Instead of focusing upon the negatives perhaps try to make some positive goals. I would start by working out. The endorphins will help your attitude.
Also, how you dress can make a huge difference. You might research it just to see what works for your body shape, hair color, etc.
Then rather than lamenting the lack of funds look at training to get a better career. I know short, portly guys who are high school dropouts, but they $35 to $40 per hour as legal videographers. All it takes is some training - video services will often do on the job - and passing the notary exam, which can usually be done at a one day seminar.
Try these and just find something to enjoy. The women issues will take care of themselves if you do.
Your problem, as with many people here, is that you only want to make excuses not to do anything about it and complain. You'll always be where you are now with this mindset.
You know you have to lose weight and things like that if you want a good looking woman. With the right amount of motivation that could easily be done. Instead you want to say "but what if I put in the work and effort and it doesn't work?" Do you know what's never gonna work? Complaining and feeling sorry for yourself, while acting defensively towards people who give you the advice you need.
You don't want unattractive obese women right? Women don't want unattractive obese men either.
So why are you bitching about it online rather than doing something about it?
You need to work on your self image first before getting into a relationship.
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Uhm. Dude this is perfect man. Just start going to the gym and getting ripped. Set a goal for a first sex experience a year from now. Once you start eating healthier, see your body changing, it creates a momentum of confidence. You will work hard in other areas of life. The rest will follow. You might want to see a therapist though.
How many times are you going to ask the same question? As long as you believe everything you say, you will continue thinking and believing it. Maybe if you change your attitude and evaluate what is real versus what you've decided to make your excuse to not do anything to change. Most men don't end with up with a beautiful woman. There are a lot of women who don't make a mans looks the most important thing because it's not the most important thing. Quit putting limits on what a woman must look like for you to think she's good enough for you. When you do that, you will find that things get better.
Look, if you yourself are ugly, fat, broke etc (I'm not saying that you are, I'm stating that's what you said you were), do you really expect good looking women to want you? That's the same as you not acepting the "fat" unattractive women. Maybe you can't really change your appearence (besides having a more healthy lifesytle) but you should get a job or something cause no girl will ever want you broke. We donp't want someone who depends on others money. Besides, it's really the thing that makes you unhappy the lack of attractive women into you? Cause, I mean, I don't want to judge but...
Dude, stop your trolling and GTFO! Your first two I'm ugly questions I replied to trying to give you good advice but now you are just irritating. Since you won't listen to advice I'm not gonna bother with you anymore. Just put a bag over your head and get over your looks.
I've said this multiple times and I will keep saying it. Giving you advice is pointless. No matter what anyone says to you you say it isn't helpful because it isn't what you want to hear. At point your looks aren't the problem. No woman wants a man with self esteem as low as yours. No woman wants to hear a guy bitch about how ugly and worthless he is. Work on yourself. That is my advice and now I wait for your reply where you tell me it doesn't help.
Well, for one, your attitude sucks. Second, it seems like you're mad at women for not being attracted to you, which is deeply unattractive by itself. You not being good looking isn't why you're unhappy. It's your personality. NO ONE said you have to think unattractive women are "perfect 10s". You came up with that on your own. You're trying to blame being unsuccessful with love on your unattractive looks. Change your attitude. Stop blaming the women like "Ria Ciuffo" for not being into you.
Hey, you dont look half bad dude, grow a cool beard :D
I wrote a mytake to explain my story from "Fat ugly kid with no friends" to... well i still not got many friends :P
Take a read if you get time, it might help you out
Be the best you that you can be...You are enough! ↗
Dude. Fucking stop. This incel shit isn't going to fucking help you and you're attitude makes people want to avoid you.
You're problem is you're not putting in the work. Its a process for a simple process. Getting bitches is fucking easy.
You're 26 which is a perfect age to make things happen. By 27 you could be fucking 7 and 8's if you get with the program and stop this self hate bullshit.
I think the problem lies with your attitude rather than your appearance, do not base the entirety of your worth on women, put them out of your mind, there is much more to concern yourself with.
Women are generally put off by those who seem desperate, work to improve your mindset and attitude toward your life, and attractive women will come afterwards.
Well with an attitude like that it will be hard for you to have anyone want to be around you. Personally it sounds as though you need more self improvement before thinking about women.
Maybe find a life coach and join a gym to exercise and build self confidence.
I was too, not a problem, we all have to start somewhere.
Women are like rocket fuel... they are the best motivator to change and become the best you possible. some things you can't change... height, but a lot of it you can. your pic is fine, your attitude and self image is awful and will poison anyone else. your body... fix it! charisma... fix it! confidence, etc..
You sound like me at your age. I wrote a mytake about this Be the best you that you can be...You are enough! ↗
hypocritical. You admit you're ugly yet get upset when other ugly people wanna date you.
I mean by your own admission you dont want an ugly partner so why do you think hot women would?
You need a man-makeover and some better game. Go here and read:
www.therationalmale.com
Some good content here as well: www.theartofmanliness.com
Do some reading, hit the gym, make a ton of dough, and you'll gain the confidence you need to knock them dead. Trust me on this.
You're average looking, but it's hard times for average dudes these days. The standard men are held to is higher now than it used to be and the internet makes it easy to look for something more than what's in front of you. Unfortunately all I can say is hang in there and persevere.
Who the fuck cares about attractive women? They all get fat and ugly as they get older anyway, and they're bitches in the first place. Just make something of yourself, stop being such a pussy and have some pride.
Do you seriously need a chick like her? I know it sucks to feel limited by societies obsession with ‘leagues’ in dating but there is such a thing as aiming too high. If you have no intention of being thin and are resigned to poverty then you can’t be surprised when women who are thin and look good enough to make a lot of money off their looks pass you up. Being short and fat and ugly hasn’t held down every man who endured it.
just relax, try not to over think and then work on things that you feel would help change the situation, if you say your fat then maybe motivate yourself to exercise and get healthy
Mhmm mhmm I see what your problem is. Consider everything you're doing, and then do the opposite
Your attitude is probably your biggest problem. Also, are you actually working to fix your flaws or are you doing nothing and just expecting women to flock to you regardless?
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