Is it possible to have a relationship in high-school without sex?

So I’m in high school and I want a boyfriend... but I’m not ready for sex. Will guys respect that? Or would they hold out hope that they could “change my mind”. Is it possible to have a relationship in high-school without sex?

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  • The majority of them won't, but that's not exclusive to high school. That's just how it is. There are ways to avoid it, however:

    - Raise your standards. Don't let anyone convince you that you're standards are "too high". There are about 3.8 billion males on earth, and all you need to do is find ONE suitable partner. You're standards are never "too high", as long as you're willing to wait long enough.
    - Make your boundaries clear from the start. If he doesn't agree with them, he's free to leave. The sooner you tell him, the less time you waste, and the faster you filter out guys you aren't compatible with.
    - Don't be naive. Just because he has stuck around for 3 months, doesn't mean he's "the one". Believe it or not, there are guys persistent (or desperate) enough to stick it out for a long ass time, just for one night of ecstasy.

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  • My first boyfriend & I made a pact in high school to "preserve our virginities" until we got married. We resisted penetration during the pressures of 2 proms (junior & senior), homecomings, etc. We finally "caved in" in college.

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    • Don't beat your self up over caving in, you did better then 90% of the population.

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  • Many guys will hold out hope, that you will change your mind, or have a weak moment some day, where you will let them have sex with you. However, it is very possible to have a relationship in high school without sex. You just have to have a relationship with the right guy, who will respect you, and cares enough about you, to not pressure you into sex.

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  • Depends on the guy. Most likely, there will be someone who would do that, and then others that are refraining entirely. Whether you like the guys who are looking for a relationship without sex is the question.

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  • Didn’t have sex once in my high school relationship besides oral and that was my idea. A good guy respects your boundaries and will not put you.

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  • If he isn't willing to accept that you aren't ready then he is not the type of guy you want to be with anyways. It is absolutely possible to have a relationship without sex.

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  • You're in high school, sex should be the last thing on your mind, and to be completely honest, if a boy is dating you just to get in your pants, run, he doesn't see you as a person, just looking for the dopamine high of getting off. Be patient for the right guy, you'll find someone in time, there's no need to rush into it. Lastly strive for your future like what job you want, education, and make sure you are happy with yourself. A strong independent woman is a better position to be in rather than depressed in a unfullfilling relationship

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  • Some will, some won't. If you make it clear from the beginning where the limits are and he still sticks around you have a keeper.

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  • Chances are guys want sex. A healthy relationship has 3 categories. Non sexual connection, sexual connection and family connection. If you only have one, it won't be what you think it'll be.

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  • i didn't have sex until i after i graduated. we'd been dating for 3 years prior to that.

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  • The RIGHT guy will respect that. However all guys in high school are assholes. Save sex for college or marriage, just not HS.

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  • Many guys probably won't respect that, but even so, those aren't the guys you wanna be with anyway

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  • Yes you can. You jist have to find the right guy. Someone who respects your choice. A lot of people who are involved in a church will abstain from sex for religious reasons

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  • Its possible of course, but if you're not ready for sex you're probably not ready for a relationship either.

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  • Depends on a guy. He will not insist if he really cares and understands you.

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  • Can they not held out hope whilst respecting a the same time?

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  • It’s possible but Most guys are looking for sex in a relationship, not romance.

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  • sure. actually there are plenty of guys who aren't ready for sex too.

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  • Yes, definitely you can. Of course, you have to find the right guy that wanted and respect so

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  • Of course! If your not ready, don't do it. Your boy will need to respect that

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  • It's entirety possible.

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  • Not from my experience

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  • It is your education time not relationship time

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    • It is very dangerous to have relationship in school time. sex is a big responsibility. it should not come in immature way

  • Yes. fuck what he wants. your body your choice

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  • Very doubtful

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  • If it pops up the ass it's not sex.

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  • Yes, I've dated people who identify as asexual and we had great relationships with no sex. (Apart from breaking up, of course)

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