Thats so limiting to think that all men are going to lock it in by end of night. I keep my thoughts simple.. here are my guides
1. I text/call whenever i feel like. If a guy us interested then itll be cool, if a guy isn't, doesn't matter he wasn't interested after the date.
2. I put effort in asking the guy out after the first date/hang out. If he likes me he'll put in effort too, if he doesn't, nothing i said or did matters. Its a two way street. Of course, do it in a way thats not too agressive or to unsure. Just be casual about it. there's no need to get overly sentimental about every single minute detail. Takes the fun out of it.. let your heart out. (Not you specifically )
3. Ill have sex with the guy once i feel a bond. Not limiting to some nonsensical time frame to avoid looking like its too much.
Bottom line, live boldly, give freely, express yourself in your actions, needs etc. Be your own co creator. If you like him go ask him out. Worried about being needy or not having a life or too easy? Depends on the guy, if he likes you just for sex, none of this matters
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It depends on who initiated the first date.
If he asked you out the first time, and it went well, he probably thinks you're aware that he likes you. He might be respecting your boundaries and allowing you to make the second move seeing as he has already made the first.
I'd ask an open-ended 'are you free this weekend', and if he says no then leave it be. He'll offer up another date if he's interested, if not no need to pursue. Seeing as you're making the second move and not the first, as far as I am aware, it's totally socially acceptable to ask.
Hopes not lost as he's still talking. He might not know when he'll be free yet or he might be playing the dating game which I've always thought was stupid. I read this book called The Rules and it explained things like wait 2 days to call the person etc... I think it's better just to do what feels right. If you are really into someone then say so. I think if you don't talk to the person they will think you lost interest. My advice would be to ask him.
8 hours is a very long first date if you’re just talking. He should have made follow up plans by now... I remember I had an 8 hour date and halfway through I got bored, but didn’t want to show it since I didn’t want to be rude. It felt like I had wasted an entire day
Well you could take the high road and just ask him out, it works more often than you may think. I know I've spent way to much time trying to plan out a perfect date and more often than not just given up. On the other hand if you want to be mildly devious (always fun😈) find something that is very accessible cheap and fun, find out sometime he will be available and a couple days before drop an "Oh I really wanted to do this but my friend all Bailed and I don't want to go alone, so dissapointed" if he is interested he will jump on it immediately. Best part is it's not that dishonest it's just pointing him where he needs to go a little.
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Some guys buy into this dating game of not letting a girl know how much you like her and waiting a few days just to keep her from getting over-confident about you or thinking that you are desperate. If I go out with a girl and it's a great first date, at the end of the date, I will say "I hope I can see you again," and if she says, "yes," then I say, "I'll call you within a few days to set up our next date. And then we both go home knowing exactly where we stand with each other.
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Rather than waiting for him to get around to it, take the initiative and suggest something, e. g., "why don't we talk about this on Thursday at Bar XYZ?"). I'd have thought that he would have asked you on a second date by now, but he clearly likes you, so feel free to suggest something to him.
You should wait and see if he will message you again. If he doesn't forget about him, lots of fish in the sea ;). Have self confidence and love yourself, don't care about if the guy doesn't't want to see you again, it's not the end of the world. He doesn't't have to lock a second date directly after the first one, maybe he is waiting for you to make a move like message him, hey, how are you? :) so in my opinion if you didn't ask about him after first date, make a move and show him that you care at least 40%. Its not always the guy who has to work hard for a girl, peace.
The fact that you said he was texting you all day after the date makes me think he likes you but is too scared to make a move and ask you out.
But, it could also be that he could just have been texting you cause he was bored and the reality is that he thinks he's the catch out of you two so is going to date other girls and maybe see you if you ask him out if he's free.
So you can:
A. Stop being a pussy and ask him out and find out if he's keen (and if he's not you stop wasting your time and emotional energy)
OR
B) Continue texting him as a penpal, whilst he goes out on fun dates with other girls, escalating with them physically, kissing, and sleeping with them etc.Girl... this is the 21st century... take matters into your own hands... if you like the guy and want to see him again ask him out... he'll be flattered.
