Do you prefer girls (or guys) who drink and party?

Do you prefer a girl that drinks and parties or a girl that doesn’t drink, smoke or party. Like I for instance I’m 24 I don’t drink, I only take an occasional celebratory shot if my friends buy it. I don’t smoke and will never do it. I don’t like the party scene either and have never been clubbing. I rather stay home or go to the movies, play laser tag, go bowling or just something other than clubbing. Would you consider me a boring person or would you date me?

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  • A girl that won’t drink smoke or party is a no go for me. She seems prudish and or fearful. I’d prefer a girl who doesn’t have a problem with and will partake in drinking, smoking, or partying but chooses to do it when she feels comfortable. For example: putting out my cigarette and telling me I shouldn’t do that or your breaking up with me=horrible controlling asshole. Refusing a cigarette I offered and deciding to go inside until I finish because the smell bothers you=girl I might stop smoking to date. Stopping me from drinking with my friends=buzzkill loser. Choosing to be the DD and asking to leave when being sober around a bunch of drunk people gets too taxing=cool person worth respecting. Saying no to marijuana and avoiding being around it=person I have no problem with because it’s illegal and not for everyone I get it. Spouting of facts about the dangers of weed and how only (insert condescending term) do it even though you’ve never tried it=annoying naive kid I probably won’t ever date. Drinking /smoking/partying until you pass out uncontrollably in unsafe place or create some type of public disturbance=person I avoid. So it’s not really about the acts of smoking drinking or partying that I judge you on but rather how you go about doing it

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    • This is exactly what I always mean. I tell people I don’t smoke or drink and they go “Good for you” as if I feel as if I’m better than them. Which is completely wrong. That’s my preference. I don’t mind people that do. The only thing I don’t like is clubbing. It’s not my scene. Id go but be uncomfortable. That’s why I listed my ideal hangout places or “dates”. I like more relaxed environments but it does not mean I judge those who aren’t different or am prudish.

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  • I don't mind people who don't drink, I have a few friends who are like that, but I think I would be more compatible with someone who does. I drink almost every weekend, I smoke, and I take light drugs occasionally, so I don't think someone like you and someone like me would ''click'' in a relationship.

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    • I don’t have anything against people that do drugs or smoke or drink and I would date someone like that. But that’s exactly my thought, like if someone that does that stuff would be ok with someone that didn’t do that or would want someone that can hang and do the same stuff. Thanks for your opinion!

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  • It's funny... if this was a few years ago when I was 24, I would have said yes to this post. Back in the day, I liked girls that partied, because they seemed so unattainable, so sexy and seemed very naughty. I mean... for any horny guy, a party girl seems like a catch.

    However... I could never get a party girl, because they were super unattainable. They only slept around and hung around with the guys who were extremely popular on the party circuit, they were very cliquish and were very narcissistic (always snapping everything every 2 minutes). Have you seen the girls that celebrities cheat on their wives with? Those are the kind of party girls I'm talking about.

    At age 27 (my current age), I am no longer into party women. They just aren't my type. A lot of party women think way too highly of themselves and act like they are god's gift to the world. I don't have time for a woman like that.

    I currently have a girlfriend, and she isn't the party type at all. We don't need to party to have fun. We typically go out to restaurants, book stores, concerts, the gym, salsa dancing or just relax inside... we keep it simple.

    I recommend that SMART men stay away from party girls. You don't need that in your life. Get yourself a girl who doesn't party and likes simple things.

    ASKER - you are not boring at all. You are a woman that men (smart men) would go for. Keep being you.

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  • Drinking and clubbing is boring to me. I prefer to have nights in or go bowling etc as well

    I'm past the partying stage, and I try to live a healthy lifestyle. So I'm only attracted to guys who are passed the partying stage , and guys who live a healthy lifestyle. Smoking is a deal-breaker for me

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  • I don’t prefer guys who get drunk and go clubbing
    Although I do think it’s a bit sexy when my man’s kisses taste like IPA or liquor 🙈 and he smokes but it doesn’t bother me. I think it’s kinda hot
    It would just bother me if he was always drunk and partying because at that point, it’s just obnoxious

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    • Lol I understand you. It is sexy in some way haha

