if they do you dont owe them any commitment to go on it.

rita_rittta · Answer

Dont think on him... just make your self busy, it's make you more attractive dont wait for him

Kiki98 · Answer

He either lost interest, or he doesn't want to seem too eager so he's making you wait

Dee12 · Answer

I would say wait a couple days, all guys work their mysterious dating ways.. haha

timmy111 · Answer

He's just going at his own pace, don't over think it

bilal_k · Answer

YOU SHOULD CARRY ON. AND HE WILL definitely GONNA ASK YOU :)

QueenofCups · Answer

Carry on the chit chat. Just be patient. He'll ask eventually.

th3raz0r · Answer

If you are so concerned, why don't you ask him about it?

baddiebunny · Answer

He should have asked you after the first date right away..

jamaletje · Answer

Why should you wait to be asked, just ask yourself it is the 21st century after all.

Dutchlad · Answer

Why don't you just ask him? Trust me he is not gonna get mad at you :)

dandiecandie · Answer

You shouldn't. If he didn't already say fuck off and move on. Simple.

Joseph86 · Answer

doesn't seem to know how to "lock olit down". Get off your butt and take the initiative.

xmasterx · Answer

Since you say that he’s still chatting and flirting then he’s interested : )  Maybe he’s just not ready for a 2nd date , being busy or so..

nutting · Answer

The guy I went out with asked me after our date lol. Just do it girl, you got nothing to lose :) Just say "hey wanna go here this Tuesday with me?" Or something along these lines

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

You could bring something up the next time you get into texting him and take things from there.

dansgotswagg · Answer

I don't know, whenever she says "my parents aren't home.

DGthemanwhocan · Answer

Never play games. Love is the only energy in the Universe that cannot be compared to anything else!

Big_Tasty · Answer

Just ask him. Be like "hey, so I was wondering if we could ever go on another date."

Anonymous · Answer

Within a week or two. Depends on the schedules that you both have and how flexible you are towards each other.

hornymike6969 · Answer

just ask him hey you wanna catch a movie tomorrow night

msg812 · Answer

i don't know how long you should wait but i know how long you shouldn't wait. you shouldn't wait till the rest of your life.

Matt-G · Answer

You shud ask him for the 2nd to show you loved the 1st. Just grow a pair of tits lol x

sthudig · Answer

You're right, something is off. I've never been on a date and interested and not brought up 'next time'.

RastaMahn · Answer

That depends. Did you give him the customary first date BJ? Or have full sex with him? My rule is that if I don't get at least a BJ on the first date, there won't be a second one.

Crazygeckolady22 · Answer

its 2017 he may just be a wallflower looking for you to reach out to him. People who use dating apps tend to be a bit more shy than your average dude who asks you for your number in a public setting.

Anonymous · Answer

Carry on the chit chat, maybe bring it up?  If it was me, I'd be a bit nervous to ask a girl out again right away...

deanlarouche · Answer

If he doesn't ask you then it is ok for you to ask him  But make sure he isn't playing you

Darkwolf21 · Answer

I suggest you wait for a week or so, and ig nothing happens, then leave it be.

worldscolide · Answer

How bout you do something uncharacteristic. Ask him out..

mcraylee · Answer

You don't have to wait for a second date. When you feel its right to go just go.

Longshanks68 · Answer

He clearly likes you, don’t over analyze it, ask him to go on second date, if that’s what you want.

dontBshy · Answer

One day , to see when the next date will be , a good date brings the thirst for the second. 😁

WhereAmI · Answer

2 weeks if he's busy. He may have asked enough questions to know he isn't further interested though.

BeHappy1985 · Answer

Nooo, you should stop talking to him instantly, ignore all his texts, and become a lonely cat lady.. #myworkhereisdone

DNB1994 · Answer

If I felt good about how it went , I Make a phone call 48 hours later. DO NOT text.  I always do that and it works.

utterlyconfusedlol · Answer

just wait hell get around to it probably within the next few days. if not you may have to make the first... or i guess second move

Anonymous · Answer

I don't understand why women feel like they have to helplessly wait for a guy to ask them out. Just call him and ask him out!

dissolveme · Answer

Maybe he's waiting for you to ask him? Sometimes I wait to see if the girl asks for a second a date just to see if they're really interested and most times it works. Ask him!

samjjBAGUVIX · Answer

If I'm that guy it's always because I can't find a spot where Í am availeble, so then I don't dare to ask. But please ask him! Why not, i mean we have to break gender roles somehow right?

ThisManHung · Answer

Are you two still talking? If so maybe he busy. You never know

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

He is still showing interest. Slow down and wait or ask him on a second date

craigerang · Answer

Usually 3ish days but sometimes work schedules make it tricky so u have to wait until the weekend again

Anonymous · Answer

If you want a second date then ask him. I don’t think you have any business expecting efforts from others that you wouldn’t go to yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Ask him yourself! Listen, guys love it when a girl asks them out. I'm a guy and I think it's a huge turn on.

scooogy · Answer

You should wait to be asked until he's asking you. Simple as that.

viju123 · Answer

u can wait or call him directly... as u may happy to meet him shortly

helbigarthur · Answer

I say 2 to 5 days if you like him ask him out guys love to be asked out it hardly ever happens.

doug1582 · Answer

It varies. I'd say maybe start on like a Friday and maybe go out the next night yins both are open

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

After a week if he doesn't call or message you cut him loose.

hecan · Answer

Ask him if you're interested. Don't wait for him to do all the job in the relationship, he may not have seen enough of you yet

Linklebot · Answer

It depends on their schedule, if they can't make time to be free, they're not going to bring it up.  I'd say at least a week.

mr_lonely_70 · Answer

Move on you met him on Tinder e-club still on Tinder so he might not have time for another date with you

Danael31 · Answer

Depends on your will, if he still talk to you, then he's still interested lol

Anonymous · Answer

why not ask him if he wants to go on another one? :)

Anonymous · Answer

Exactly what do you have to lose by being nice to him?

thompers · Answer

Maybe he just want to know you, and are in the same situation like you. So ask him?

voydhhhhhhh · Answer

Carry on. If he were not interested he wouldn't keep in chatting.

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