Another guy keeps hitting on my girlfriend, should I confront him about it?

She's told him about me but he still hits on her anyway, she's a musician and so is the other guy, so I that's why he likes her. She's tried telling him but it doesn't seem to be working, should I confront him myself?

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  • Tell Ur girlfriend that she should say yes, next time when he comes and ask her out for dinner. Then when they start with ordering drinks u come give her a kiss ( I would slap her ass or pee on her like dogs do with trees. That shows the most guys who she belongs too) and say hey baby sorry for being late. Then u spend a nice evening with him and ure girlfriend. In that evening u should be able to make it clear without telling him directly. But he will understand.

    If he still doesn’t stop!!! Think about what dogs do with trees.

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    • what tf is wrong w u? women are not dogs!!! what u said was completely sexist

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    • @finds-raus I wonder you'd ever get your tree being such a dog & @Rubyrose1 that's not just sexist, it's anti-human... I hope he's in his right mind & it's not just drugs doing that to him lol

    • LOL dogs on tree. XD

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  • What about she stops talking to him. I can tell you from experience that, unless the guys is a sex offender, he only goes as far as the girl let's him.
    If he's still bothering her, is because she leads him on.

    How are you skills at complimenting your girl? Do you do it often?

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    • Yes, often

    • This girl knows what she is saying

    • I honestly don't think you should get involved. But she surely should tell the guy to fuck off, or just stop talking to him.

      It's in her hands.

      Think about it, if she says she has a boyfriend but keeps chatting with him, he'll get the idea she WANTS to talk to him. Of course a good person would back off, but put yourself in his shoes: you're interested in a girl who happens to have a boyfriend, but she keeps leading you on. Unless you know the guy, you probably won't give a fuck about him.

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  • If she has exhausted all her effort and the dude is still not taking the hint and its bothering her then yeah I would say to confront the guy but after you talk to her and see how she feels on it. How has she put it to him? Maybe she wasn't clear possibly?

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    • I hadn't thought of that but I'll bet dollars to donuts you're right Figen. Good call. I'll disagree on this though, he should have confronted the guy (diplomatically st first) the moment he found out and handled it for her. That's what boyfriends are for. ... Geez I got to get a life but love seeing how young people think on this. Anyway, you're smarter than me, I'll bet she wasn't clear. Either way, kid and his girl are being disrespected at this point and this is why respect must be earned.

    • He can't fight all her battles for her lol. She has a mouth and needs to learn how to use it and make it known and be clear. The time for him to step in is if she needs him too little. I'm guessing that's why she went to him with the info unless it was for something childish like to make him jealous perhaps or she is attn hungry and want people to fight for her, dunno just throwing things out there lol

    • Ignore the little, fucking auto correct lol.

  • If your around when he does it then I would confront him but I wouldn't go out of my way to find him and tell him off.

    What I would do is flirt more with your girl and talk to her about it. Ask if she wants to role play you hitting on her and her turning you down. It could get pretty fun and funny.

    I'm sure you know this already but, women are not helpless so I would let her handle it unless he became aggressive. Being jealous is a huge waist of energy and is exhausting.

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  • Don’t get yourself in a fight. She needs to put him in his place and it should stop if it’s don’t right. I was in a similar situation once but I put my foot down and he stayed in his lane. She can’t be friendly with him after he’s crossed that line either... no mix signals. Good luck

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  • 1. No, because the more he forces it, the more she'll dislike him. She's not trying hard enough. Desperation absolutely disgusting and she will get sick of that shit.
    2. Yes, if you think she's doesn't understand the psychology of males or she is too nice/weak.
    3. Fun "joke" option: Gaslight her if you think she's pulling some triangulation jealousy bullshit to manipulate you.

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  • He's going to take that as you being insecure. If he's really bothering her, she needs to assert herself and threaten legal action if he won't quit. That's harassment.

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    • It’s really not

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    • @balthazarsmith thank you haha too many people are snowflakes and “offended” these days. Damn grow up a little and get some thicker skin!!

    • Firstly, feminism has become a form of domestic terrorism, that is is ruining this country. I'm not some libtard that thinks all sex is rape.

      Secondly, I believe more women should take the initiative to make the first move, and help eliminate some of the bullshit and drama of dating.