  • Nah. Not into that. I’m so into what you’re into!! I would date you! I never had alcohol in my life, nor do I smoke. I like parties, but I avoid them. Lots of shit happens. Much rather go to the movies or arcade with my love

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  • Naaa I would want to some times enjoy dancing with you too. If we can play and mix at home and dance , also fine. I don't see any harm in going to clubs together. But at the same if you are a very interesting personality for me I would chuck clubbing with ya but share rest of my interests with ya

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    • I’m always dancing anyways whether there’s music or not lol

  • I prefer girls that are compatible with me. I smoke and drink with friends, not usually to find a girl. So, if I was out at the club who was similar in that aspect, I'd be into her more. Mostly on the aspect that she would be okay with me drinking or smoking

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    • Just because I don’t smoke or drink doesn’t mean I can't hangout with people that smoke or drink. My biggest thing is that I just don’t like the hectic clubbing scene and rather do fun stuff that people tend to do sober which at my age, some people might consider kiddish.

    • I'm not saying you can't, you can do whatever you want. I know a lot of people that think it's hectic too, and really I would agree it is hectic and not for everyone. It's not all drinking and smoking, I know a lot of people who would rather go disc golfing or play volleyball and that's completely fine

    • Really tho, drinking and/or smoking should be a small aspect of how someone is or what they do. Most people I know who do either are also down to go longboarding, play basketball, etc.

  • I would date someone like you. I would tend to trust you more, and those are more of my kinds of things too... But there is nothing wrong with a few beers by the river or next to a bon-fire either.

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    • Yeah I don’t mind hanging out with friends. I’m never gonna be like eww people are drinking nope. It’s just that sometimes you tell someone that you’re not a drinker or a partier and they assume you have a stick up your butt and avoid even trying to hangout. When I’m pretty chill and don’t need the liquid courage.

  • I'm the same way and have tried to date "party girls" and it unsurprisingly didn't work out. Social butterflies don't mix well with introverts, I thought I could find someone to break me out of my shell, but I realized there's nothing wrong with our lifestyle. I don't like crowds and people being stupid when they're drunk or high, so just going to a bar with a few friends once in awhile is plenty for me. You're not boring, just find similar people to hang with

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  • No, i prefer the women that are more quiet, shy, prefer to spend more time indoors watching movies, series and talking about interesting topics or going to calm and more natural places like parks, i don´t like party environments very much to be honest.

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  • For me its a turnoff if the guy goes clubbing. Once in like a year or special occasions sure. But those who do it every week? No thanks.
    I feel you hahah. I rather do something else as well. Movies or gaming nights are the best

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  • Prefer ones who don't go to clubs and get wasted all the time, well simply because I don't do it, i'll drink occasionally, go to the occasional party, but I hate clubs, smoking is a massive turn off too.

    I'm not like all guys, most of my friends and guys in general that I know seem to be more interested in the clubbing types (Probably because they are the clubbing types too).

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  • No. I appreciate a girl who can have a good time in a social gathering, but not someone who’s main priority is to drink and party like they’re a teenager. I’m a grown ass man with real life responsibilities, and I want a partner to share a life with. Not party with.

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  • ... without any hesitation, I'd make you my wife! XD you're literally perfect. Well, personally perfect.

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    • I get the wifey material comment all the time because I’m a homebody

    • Homebodies are the best types of people that's why. Lol

  • I think that a girl/boy who do not drink or go to party isn't boring.
    I don't like men who drink a lot and go often to party.
    So many girls are like you , i think more than 50% and they are not view as boring , maybe as you have 18-24 some people will think that you are boring because you are young but many guys prefer girls like you.
    And i want to say , boys like girls who drink , go to party ,... but it is ''only'' when they are 15-20 after that many guys like a ''good'' girl

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  • Nah. I’ve got nothing against those that love to do that stuff. I just feel sloppy drunk so I want a fairly sober man that’ll do other fun things with me.

