Why do guys pump & dump?

[Gabriella22]

I was wondering why guys do that.. if you like someone would that change after sleeping with them?
Why guys sweet talk me until I fall for them then dump me after they get what they really really want?
Is it worth it to hurt someone’s feelings for sex?
Am I just an object of desire in their eyes?
Why no one see me and only see my body?
Is beauty a curse or a blessing?
I was talking to a random guy after I was dumped.. he told me “ you need to give them an excuse ! you are one of few most beautiful women I ever seen in my lifetime “ !!!
I know you will say I should be thankful and feel blessed that I won the biological lottery , but when no one see you it hurts!
I am longing for a meaningful connection..

[UnaKaizen]

they think you won't have sex if you dont think they want more.

do if you do want sex make it clear so they dont need to lie. and if you dont ant sex dont have it. im not sure what the problem is if you want sex. he wasn't interestd in more that sukcs but hat can happen even in a relationship.

just dont have sex unless you want o. then if he leases you're just dealing with what everyone deals with at some point. the other person lost interest. but you're not feeling 'used' bc you only had it bc you wanted it.

[Gabriella22]

Good point.. what if you do it for him in a context of relationship then he dump you?

[UnaKaizen]

dont do it 'for 'him.

you dont like sex, for yourself?

if you have never wanted sex, you're probably with guys you don't fully trust id say its a good indicator. if you're having sex just for him, he's not for you. and you 'sense' that,

so again :) do not have sex unless you want to. :) makes things so much easier. especially dealing with ourselves. feeling like we did something we didn't want for someone who didn't deserve it really sucks. but you deserve it. so if you do it for you then at least you can feel good about it.

[Gabriella22]

Good point ! Never thought of it this way ! I always thought if he’s happy I’m happy !

[Anonymous]

Because we girls let them. If you want a relationship with a guy who wants more than just a pump and dump make them wait that way if they are intrested in you they will hang around you will both get to know each other better. A guy looking for just sex will not hang around for you.

[Utell]

U already has found this wonderful connection So please stop giving guys what they want and keep that wonderful body and soul as a gift of the guy you found. It certainly has a long way trip going together with ups and down. But has faith this is something meaningful. Think about giving your body and it will be the last Man your husband the last and the only one who will see this body. Because at the end Man want kids to say this my mom the wonderful Mom ever the world has known

[Gabriella22]

Oh how sweet ! :-)
I’m tearful..!

[Utell]

Well the earth got to be thankful ! You planted enough seeds with those tears. They grown Time to pick them up and enjoy life !

[PillowThief]

The more blinded you are by the presence of these implied 'normal men' (who aren't, by definition), the more you'll keep seeing them and even falling for them.

Sometimes a cessation in seeking a partner is the way forward. Often the best relationships are those that are somewhat chance meetings. Either way, an app' like this certainly isn't the place to spread conjecture while venting.

[TheUglyMan]

Because women let them. When guys see the buff guys in the gym and the fuckboys in the night club fuck all these women for being absolute pricks but they try to be nice and get into a relationship and do things the old fashioned way. The notice that its pointless. In the end women are the ones who decides who goes inside them and who doesn't.

[boggboss]

Thats a vary true point that i recently started agreeing to it's a little heartless but unless held against your will you do also choose to stay in a abusive relationship

[radrio]

This opinion is 100% the truth and should be the top opinion.

[TheUglyMan]

Sexual liberation has brought many benefits but also many curses.

[ramusen]

That's because the guys who sweet talk u are the players... they make girls fall for them and gets what they want... if u want a true love do something approach the shy boy in the corner who doesn't talk to girls a lot... u will have a lasting relationship

[Arabian911]

Or a lasting relationship with a psychopath

[ramusen]

Psychopaths are good players...

[Arabian911]

Sociopaths are good players not psychopaths, there is a big difference, psychopaths tend to be shy and more introverted

[ramusen]

Nah boy psychopaths doesn't always mean killers and murderes... they make good doctors and businessmen too

[Arabian911]

Absolutely, i didn’t say they live like rats,, but being a doctor doesn’t necessarily mean you like to socialize with other people

[ramusen]

So she should go after the shy guy.

[Arabian911]

Why exactly she should go for the shy guy... i think we as men shouldn’t forfeit our typical role as the one who chases the girls, i know it sucks but being shy doesn’t mean you are the best lover nor the most capable to handle a relationship

[ramusen]

Shy means that she won't try other girls

[Arabian911]

Shy means: someone who is too scared to start a conversation and expect everyone around him indulge him/her

[ramusen]

Shyeans: someone scared to start a conversation but is ready to live with it for the rest of his life unless he gets some
Help

[Arabian911]

Since when being shy became an illness that we need to cure?

