Is it possible to have two relationships at the same time :( ?

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I've had a boyfriend for a couple of months but my ex instantly showed up and I couldn’t resist him. There are different things I like about each of two so I dont want to break up with either of them. Do you think it is possible for me to have two relationships?

Pegases · Accepted Answer

As in Polygamy? I'd say ask them if they'd be interested in that dynamic. Don't try to go about this with deception, because you'll just end up shooting yourself in the foot. I would give them the opportunity to decide if they like you enough to consider sharing you, and if they do, you're golden. Just be sure you understand what the kind of relationship you're suggesting, actually entails. It is not easy to divide your attention between two people without one feeling neglected. So be upfront about what you want, and why, and DO NOT LIE. Lastly, know how to answer their questions, because they will have questions.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Honestly from what I've seen it's more difficult to juggle polygamous relationships than polyandrous.

Of course, the premise is that you're being honest with both of them. Also with some guys who are willing to be in polyandrous relationships willing to see both of them leave you for each other...

Beatrix7 · Accepted Answer

acording to me no in my eyes you can only love one person in your life and if you love them you wouldn't go behind there back love is a presious thing to me and i dont cheat its discusting i dont sleep about you can't love 2 people at the same time you can only have one choose ure one love from them both its gotta be done dont go making yourself look bad love one forever you can't love 2 people

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

People do this all the time, but usually, it comes down to a favorite and it's a tricky situation. Do they know about each other and is that OK? If it is, then I suppose it's fine. But if you're keeping this a secret from each of them, sounds pretty dicey and could lead to you losing BOTH of them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The question is not just whether you are okay with dating both at the same time. The question is whether they know about it and agree. My guess is that Bob does not want to have you in bed on Saturday night when you were playing hide-the-sausage with Tom on Friday night.

Fireguy17 · Answer

you can, but it will not end well.
just reverse the rolls and how would you feel if the guy you were in a relationship with just rolled off of 1 girl and came over to be with you and you had no clue for a long time.
Maybe it wouldn't bother you, maybe it would.
If you haven't told them about each other then it is wrong.
If they both know about each other and are fine with sharing you then it is fine, but don't be surprised when 1 or both end up doing the same thing to you and then you won't have either one of them.

EricSummer · Answer

For your new boyfriend this is awful. I do not see how he could agree to it, and cheating is a real danger to your relationship.
The ex is probably ok, as it feels like a bonus to him, some extra sex in extension time. Also, it must make him feel bushy-tailed that you cannot resist him.
So it's not ok for all, I'm sure

MsShy87 · Answer

That depends. Are you open and honest with both of them that you are dating 2 men? If so and they are both fine with it then carry on. If not, then no. It could get messy and someone is going to end up hurt if you're doing this in secret and you could end up losing them both.

MarkHrdman · Answer

Your ex is an ex for a reason. You have to explain to your ex that he is still your ex and that you're seeing someone else to make sure that he is ok with it before fucking him. The conversation will go easier with your panties off for him to be more agreeable dispite what he is agreeing too.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Anything is possible, as long as both guys are okay with it. I don't think I could do it because one person is often enough to be in a relationship with.

There is always the jealousy issue too, whether you are spending more time with one than the other, etc.

It just becomes too much of a clusterfluff to me.

Ascyltos · Answer

Theoretically it's possible to have two or even more relationships. Some peoole have. Monogamy has its benefices and downsides, polygamy has other benefices and downsides. So some compromise is always necessary. I think it's just important to stay honest to your partners and not to cheat them. Maybe they could accept a polyandric triangle relationship, but probably they can't. Especially if they're conservative.

mommymommy · Answer

If you're a playgirl, sure

There's nothing "wrong" with it, per se. The only thing that would be wrong with it, is if you're hiding it from each of them. They have a right to decide if they then want to keep seeing you. But you need to tell them. Otherwise, it's what's known as, cheating

Hafsa22 · Answer

If you are riding two boats you will eventually sink so bad, there is nothing like two relationship at one time, you are just into infatuation or something, love is something else that counts loyalty.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is possible to have way more than just two.  It is just not a good idea.

