Would you date someone until you find someone better? (Page 3)

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Dating a guy who I used to be friends with until I find someone better. I'm going away this April for a few months abroad and he knows this. But kind of feel like I'm just using him for the time being.  We fancy each other and as awful as it sounds. But is it that bad? Feel a bit guilty. He thinks I'm the one. But I want to spend my early 20s finding out the type of guy that I'm into and don't expect any relationships in my early 20s to end up in marriage. He's a nice guy but going to break up with him before I go away. What you date someone until you find someone better matched to you?

TonguePunch · Answer

Thats a bad move and it feel like you know it... Im sad for the way you are going to break his heart...

Anonymous · Answer

Sure. At your age it's expected. It's casual dating. So long as you both know you're not looking for something serious, it's fine. You can be exclusive and dating, while knowing it has a definite time limit attached.

Tiffers2154 · Answer

If I dont see it going anywhere, I bow out. But I'm an incredibly independent person and truthfully am used to guys running from that.

Garrett4 · Answer

I don't know, I don't think I would. Normally when I get into a relationship I have to really like the girl so this isn't really an issue for me.

sc15022 · Answer

It's understandable why you'd wanna do that, but if your goal is to get married, be sure you find someone before you're 25 otherwise your chance of finding someone better plummets after that

RoastedCharms · Answer

That's pretty awful, and this guy is too good for you. Break up with him so he can get over this sooner.

cflr0227 · Answer

I would never so that on purpose but I won't say that I havnt left someone because I found someone I cared about more

TRexxx · Answer

No thats messed up. Guys have feelings too, that would seem insensitive..

DilligentDude · Answer

You should be honest with him. It's not right to use him. He's not your friend, he's a fuck buddy.

AdamED · Answer

I thought that's something I might do but I actually couldn't do it. Once I fall in love with someone I can't give permission to myself to check it out with someone else, especially if my woman loves me and I have no reason to leave her.

YoungManTryin · Answer

That's not something you should do. I'd like to think that I'd never do that, but I've never been in a situation in which that would be an option.

Kayla45 · Answer

I dunno, I was kinda forced into dating guys before who I never liked to begin with so it's kinda like that I suppose.

CrazyyChick · Answer

You are asking me if I would play with someone's feeling just because I feel empty at the moment? No I wouldn't this is messed up.

Tdieseler · Answer

hahahaha... thats cold...*wipes tear* sigh... the good ol' days... this brings back memories.

HappyWheels · Answer

Wow you sound like a right spoilt bitch. Well done for illustrating what is wrong with dating in the 21st century; YOU!

KeyShinobi · Answer

I don't have no one to date.. So in that case anyone is better than being alone lol

Anonymous · Answer

You sound like my ex. A mean person who did the same thing to me. That's cruel and heartless, there are two people in a relationship, it's not just about how you feel and what you look for. If you keep thinking there is someone out there better, you will always keep searching and will never find anyone.

MLS17 · Answer

No. I wouldn't date someone I don't see a future with.

therainman · Answer

Putting someone as a placeholder? That's unfair to them. Date only who you want to date (as long as that person also wants to date you, don't be creepy)

hansukota · Answer

Its your choice what u do. but I feel that ur relationship level plays a role. if u r unhappy or not satisfied then I guess u can. but just because u met some1 better don't destroy something good.

FlamingoJones73 · Answer

From the sounds of it he doesn't know this. So Ya shame shame shame. But if he knows then he is breaking his own heart. And karma is a bitch too so expect mr. Right to leave you for someone better...

AquaBoo · Answer

No. That's fucked up. Maybe I'd slowly loose interest in my current lover. But that would fade.

Anonymous · Answer

If you were both on the same page I would say it's fine but seeing as how he's got feelings for you, you know it, and still continue to lead him on, I gotta say you're being shitty.

bellybuttonlint · Answer

No... I think that's just wrong and a waste of time. I can't date someone unless I feel like I can start a life with them.

CandacePerry · Answer

I never did but the part when the guy did cheat then I leave his ass.

Roseyred96 · Answer

You should of let him know up front you were not looking for anything serious your gonna break his heart

Syrian_survivor · Answer

Such a bitch move, ur tricking him n using the trust he has for you, of course that shit is bad -_- R u that insecure? Pathetic

Rejiu · Answer

That is such shit move how can you do that to your friend

JSmuve · Answer

That's a really shitty thing to do. Which is probably why I've never done it. Because I'm not a shitty person.