It’s a personality, live with it and deal with it.

[ramusen]

U look like a player to me u won't understand the struggles

[boggboss]

Why those anyone do somthing bad to others cos they don't care simple

[boggboss]

Don't give into sex so quick I'm guessing

[UnaKaizen]

what would that gain if she wants sex but waits on a guy who's dishonest anyhow? at least if it happens quick she gt sex plus did not waste her time.

more practical to have sex quickly so you screen out guys who just want sex. though only if she wants sex. obviously if she doesn't want sex she should not have it but thats at any point its not like she should 'give on' later rather than earlier. sex isn't a give in thing. you want it or you dont.

[Gabriella22]

I want sex it in a relationship context not with a random guy I won’t see his face again after that night !

[boggboss]

Guys that just want sex most the time are not willing to wait prolonged amounts of time to get it

[Gabriella22]

No it ( typo )

[boggboss]

U think ur gonna screen guys with sex good luck and have fun cos guys are going to be lining up to get there turn

[UnaKaizen]

so why have sex with a random guy. only have sex IN A RELATIONSHIP. if he's your boyfriend he's not a random guy.

ALSO YOU can't CONTROL THINGS. YOU COULD BE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND IT CAN END. A just bc you want things to last doesn't mean they will. but certain;y if you want relationship sex make sure you're in a relationship. a relationship is just two people trying. its all yo an do. might not work. you get in try and after that its up to luck.

pumping and dumping is like fuck then ghost. its not relationship sex then break up. if you're actually dating its not pump and dump. they just lost interest. it happens.

[UnaKaizen]

caps was not intentionally by the way, sorry :)

[boggboss]

Most players who pump and dump will promise a relationship and sell dreams get sex then ghost so if u hold off sex till a relationship it will help eliminate some players not all but some

[UnaKaizen]

no. if they are playing they are playing others and just se it as a fun challenge. waiting doesn't ensure a thing.

[boggboss]

Nope it don't but it helps there is no way of ensuring it but there are ways of helping most players won't date for a month and not get sex I know that as a couple of my friends do it and won't dat a girl more then 3 times if no sexual advancement happens

[boggboss]

Not all do it for a challenge some do it cos they just want sex

[UnaKaizen]

point is its a waste of time if she wants sex , bc you never know a persons intentions. & if she doesn't want sex she shouldn't do it anyhow.

[boggboss]

U can beliving that I don't if u wanna throw out sex sure do it in not judging but don't claim why can't I find a man to lo e me they leave after sex as it will happen more if that's what u wanna do cause and effect

[UnaKaizen]

are you even trying to think here?

women dont THROW OUT SEX. they enjoy it. if they dont want it with a guy they should not have it. soon or late.

she's not giving anything away she's doing something she wants. if she doesn't want sex she shouldn't have it if she wants it in a relationship she should be in a relationship firsrt. but she's not 'giving it awuy'

my point was about a woman who wanted sex. not about a woman who wanted to wait. you're mixing things up. obviously if she wants to wait she should wait. doesn't mean the guy won't dump her. some people will lie just for fun. or are very desperate. or just lose interest after sex.

[boggboss]

No I'm not confusing stuff u are those this women who posted the question sound like she is happy she had sex or sad that she was used for sex?

[boggboss]

And like u say some people will yes and that can't be eliminated but what can are guys that just want sex and are not willing to wait

[boggboss]

I'm not saying don't have sex till marriage or relationship u do you but don't be surprised that u can't find a long term partner if you want to have sex before the person intentions are shown yes they could be a player doing it for the thrill but like I have said not all are like that some just want it now and if you won't they will move on

[UnaKaizen]

yeah but if she actually is interested in guy x who is just playing, she's 'waiting' and wasting her time if he takes off after sex.

if you eliminate guys with bad intentions who leave quickly , that means you dont eliminate guys with bad intentions who dont leave quick, id rather eliminate things hat waste more time.

this is all irrelevant to the OP though bc she doesn't seem to want sex & then maybe a relationship..., she wants a relationship.

so she should not have sex until ion a relationship. not just waiting X amount of time, but in a committed relationship.

[UnaKaizen]

and this is not about proving the guy wants more than sex, but about her being in the kind of context she wants sex to take place within.