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  • You sound like my kind of woman. I have the occasional apple ale around the house, but I voluntarily become the DD in any situation where I end up at a bar/social drinking situation with friends. I don't like partying, I've never been to the club. I'm a nerd that enjoys music and the occasional video game/movie

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  • No, that can lead to severe problems in the future, she can end up getting drunk and having intercourse with someone else, it happens a lot and that would cause big problems with her man, a clean relationship is better im not saying that you can't go to parties and stuff but if you do, take your man, try not to get wasted, if you are make sure you arrange that he doesn't

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  • sounds like fun to me laser tag I expect you to whoop my butt lol

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    • I would kick butt. Very competitive nature 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

  • i would gladly we with someone like you as long as you do not step on my personal deal breakers like
    Do You Hate Girls? Who act like assets of someone else? ↗
    things like this

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  • I think you should just be you some almost like that i like going to occasional parties but i hate clubs tho, i drink occasionally and will never smoke, and i think party guys will be interested in party girls, they are many guys with whom you can be compatible with unless you are attracted by the party guys.

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  • You aren't boring! Alcohol isn't the way to have fun and if you know how to have fun without it then you're good. I don't drink alcohol and I don't consider myself boring neither do my friends. So yeah, you're totally dateable even without alcohol😉

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  • Well I don't drink and I don't even smoke anymore. And I used to be very much against drinking.. like I wouldn't date a guy who would drink. But my current boyfriend now drinks quite a lot and i don't really care anymore. He smokes as well, and occasionally we do recreational drugs. He doesn't party tho.. I don't know if I would wanna date a guy who really partied tho.
    So I wouldn't consider you boring, probably more into things that I am

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  • I would seriously like to date a girl who isn't into parties and smoke n drinks
    I don't think that girls and boys are are not party animals or more social are boring, they are different, may be long drive sort of people who cherish every moment and not just the chilln party moments
    Date - is the call

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  • No you are greatest person to date you are the who mix up everything rather partying continuously u got various mix up and enjoy with the loved one that is really loveable every guy loves to have private time with the loved one it's really wonderful to date u...

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  • All the stuff you said sounds fun I don't think people like me who party really like party we like bug crowds why I like Coachella and concerts and festivals some people don't like it that is fine as long as two people like each other and get along nothing else matters

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  • No, I dont like party girls. Not to say they are all like this but the majority that I know use getting drunk as an excuse to sleep around (cheat on their partner). And personally I will never date a smoker, it's a disgusting habit.
    Drinking is fine so long as you aren't getting wasted everytime.

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  • You sound literally perfect. I do go to parties now and then, and when i do i drink, but i don't like the club scene or how phony people get. I would prefer to drink with my friends at home and just have fun instead. I also like it better just to stay at home and watch movies and stuff.

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  • Definitely not a boring character. There is nothing like only people who drink will enjoy. There are so many kind of healthy way of enjoyments like you said. People who are shy to speak out without alcohol generally drink when they go on a date. If you are easy enough to get along with your partner there is no need of alcohol and party. A calm place with mild music could do. And games and movies are better options so that the couple gets more to talk about.

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  • I don’t drink/smoke/do drugs so I prefer to be with someone who is on the same page as me. I feel so many people feel they need to be drunk to have a good time which I personally don’t.

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  • No, those girls are the ones who usually sleep around. I don't mind if a girl drinks every once in a while, but she knows her self worth and backs off guys who she knows aren't worth her time.

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  • No but I'm a little older and more settled down. In my youth yes. Because that's what I did. I would be considered boring myself lol. Or I've actually been told that haha. Anyways yup I'd date someone boring. It would be awesome. Life is what you make of it with the RIGHT person!

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  • It's not about taking drinks, parties or smoking. It is all about how much control do you have and true in a relationship. You doesn't seems boring but quite introvert. By your opinion itself it seems you are a lover of lonely place. that doesn't do much impression on boys. For me it's like cat on the wall for dating with you

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  • Would date a person like you as clubbing, Drinking or. smoking is someone's personal choice and most of all you can not expect somebody to be as u always wanted him/her to be. So it would be a completely different experience to date a person like you. It will be great.

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  • I don't really care for girls who drink/party/club... etc.

    You'd be just my type. We've got to meet the next time you are coming through my town...;)

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  • In my opinion, boys prefer girls who drink and party and get wasted irresponsibly. Men don’t.

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  • I drink sometimes with friends but only to get tipsy, never completely wasted as I personally see it as just stupid, and not in any way a fun kind of stupid. I did use to smoke but I don't anymore, and now I find it disgusting.

