Do you prefer girls (or guys) who drink and party?

[Anonymous]

Do you prefer a girl that drinks and parties or a girl that doesn’t drink, smoke or party. Like I for instance I’m 24 I don’t drink, I only take an occasional celebratory shot if my friends buy it. I don’t smoke and will never do it. I don’t like the party scene either and have never been clubbing. I rather stay home or go to the movies, play laser tag, go bowling or just something other than clubbing. Would you consider me a boring person or would you date me?

[fashionguy17]

It's funny... if this was a few years ago when I was 24, I would have said yes to this post. Back in the day, I liked girls that partied, because they seemed so unattainable, so sexy and seemed very naughty. I mean... for any horny guy, a party girl seems like a catch.

However... I could never get a party girl, because they were super unattainable. They only slept around and hung around with the guys who were extremely popular on the party circuit, they were very cliquish and were very narcissistic (always snapping everything every 2 minutes). Have you seen the girls that celebrities cheat on their wives with? Those are the kind of party girls I'm talking about.

At age 27 (my current age), I am no longer into party women. They just aren't my type. A lot of party women think way too highly of themselves and act like they are god's gift to the world. I don't have time for a woman like that.

I currently have a girlfriend, and she isn't the party type at all. We don't need to party to have fun. We typically go out to restaurants, book stores, concerts, the gym, salsa dancing or just relax inside... we keep it simple.

I recommend that SMART men stay away from party girls. You don't need that in your life. Get yourself a girl who doesn't party and likes simple things.

ASKER - you are not boring at all. You are a woman that men (smart men) would go for. Keep being you.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

A girl that won’t drink smoke or party is a no go for me. She seems prudish and or fearful. I’d prefer a girl who doesn’t have a problem with and will partake in drinking, smoking, or partying but chooses to do it when she feels comfortable. For example: putting out my cigarette and telling me I shouldn’t do that or your breaking up with me=horrible controlling asshole. Refusing a cigarette I offered and deciding to go inside until I finish because the smell bothers you=girl I might stop smoking to date. Stopping me from drinking with my friends=buzzkill loser. Choosing to be the DD and asking to leave when being sober around a bunch of drunk people gets too taxing=cool person worth respecting. Saying no to marijuana and avoiding being around it=person I have no problem with because it’s illegal and not for everyone I get it. Spouting of facts about the dangers of weed and how only (insert condescending term) do it even though you’ve never tried it=annoying naive kid I probably won’t ever date. Drinking /smoking/partying until you pass out uncontrollably in unsafe place or create some type of public disturbance=person I avoid. So it’s not really about the acts of smoking drinking or partying that I judge you on but rather how you go about doing it

[Asker]

This is exactly what I always mean. I tell people I don’t smoke or drink and they go “Good for you” as if I feel as if I’m better than them. Which is completely wrong. That’s my preference. I don’t mind people that do. The only thing I don’t like is clubbing. It’s not my scene. Id go but be uncomfortable. That’s why I listed my ideal hangout places or “dates”. I like more relaxed environments but it does not mean I judge those who aren’t different or am prudish.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I like people who don't complain or don't exude the "better than thou" attitude when I go out or talk about getting trashed. Not that I do it all the time, but when I'm talking about a fun night as long as the person isn't a Debbie downer about it they're cool. Often I'll offer to go out drinking and if the person refuses and doesn't go out of their way to suggest something they wanna do instead, I just take it as a sign they aren't interested in getting to know me and thus aren't worth my time either.

[SnowWhite13]

I don’t prefer guys who get drunk and go clubbing
Although I do think it’s a bit sexy when my man’s kisses taste like IPA or liquor 🙈 and he smokes but it doesn’t bother me. I think it’s kinda hot
It would just bother me if he was always drunk and partying because at that point, it’s just obnoxious

[Asker]

Lol I understand you. It is sexy in some way haha

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Drinking and clubbing is boring to me. I prefer to have nights in or go bowling etc as well

I'm past the partying stage, and I try to live a healthy lifestyle. So I'm only attracted to guys who are passed the partying stage , and guys who live a healthy lifestyle. Smoking is a deal-breaker for me

[JulieXO]

I don't mind people who don't drink, I have a few friends who are like that, but I think I would be more compatible with someone who does. I drink almost every weekend, I smoke, and I take light drugs occasionally, so I don't think someone like you and someone like me would ''click'' in a relationship.

[Asker]

I don’t have anything against people that do drugs or smoke or drink and I would date someone like that. But that’s exactly my thought, like if someone that does that stuff would be ok with someone that didn’t do that or would want someone that can hang and do the same stuff. Thanks for your opinion!