[UnaKaizen]

its not about her 'not giving it up' its asbout her waiting till she feels sure about things, which she clearly doesn't if she's just having sex 'for him'

i dont disagree on waiting i just disagree that she's waiting for him bc then she still ends up having sex without really wanting to. she's waiting for her.

waiting to 'give it up' is no better than not waiting to 'give it up' they are both bad.

waiting to have sex when you want it is not great bc you're wasting time on possibly wrong person. in my opinion. :)

[boggboss]

Like I have repeated you can never eliminate guys that will wait for sex that's impossible a luck game at best but if you can eliminate those that won't wait you are improving the chances of getting a relationship with a guy that don't just want sex then leave that's simple maths

[boggboss]

And I was not saying these points for you they are for her who clearly is finding it hard that a guy fucked her and left when he sold her dreams

[boggboss]

I never said about waiting for him I believe you wait so that you feel comfortable knowing that yes this us a guy I want to have sex with

[boggboss]

And part of that comes from knowing that he will not toss me aside once I have sex with him

[vjedi]

I think many guys do this because we ourselves have been hurt in some way and it's a way of avoiding our own problem.
I'm truly sorry you have had to go through that, be patient, make wise decisions and everything will work out best.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why some guys do that, I would want to be able to see her more often, maybe for them the challenge is over and they are just looking to score. If I found someone good I would want to stay with her

[CharlieCarson15]

"some" guys xD

[Opinion Owner]

@CharlieCarson15 Yeah not all of us , if I get myself a pretty girlfriend then I’m keeping her 😊

[CharlieCarson15]

I feel you man, im exactly like you, using someone for the sole intention of sex is disgusting. Im currently working towards getting with a pretty girlfriend and if i succeed im gonna treat her like a goddess!

[Opinion Owner]

@CharlieCarson15 Definitely, these players give the rest of us guys a bad rap

[CharlieCarson15]

yeah dude, girls seem to think that every guy is that way, even though the small few who treat girls with respect do exist

[Opinion Owner]

@CharlieCarson15 yeah it’s unfortunate for us

[jrallen175]

I mean, I do that. But I make sure they know that's what I'm after.

[Gabriella22]

I’m glad you make it clear so it’s her choice , but the guys I fell for made it feel like relationship then things stop suddenly after sex !

[jrallen175]

Misleading is dishonorable.

[Bittu009]

Well I never did that but yes I hv heard a lot similar stories.

[SovietBall]

For me, sex is the apex of the relationship, thus it would be unthinkable that I dump after pumping

[laxus7]

Most guys do that y do you fall for sweet talk anyway find a gentleman

[Gabriella22]

Mom always tell me I trust too soon. My girlfriends think that I’m a bimbo ! I’m very pretty but not that smart like the other girls I guess !

[laxus7]

Trust those who care and respect you. trusting someone is not a bad thing , only those people who trusts others are worth trusting.

[laxus7]

When is ur birthday

[Ahmedkhan69]

You should have learned form one experience on the other hand not all guys are same

[TheCookieDealer]

Because they want simple sex. Not much to it

[TheBaard]

Huh I have no idea what that means sounds awful

[anononon123]

There are so many answers to this...

[Anonymous]

because they look at women as pussy only.

[TheUglyMan]

and women love those type of men

[Opinion Owner]

@TheUglyMan exactly, after what my ex did to me, i feel like turing into a "pump & dump" kind of guy, but its just not who i am tbh i

[TheUglyMan]

honestly a lot of women say that they want a nice , respectful guy but they go for the exact opposite. I think it mainly has to do with age. Older women are far more mature and know what they want and dont usually contradict themselves like younger women. Younger women want the alpha male, with looks, status and height. There I've just educated my son. pump and dump all you want why not women are doing it too so its not like in the future that special someone was waiting for the right guy. Fuck all the girls you want son go wild. Be unapologetic about it. And remember my son nice guys finish last. Which is why you must treat them like trash. Now go my son spread your seed.

[Opinion Owner]

@TheUglyMan 🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽

[Gabriella22]

Wow ! What a Dad !
I’m speechless !

[TheUglyMan]

You can be my daughter if you want

[Gabriella22]

lol and then?

[TheUglyMan]

then we're a family :)

[Gabriella22]

So if I were your daughter, what would you advise me to do?

[TheUglyMan]

with what?

[TheUglyMan]

to avoid getting pumped and dumped? choose your guys wiser. dont go for dudes who go clubbing or play at a high level of sport

[Gabriella22]

Ummm I like dance daddy?

[TheUglyMan]

Don't call me daddy rather father or papa.

[Kiels01]

Because you let them

[dannyjett]

I wouldn't dump you.

[Revolver_]

Because we are evil