I made the first move on a guy about 5 years ago... and now... he's my husband... and I love being married to him... some guys are a bit shy and nervous about asking girls out !!!Waiting implies sitting around. Don't do that. Don't wait, don't expect anything, do whatever you would be doing if you hadn't had the first date. Or just get it over with and ask him yourself and find out if he's still interested. In the meantime, if another guy asks and you are interested, go.
I'd say that you should suggest it if he hasn't within a couple of days. I reckon if you ask him he's got to accept or come up with an excuse if he's not keen or he's just messing with you. Endless texting just keeps you in the friendzone forever lol.
So let me get this right. You're enjoying the chit chat... yet wonder if you should terminate interaction at all based on 2nd date probability? something you seem to want, but are not initiating yourself either.
Literally just waiting for him to make that move, he's taking too long, and so now you're considering just cutting ties despite everything doing so well otherwise...
... interesting.Dont wait... I think its better to 'date around' and not hang on to one. Untill you have a ring on your finger or are in a committed relationship I truly believe it opens up your world to more potential suitors 👍 and you dont have to sit at home hoping one person will text and make your night 😊
No you do not need to have the second date pre-planned like that. Our lives are constantly changing and things come up, or he may be waiting on pay day to make sure his bills are paid. Normally if your still talking after the first date, you have 2 weeks to set up the next date until things progress to in your own living areas
He's got time to text you for that long but not arrange a date? Even for the following week or two..
If I was you I'd tell him you'd love to see him again. Then stop messaging him.
If he can't take the initiative and arrange a date then either he has something to hide or is unsure of himself..Don´t worry. Guys hate to look desperate so it might take some time before a second date. As for me, I usually agree on the second date roughly 5-7 days after the first date. If you want to test the waters, you can ask him what he´s doing next weekend. There´s no reason why you couldn´t ask him out. If he really enjoys your company, it´ll just be really nice for him. And if he doesn´t, well you´ll know immediately and then you can move on quicker. Anyway, don´t sweat it.
I suggest you wait. Cuz he is talking to you. Maybe bring up a restaurant or my favourite thing is on Instagram I see an ad for a restaurant or event happening and I tag said guy in the comments and say 'omg that looks cool' and they usually say wait yeah lets go there. So they think it was their idea. But it was really you
Give it at least a week depending on the guy he might want to do something other than drink and chat. It takes time to figure out what to do. If a couple days pass and you want to show him you're into him ask him! Most guys will say yes if a girl asks them!
How many days has it been? Be patient if it's only been a few days. Best thing to to do is back off the chat. Take care of your daily responsibilities and don't dwell on what he may or may not ask. Now, that doesn't mean ignore him or play games, just keep conversations short. He will crave your time more.
You could be brave and ask him out XD. Of course then you have to pick a place that relates to you. And then you can share something special about why its a special place to you. And he will be also so impressed that you were brave enough to take the lead.
Or you can wait XD. But if you wanted him to get true feelings fast of how you feel about him. By all means do my idea XD.He might be afraid of coming on too strong too soon. Some of us worry about "looking desperate" as well. Things went well and you are still talking, yes absolutely keep it going. He will eventually I'm sure. But why don't YOU ask? Just say something like "so, when are we going out next?". Nothing wrong with that. He might still be trying to gauge your interest in him, especially if you haven't really shown it. If you like him enough, ask! :)
I have always asked for the 2nd date on the first text or call following the 1st date. Actually when I've had a date that you described, all day chat and all, I've secured the second date before the first was over, lol. Hope lost? Chit chat? Would you let it go without sayin "aren't you going to ask me out again?"
I was asked for the second date on the first date lmao because he was the right guy that's why.
If he is making it hard he isn't the right one...
Soulmate is someone who doesn't make you have lots of questions not feel sleepy at night and worry is not the one who lets you wonder why... when... what... is the one that makes things flow and feel at ease and lovedchat a little and then talk about the date that it was fun you ahd a great time. and hope for the best if he does not bring it up then you be the lady all man dream of and ask him out. if he says no its a shame but you are a lady many man wait in line to date with you
why do you need to sit around and wait for him to do anything. if you like him ask him out. if he's is or is not interested, you'll have saved yourself time.
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