[Nick-1999]

This is my personal answer: I go clubbing to hang out with my friends and to find a potential girlfriend ( not verry active though) So when you don't club the change on finding will be lower because a lot of people go to clubs to potentially find someone. That said your not boring if you don't go to clubs or drink. But i do have noticed ( in my 40 days not drinking ) that when your at a party or just chilling with friends it's almost expected of you too drink, cause your less fun otherwise. But if your someone who can allready be very open when your chilling with friend/ at parties i dont care wheter you drink or not.
And if you would be dating someone , the time spent at clubs usually ain't that big so it wouldn't be a big deal

[Asker]

I totally get this. I was in a relationship for almost 11 years and now I’m newly single and i started talking to someone I met through mutual friends but I never tried to look for someone else. Im sure it would’ve been hard since the places I tend to hangout aren’t really the places where people go to mingle.

[Nick-1999]

You can offcourse always try to approuch a guy. It just takes twice as much courage in a supermarket to make amove then in a club.

[redhoodttt]

Well, thats actually a good question.
Talking about the 3 topics...
I don't mind if a person likes to drink, but I do mind it when it's to much. People who drink to much normally do it because of the stress they are going trough, but drinking can't change the situation.
About smoking... I am a science kinda guy, so I know smoking isn't going to help, and I know people smoke also because of stress, so when you say you don't smoke, and you don't want to even try it, it's a good sign, it means you can desl with stress and you know the unhealthy consequences that smoking may cause.
About the" would you consider me boring"... of course not. A person who likes movies laser tag and bowling sounds awesome and very active too. So yes I would definitely date someone like you.

[Asker]

It’s not that what I like is boring, is that I feel like some people would consider it to kiddish or childish I guess

[redhoodttt]

Well it does make sense feeling that way, but if you have less than 25 years its just normal to like this activities.
And many others like this activities too, so maybe for some people it's childish, but for others it's normal.
And by the way, the only thing that matters is you feeling good doing the things you like

[rjroy3]

My preference is a girl with fairly similar habits to mine.
I don't smoke, but will have an occasional cigar. Months apart.
I drink occasionally/socially. If i'm drinking at a party I might drink too hard, too fast. But not blackout drunk, nor plastered on the regular.
I like to move around and chill with several people at a party.

So I like a girl who can do the same. In regards to this i'm only really turned off if she smokes, gets blackout drunk often and NEEDS to party all the time. I like to party, but I don't need to party. If she needs that all the time, then i'm not down for that. But in that same vein i'm up for going out every weekend xD. So I just need balance lol

[rjroy3]

Based on the description of yourself, I would be considering if you'll slow me down or not. I'd have to know more about you, in terms of actually deciding on whether or not i'd want to date you.

[Northern_star]

i haven't drink alcohol for the first 28 years of my life 😂 I had to get used to it because of business negotiations, yet i still get drunk with 3glasses of wine 🤣 but they say I look the same even then, so im cool.

to answer: generally I prefer ur kind. but what really matters for me is not wheter she drinks or parties, what matters is what she does when she's drunk.. i mean everyone has to know theirselves enough not to do disgusting things and then defending with "i was tol drunk" or "oh but we were having a good time" etc. if on the other hand she's just more jokey or sarcastic its cute sometimes.

[Northern_star]

oh and for the record:
you're not boring at all and would definitely date u with that trait. i think most men would agree on this.

but.. u gotta have to show some willingness to travel sometimes.. i love surfing 😅

[oftheHowl]

I'm the same way and have tried to date "party girls" and it unsurprisingly didn't work out. Social butterflies don't mix well with introverts, I thought I could find someone to break me out of my shell, but I realized there's nothing wrong with our lifestyle. I don't like crowds and people being stupid when they're drunk or high, so just going to a bar with a few friends once in awhile is plenty for me. You're not boring, just find similar people to hang with

[Bustax]

This mentality has spread around millenials and I think it is not true. It doesn't matter if you like partying, drinking or doing other vices, it will still boil down to another person's compatibility with you. My guess is the reason why people think that partying drinking and all is a thing is because they see that girls who does those things tend to get more guys and friends in general. Well it is true since technically what they are doing is socializing. But you can do so too in your own way. You prefer going bowling - there's a whole community waiting to meet you. Bottom line is, theoretically, yes I'd still date you regardless clubbing or no clubbing doesn't change the fact that you are you

[lomimore]

I think you should just be you some almost like that i like going to occasional parties but i hate clubs tho, i drink occasionally and will never smoke, and i think party guys will be interested in party girls, they are many guys with whom you can be compatible with unless you are attracted by the party guys.