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  • I like girls who smoke and drink, wouldn't be able to be with a square

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    • I can watch you drink and smoke. Idc. I just don’t do it. I don’t discriminate on whether or not my partner drinks or smokes.

  • Prefer a girl who doesn't like to party but can get freaky in the bedroom

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  • These things are superficial. Be yourself. Clubbing, drinking, and smoking are not who you are, and so don't do it to try to seem like everyone else. That's just not what makes someone interesting. Haha laser tag definitely sounds more interesting! In fact, if you said all you wanted to do is drink smoke and party I probably wouldn't date you because it's bland.

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  • No get fucking smashed, don't listen to these losers, it'll be fun trust me

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    • I’ve never been drunk before. I’d probabky be sloppy cause I’ve got a natural high

  • No, I don't like girls who drink and party.
    I know how to have fun, I'm not a total loser, but heavy drinking isn't a part of my lifestyle.
    I'd rather get to know a girl who isn't in that phase.

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  • I'm gonna be blunt here. I prefer a girlfriend who knows how to relax, treat herself and go beyond the line occasionally for fun instead of a suck up, righteous girl.

    You know what I mean?

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  • I like people who don't complain or don't exude the "better than thou" attitude when I go out or talk about getting trashed. Not that I do it all the time, but when I'm talking about a fun night as long as the person isn't a Debbie downer about it they're cool. Often I'll offer to go out drinking and if the person refuses and doesn't go out of their way to suggest something they wanna do instead, I just take it as a sign they aren't interested in getting to know me and thus aren't worth my time either.

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  • Definitely it's not a sign of boringness rather you can say guys who do that those party thing you may call them as spoiler who ends up in something negative... Moreover, don't worry I'LL DATE YOU...

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  • Well, thats actually a good question.
    Talking about the 3 topics...
    I don't mind if a person likes to drink, but I do mind it when it's to much. People who drink to much normally do it because of the stress they are going trough, but drinking can't change the situation.
    About smoking... I am a science kinda guy, so I know smoking isn't going to help, and I know people smoke also because of stress, so when you say you don't smoke, and you don't want to even try it, it's a good sign, it means you can desl with stress and you know the unhealthy consequences that smoking may cause.
    About the" would you consider me boring"... of course not. A person who likes movies laser tag and bowling sounds awesome and very active too. So yes I would definitely date someone like you.

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    • It’s not that what I like is boring, is that I feel like some people would consider it to kiddish or childish I guess

    • Well it does make sense feeling that way, but if you have less than 25 years its just normal to like this activities.
      And many others like this activities too, so maybe for some people it's childish, but for others it's normal.
      And by the way, the only thing that matters is you feeling good doing the things you like

  • I'm a craft beer drinker, so drinking is ok because we can discover new beer together and talk about it. But for partying, that's gonna be a no because to my a "Large group of people is called a no thank you"

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  • You don't sound boring at all.
    If you're not into all that it's fine. Be yourself and stay true to yourself.
    I see no reason why someone wouldn't want to date you.

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  • This is my personal answer: I go clubbing to hang out with my friends and to find a potential girlfriend ( not verry active though) So when you don't club the change on finding will be lower because a lot of people go to clubs to potentially find someone. That said your not boring if you don't go to clubs or drink. But i do have noticed ( in my 40 days not drinking ) that when your at a party or just chilling with friends it's almost expected of you too drink, cause your less fun otherwise. But if your someone who can allready be very open when your chilling with friend/ at parties i dont care wheter you drink or not.
    And if you would be dating someone , the time spent at clubs usually ain't that big so it wouldn't be a big deal

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    • I totally get this. I was in a relationship for almost 11 years and now I’m newly single and i started talking to someone I met through mutual friends but I never tried to look for someone else. Im sure it would’ve been hard since the places I tend to hangout aren’t really the places where people go to mingle.

    • You can offcourse always try to approuch a guy. It just takes twice as much courage in a supermarket to make amove then in a club.

  • I don't care if she likes parties or smoking as long as we are compatible in the mentality. Also in looks

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  • Nah I don't consider you boring. Wish there were more girls like you. Most can't cook like their mom but drink like their dad. I don't consider a girl who drinks and smokes wife material

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