I hate my life I'm 24 never had a girlfriend or been kissed still a virgin never a date even and no good looking girls want me I'm fat ugly and short?

[stevenbenner]

I can't get an attractive girl to love me because I'm not good looking I'm fat ugly short and I'm 24 and I never had a girlfriend or been kissed and still a virgin so fuck my life Only way i can feel better and move on is if an attractive girl loves me until then my life sucks all my friends are happy with their attractive girlfriends and wives i want what they have i want their lives cause mine sucks here's what i look like

[RolandCuthbert]

Young one. . . I don't know how to begin. You are a treasure. You are absolutely unique and special. Because it takes courage to post your real self at GaG. This place can be a hellhole. In fact the internet itself can be a really messed up place. So with all these bad feelings, I encourage you to get off sites like these and focus on you.

You hate yourself. I get it. I don't really like myself as well as I should either. It is tough for guys like us to actually like ourselves. We make one mistake it is like sky collapsed. We don't see ourselves the way others see us.

I can't speak to you on your path. I can only tell you what happened to me.

I hated me so much. Especially after my divorce. I have always disliked myself anyway. But it became very hard after my marriage failed. I could not think of myself in any other terms but "loser". Then out of the blue, I got invited to a "change your life" seminar. Stephen, I have had a lot of success in life. I worked as a high priced consultant for IBM, Xerox, etc. I have owned my own companies. I have traveled the world. I really didn't know why I disliked myself so much. Then during the seminar I had a painful revelation.

That I simply wanted to find love.

After I understood that one basic thing about myself, I was able to work on moving my life in a positive direction and I never looked back.

If love is what you want Stephen. . . go to work brother.

You are only 24 freaking years old! You can do whatever you wish, you can become whatever you want. Go to work on this project. Make it a five year plan. Lose the weight, become just an absolute bad ass. I don't know what your interests are. But perhaps learn to speak a foreign language. Develop your interests. If you are interested in technology, work on that. If you are interested in entertainment, then do that. Whatever your interests and talents are, work on them develop them until you are just an bad ass expert. Then move on.

Become successful. Start dressing better, eat healthier. Lift yourself to a higher place.

And dude. . . love will just come.

It is just the way life is. If you can think more positively, positive stuff will start coming your way. But you have to work at happiness. It does not just come to you.

[stevenbenner]

Only way my life gets better is if good looking girls like me until then fml

[RolandCuthbert]

Stephen, when you start attracting women, it won't be all that big a deal. I can only tell you about life on the other side. But only you make yourself climb up the mountain so you can see for yourself.

I don't even know you. . . yet. . . I identify strongly with you. I wish I could go back in time and talk to myself when I was 24. I was thinking the same kind of nonsense.

"Good looking girls don't like me".

"My life is worth nothing without women coming after me."

It is a lie. And it is a lie that will only destroy you, your confidence, and your self-esteem. It is in women's nature not to feel sorry for us. . . the guys who hate ourselves. They simply don't have the capacity for that kind of emotion. The only person coming to save you is you.

And I am just telling you. Go ahead and save yourself. You are certainly worth it.

[SmoMan71]

How about not judging yourself purely on your sexual exploits and on something that actually matters?

[Anonymous]

You have to be more honest with yourself. You're not ugly, but you're an average guy so it'll be harder for you to find an extremely attractive girl. Why are you being so limited in who you would date? Maybe if you are more open about who you would consider dating, you could have a meaningful relationship. If you're not willing to lower your standards, it's going to be hard for you to get the relationship you want.

[stevenbenner]

The girls who like me look like everyone from the Honey Boo boo show they especially look like the mother before the surgery.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not trying to be mean, but what makes you think you're above them? You could slightly raise who you're able to get with by losing weight and eating more healthy. Also, if you feel judged by other people then think about how judgmental your being towards others..

[stevenbenner]

So even if I lose 100 lbs my chances only slightly increase?

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on the types of girls you're trying to date. You have to be realistic that getting a 5'10 supermodel is highly unlikely for you, just like it is for most other men. I think losing weight will help you get women you could be interested in, just try not to set your standards unrealistically.

[stevenbenner]

If you saw what the girls who have liked me look like even you would feel bad for me

[Opinion Owner]

You're completely basing it off their appearance though... how would you feel if people did that to you? I'm sure you're a decent person, but the girls who like you probably are too.

[stevenbenner]

If I was dating them I'd be embarrassed and miserable about my life how I couldn't do better

[AvaLynn15]

Lol and I'm sure that's what all the extremely attractive girls feel about u

[Opinion Owner]

Then try and better yourself, but even if you lose weight and have this personality you're still in the same boat.. judging people solely on their appearance and thinking you're entitled to attractive women is wrong..