Seth13 · Answer

Damn ur cold. Imagine if a guy you really felt the feelingd he does for u did something similar. Youd be devastated

MaiaLikesAnime · Answer

If you know your going to break up with him don't drag it along and just break up with him now. Don't play games.

rahul_24 · Answer

Hell naw, commitment from my party. Never betray them, put yourself in their shoes, would you like it? Then don't

chrisbigman · Answer

No. I'd date someone until the relationship has taken it's course - whether we break up or we get married and die old. I personally take one relationship at a time.

chrisv · Answer

This is a good question!.. it’s not black and white... I MAY... but I’d be VERY transparent about it being short term only. I’d insist they understand that...

Spotted3 · Answer

This is not a very good idea, when you do find this “better person” the person you are dating till you find the better person will be devastated when you “breakup”

limabeanz · Answer

That's wrong. You're leading him on when you have separate plans. You're gonna end up breaking his heart. You really shouldn't be doing what you're doing but whatever

Bittu009 · Answer

I would have made it very clear initially that lets not be serious and see how she still remains with me. If she was caring enough, I will choose her only.

Hectorrr · Answer

I wouldn't do it. It's leading him on and I know both side of that. it happens but it's not a good thing unless you both intend to completely do just that and are 100% truthful about it

Stokes · Answer

Your kind probably wouldn't really get before the position is reversed.

jezuzthethird · Answer

Na thats fucked up unless you let him know how u feel before hand

MattHolbrook95 · Answer

I wouldn't personally. Thats just not what i believe. If you love someone you shouldn't be looking for anyone else. You also shouldn't be with someone if you don't love them and you obviously don't if you are trying to replace them.

Anonymous · Answer

Lolll what. No. Im fine being single and depending on myself for happiness and so should you. Don’t be selfish.

NatePsychologyMajor · Answer

No, if I am dating someone then she is the better one.

Anonymous · Answer

FUCK YOU and all of the women who play and use men like this. It hurts man, when we really put our heart and time Into a girl we think is the one. This is why I have trust issues

ultimega · Answer

So you mean to string them along.  A little cruel... dont you think?

Jimbojim · Answer

I was in a similar situation I think it's okay as long as you are both completely upfront and honest with each other

red_9 · Answer

I don’t think I’d date a guy until I find someone better, but I would talk to diff guys at once until I find the “one”.

anton_dmitri · Answer

I think it is mean and selfish to date someone just to "fill in the gap" till ur true love rides in...

flyLo · Answer

Playing with peoples feelings like that really changes a person and hurts them a lot. Just remember that as you do what you do

zuluowl1234 · Answer

No the person that you are dating if you put in the time she will do you good but if you are putting time in in two then really not giving a 100% to the one are you so you will lose in the end.

wbmav · Answer

That's a real asshole move. You're wasting this guy's time and giving him false hope. Wheres your empathy... How would you feel of someone did this to you?

christopherup · Answer

How is that fair to the other person people hurt good decent people because they are selfish I wouldn't do it i dont want to be the reason for someones pain

Anonymous · Answer

He thinks your the one? And you have interest long term in him that is just wasting his life for your own fulfillment. Let the guy go find another women.

Dismalificaus · Answer

You absolutely are using him and you know it. Imagine being with someone until they find a better option. That is something that could destroy a person. I couldn't do it. If I knew I wanted to break up with someone down the road, then I'd just do it

JinnRose · Answer

No. That's fucked up, rotten, selfish, and evil. Next question.

Thot_patrol · Answer

Wow you're a piece of shit. That's an awful thing to do. I feel so bad for him.

ryancg · Answer

I don't know. Typically, if I date someone, it's because I legitimately want to be with that person.

Solonas · Answer

I would not, and it's important to make it clear it's not serious ahead of time.

lord_chilled · Answer

I wouldn't do that. Why date someone when you dont see a future?

attrisumeet · Answer

I have no clue on this. Sorry my bad never been into this situation. But I think your current boyfriend deserves a second chance if things doesn't go well with the kind of person you are searching for. Hope I am not trying to be politically correct.

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