[VegetaSSB]

No, i prefer the women that are more quiet, shy, prefer to spend more time indoors watching movies, series and talking about interesting topics or going to calm and more natural places like parks, i don´t like party environments very much to be honest.

[Buckzor]

Prefer ones who don't go to clubs and get wasted all the time, well simply because I don't do it, i'll drink occasionally, go to the occasional party, but I hate clubs, smoking is a massive turn off too.

I'm not like all guys, most of my friends and guys in general that I know seem to be more interested in the clubbing types (Probably because they are the clubbing types too).

[alyssattt]

Nah. Not into that. I’m so into what you’re into!! I would date you! I never had alcohol in my life, nor do I smoke. I like parties, but I avoid them. Lots of shit happens. Much rather go to the movies or arcade with my love

[alyssattt]

If you were a guy!!

[alyssattt]

LOOOL I forgot to add that😂but I would totally date a guy like that

[Asker]

Haha 😂

[PhePhL]

You sound like my kind of woman. I have the occasional apple ale around the house, but I voluntarily become the DD in any situation where I end up at a bar/social drinking situation with friends. I don't like partying, I've never been to the club. I'm a nerd that enjoys music and the occasional video game/movie

[mash-zz]

Naaa I would want to some times enjoy dancing with you too. If we can play and mix at home and dance , also fine. I don't see any harm in going to clubs together. But at the same if you are a very interesting personality for me I would chuck clubbing with ya but share rest of my interests with ya

[Asker]

I’m always dancing anyways whether there’s music or not lol

[Nik1hil]

i would gladly we with someone like you as long as you do not step on my personal deal breakers like
Do You Hate Girls? Who act like assets of someone else? ↗
things like this

[TjVan345]

I prefer girls that are compatible with me. I smoke and drink with friends, not usually to find a girl. So, if I was out at the club who was similar in that aspect, I'd be into her more. Mostly on the aspect that she would be okay with me drinking or smoking

[Asker]

Just because I don’t smoke or drink doesn’t mean I can't hangout with people that smoke or drink. My biggest thing is that I just don’t like the hectic clubbing scene and rather do fun stuff that people tend to do sober which at my age, some people might consider kiddish.

[TjVan345]

I'm not saying you can't, you can do whatever you want. I know a lot of people that think it's hectic too, and really I would agree it is hectic and not for everyone. It's not all drinking and smoking, I know a lot of people who would rather go disc golfing or play volleyball and that's completely fine

[TjVan345]

Really tho, drinking and/or smoking should be a small aspect of how someone is or what they do. Most people I know who do either are also down to go longboarding, play basketball, etc.

[Itismeagain]

Well I don't drink and I don't even smoke anymore. And I used to be very much against drinking.. like I wouldn't date a guy who would drink. But my current boyfriend now drinks quite a lot and i don't really care anymore. He smokes as well, and occasionally we do recreational drugs. He doesn't party tho.. I don't know if I would wanna date a guy who really partied tho.
So I wouldn't consider you boring, probably more into things that I am

[shadowhawk082793]

All the stuff you said sounds fun I don't think people like me who party really like party we like bug crowds why I like Coachella and concerts and festivals some people don't like it that is fine as long as two people like each other and get along nothing else matters

[chriscdi]

No, that can lead to severe problems in the future, she can end up getting drunk and having intercourse with someone else, it happens a lot and that would cause big problems with her man, a clean relationship is better im not saying that you can't go to parties and stuff but if you do, take your man, try not to get wasted, if you are make sure you arrange that he doesn't

[pure7]

For me its a turnoff if the guy goes clubbing. Once in like a year or special occasions sure. But those who do it every week? No thanks.
I feel you hahah. I rather do something else as well. Movies or gaming nights are the best

[Brand-O]

I would date someone like you. I would tend to trust you more, and those are more of my kinds of things too... But there is nothing wrong with a few beers by the river or next to a bon-fire either.

[Asker]

Yeah I don’t mind hanging out with friends. I’m never gonna be like eww people are drinking nope. It’s just that sometimes you tell someone that you’re not a drinker or a partier and they assume you have a stick up your butt and avoid even trying to hangout. When I’m pretty chill and don’t need the liquid courage.

[Anonymous]

I think we almost have the same quality. I mean I don't do clubbing, smoking (and I will never ever smoke) but I do drink occasionally. And to answer your question, I prefer to have a guy who doesn't like to party but also drink occasionally.

When I say drink, I mean drinking alcohol but not getting yourself drunk...

[styleking]

Yeah drinking in limit once in a blue moon...