[RolandCuthbert]

@Stevenbenner I don't mean to interrupt this conversation but I just want to say that, it is actually the reverse. You should not be lowering your standards. You should be raising them and lifting yourself to the level you think you should be at. Women are not capable of feeling sorry for guys who have self-esteem issues. . . I should qualify that. Most Western women are not capable of that.

So you have to recognize that. The "nice guy" routine doesn't work in America. And I predict, a guy like you will get to a point where you start attracting all kinds of women. . . then you will begin to notice the women who are truly special.

You will figure it out. But you have to get over the wall you have put in front of you first. After that, you will see what I mean.

[AvaLynn15]

Maybe it's your attitude. Sounds to me like your pretty negative and you think your life "sucks". And you can't except to get extremely attractive girls if your only average you're self. Your responses on here tell a lot about your personality. Maybe change your attitude and you might get somewhere.

[studDMuffF1n]

The world isn't rainbows and unicorns some people's lives suck. You'll get it when you get older.

[AvaLynn15]

Lol ya but it's much more attractive if a person stays positive. dwelling on your problems only makes it worse. When a guy constantly complains it only makes him look unattractive. Ur only making ur problem worse. Ur the only one who can solve it

[studDMuffF1n]

That's nice but the reality is he feels this way. I'm sure he tries to put his best foot forward when he can. It's called venting. The problem is his weight not his attitude. Lezbehonest.

[danette03]

Get all your negativity and put in a suitcase , lock it and throw away the key ! Then go to an ophtamology doctor cause you might neee glasses. Go to gym, get yourself comitted to it and be more fit (no hard target, just a bit more fit ) . Meanwhile, smile more and live a little !

[Anonymous]

If your appearance makes you feel this way start working out and you will get your self-confidence boost.
Bonus: there are attractive girls who are not chasing appearance maybe you are looking at wrong places.

[studDMuffF1n]

Stop whining and get to work. Change your lifestyle. Workout and eat right like your life depends on it. like your going to prison and there's a man named Dayshawn and your going to be his bitch unless you take action.

[0007-h]

Well, first dont get hurt by all the harsh comments above. Second live by this rule: Before aiming for a relationship you must be happy beung single. If not then a relationship won't help

[Tomblebee]

No good looking girls want you?
What about the fat ugly short ones?

[Anonymous]

ask your bros to hook you up with some single lady that's looking for a date or boyfriend. unless they all had ditched you too?

[stevenbenner]

You should all know that with girls it's every man for himself if my friends are trying to get girls then they're not going to help me and guy on the far right already has a girlfriend so he isn't going to help me either

[Opinion Owner]

then you on your own bro. pay them if you have to help you find some chick that's single in his circle of friends and social connections, maybe his girlfriend has friends that are single and might be interested. you can either start doing something different about it or keep doing the same thing and keep feeling sorry for yourself

[Anonymous]

This is the same picture I see posted here every few months saying exactly the same thing. Don't waste your time people...

[mlgjamz]

All that you really need to get a girl is confidence, work on that

[Darkest-Knight]

with your attitude, you're going to be lonely a long time.

[unbetesauvage]

It's not all that it seems. Being alone is far better than being in a relationshit with women. They will use you. So embrace this. Find yourself.

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Why does it have to be a hot girl? An average one will love just as much.

[SpecialOpsBunny]

You are not ugly man you look good. Why don't you start working out at a gym?

[HarryLH]

Learn to love yourself first then the rest will come, I promise

[ushername]

what about diet and exercising?

[stevenbenner]

If I lose weight and still can't get an attractive girl then what am I supposed to do? Considering that's the only point of losing weight for me. I'm 5'5 265 It'll take 18 months to lose my amount of weight. Lifting weights sucks. Running sucks. Drinking only water sucks eating only grilled unseasoned chicken with vegetables for 18 months sucks so if I do all that which I have stated sucks doing and I still can't get an attractive girl its safe to say I got fucked over and don't say "at least you'll be healthy" what good is a healthy body if I don't get better looking girls?

[ushername]

diet sucks. it will make you always feel hungry. reduce your meals instead. stay away from junk food and non-nutritious foods. except these, you should eat anything. there's no need to stay hungry for days to lose weight, you should eat REAL foods in a limited way. in this way, you'll lose weight without feeling so much hungry. at the same time, you should go to gym. losing weight isn't enough to be attractive. you should have a good body. believe in me. i was really fat 5-6 years ago, too but i did it. i didn't return from my way. every day i thought i would have a nice body at the end. trust me and believe in yourself. there's a nutritionist and doctor in my country and she has some books which inclused her advices to lose weight. i wish her books had been translated in English. everyone who follows her advices (eating REAL foods within some rules) loses so much weights in a few months.

[Jayme012092]

Ur never gonna move forward thinking like that

[Anonymous]

Be ass to get some ass

[gym4ever]

Lol bro im same

[gym4ever]

i mean virgin etc.