Billlewis · Answer

Absolutely. Don't let the 'Moral Police' shame you, dear. I'm sure you're not planning on doing this forever; you're just trying to sort it all out.

BCA6010 · Answer

There is  no way  that's going to go well. Without any other context, I advise ditching the ex. He already had his chance, and that ended before for a reason.

bean2k21 · Answer

When you say "you couldn't resist him" what you really mean is that you are an undisciplined slave to passion. You need to dump both of them and find a man who can teach you obedience.

MementoMori777 · Answer

No you'll end up losing then both if you don't make a choice but tbh you'll probably lose then both anyways once they realize you were dating them both at the same time so lose lose situation I guess

AsaKyo · Answer

Exes are exes for a reason, but honestly you should just not be with anyone since you're still not over your ex and you'll be emotionally torturing this new guy

Vegasrunner · Answer

For you no. For guys yes, eventually your emotions aren't going to allow you to see both of them w/o being overly annoying to one. Guys can do this as our relationship goals have less emotional attraction.

Anonymous · Answer

relationships? more like you are cheating. did you know that you're actively cheating? that's so wrong.

snasirmehdi · Answer

Everything is possible... but basically you are cheating with yourself... have a clear decision and make up your mind and select any one of them..

RavVid · Answer

There is a snowflakes chance they would be ok with it if you told them. I would say it is immoral if you don't tell them.

sheenagwapa · Answer

just two gosh so borinh some people i know planned to make me a child bearer and then fuck around. i am not a child bearer lol excuse him

KittyKat90210 · Answer

It's possible, but ONLY if there's open communication with both of them that you're not exclusive.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

OBVIOUSLY!! I had two guitarists over the years that did it CONSTANTLY and all of my GFs were with someone else, at the time, too.

smilelots · Answer

if your doing it then it is possible right.. not for me but some it maybe ok to do.. enjoy what you need from your two partners ,, are you going to tell them or keep it to yourself.

fonduegirl · Answer

You've gotta tell them that you aren't dating them exclusively. They deserve to know.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

If you are the type to have polyamory, just be honest with both of them. You can totally do that. It's called ethical non monogamy.

noohair · Answer

If both know about it you are good. But most guys play the field so if you are ok with the fallout if one discovers the other, that is cool too. Protect yourself.

veronicasue2 · Answer

Nope. And that’s not going to end well. Because when they find out; you’re going to end up alone without either of them. It’s best to do the right thing, and do it soon!

JHNS98 · Answer

There is polyamiry, but I suppose you're not describing that here.

Keishio · Answer

Why not 3 or 4, 5, 6? Why not just be an adult and face difficult choices rather than picking the easy road and hurting everyone else in the process?

Counterclocking · Answer

With my two cents, better just stick to one relationship.

TheFlak38 · Answer

For a woman yes. It's the new norm. Not just two. You can have as many as you want.

David4358 · Answer

having a poly relationship is not for everyone but some people make it work

Kelly6 · Answer

Why is he Ex? this is something you should ask them

Luckycharms12 · Answer

It is possible good idea nope. Can't have your cake and eat it messing with too guys

OddBeMe · Answer

I guess. romance is usually one way, but do as you will and don’t whine when people get hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

No. you're nothing but a worthless cheater. Women like you are unworthy of respect.

Anonymous · Answer

If both parties don’t know about it , I’m pretty sure this is called cheating. It’s also scummy behaviour.

Anonymous · Answer

Am dating a girl and also fucking her younger sister, they both know about it and are cool. My point is do they both know about the situation? Because if they don't not good at all

Anonymous · Answer

This is a pretty slutty behavior, and the fame if being a slut will come quickly.

spartan55 · Answer

Fucking gross. Ya go for it ya slut.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

You're too old for that, sorry.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope, pick one.

exitseven · Answer

Sure, but eventually you will get caught

KAYJJAY · Answer

i don't think its a good idea

Wise4myage · Answer

Sure, in an open relationship.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Sure it is.

EmmaHan10 · Answer

dont even try that. its commonly know as cheating

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

This is fucked

riverrat3 · Answer

As long as you do not commit to either of them,

FifiJones · Answer

It is illegal.

Redstang88 · Answer

Not for long

Anonymous · Answer

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