      Thirdly, did either of you read the part where OP said that this guy has been told multiple times by his girl that she's has boyfriend, isn't interested, and he's still trying? Textbook harassment, by legal definition.

  • Well you could if you uhink he will back off because whatnif he doesn't.. he may get the message or he may be a nutcase... but these days what he is doing is considered harrassment maybe your girlfriend can inform of that and if he doesn't stop he will be reported.

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  • If you trust her, just leave it alone. Those guys take care of themselves eventually. he will get frustrated and make an ass of himself, or he will give up.

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  • Are you f'n kidding? I just joined here and see you are younger. Is this a serious question? Or you being ridiculous to get ridiculous responses? If you close your eyes hard enough that bad man is sure to go away. (Your girlfriend with him by the way) Good Lord man! If you're serious, How can you allow her and yourself to be disrespected like that? More guys are gonna do it if by some miracle she stays with you. Its YOUR job not here to solve that fella.

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    • Kid, if your being serious, let me know. Your question just surprised me. I'll try to help ya.

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    • Yes, I am being serious

    • She's also one who likes to handle things on her own so I've been staying out of it at the risk of not making her feel like she can't handle it. She's a feminist type.

  • Let me see if I can even write anything on this board.. seems everywhere I go somebody has either got me blocked and won't let me post. Dont you just hate it when things are going good and out of nowhere and you continue a conversation and they blocked you. I dont understand. Not even a little. No deceny to write you or at least explain. Ghosting is very much alive these days.

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  • Absolutely men have 1 basic rule that everyman will take over anything else and thats family easiest way to get your ass kicked is to fuck with a mans family however if you guys aren't to serious i would ask her how she feels and if it makes her uncomfortable or not if so yes if not i wouldn't worry about it

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  • You could do that, but if he ignores you, carries on and you do nothing about it then you're just gonna look like a bitch to him. Really she should just stop talking to him at all if he tries again.

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  • That would be the thing to do, im not saying like "yo thats my girl you pussy" type of shit, more like calmly say "_____ is my girlfriend and it seems disrespectful that she told you about me and you dont listen" you see what goes from there

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  • Trust me. That's not WHY he likes her.
    She should be able to handle it by being very clear and drawing the boundary.
    Make sure you have all the facts before you confront this guy.
    And make sure he's not an MMA fighter

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  • Confront him legally. Don't ever commit a street fight. He should regret it. It's a shame that you are seeking permission. But still it's a great thing you are seeking an advice. For me this looks like a fake question for girls from the karate kid.

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  • If you trust your girlfriend then you shouldn’t have anything to worry about anyway, but make it know to the guy that you know what he’s doing and you’d like him to stop! If it continues have a more stern conversation with him

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  • If she did her part by turning him down, do yours if the guy is still hitting on her. BUT, do it with words first. If he doesn't listen and things get even worse, then... yeah..."eat him alive".

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  • Yes! Don't let some guy steal your girlfriend... how ever If she disregards his actions and stays loyal to you.. you have no problem. If she attempts to advance.. you need to talk to her...

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  • She needs to make herself crystal clear, if that doesn't work then you have to have a conversation with him

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  • I would, thats just downright insulting and disrespectful, and as for your girlfriend she should either tell him that they can't be friends if he is going to act like that towards her as it's making her feel uncomfortable or again firmly tell him to stop or they won't be able to have a friendship, you should tell him in a non aggressive way but make your point clear. And let him know that you know EVERYTHING that is being said by him to her. Also talk to your girlfriend and tell her how it's upsetting, and ask her how she would feel in the situation should it be reversed. Good Luck, he sounds like a right asshole!

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  • Listen to the pink users that say she should be able to tell him to fuck off herself. My guess she is still acting nice to him, either she likes the attention or she is just passive/docile and stupid. Many guys have fucked girls that have boyfriends so her saying that she has a boyfriend doesn't automatically keep him away.
    Now talk about it with her but do not accuse her otherwise she thinks u are insecure. Just tell her if she stays friendly with him and if she doesn't tell him to fuck off, he will continue. Tell her u would confront him but u think she is not helpless and its up to her to make it stop if she wants him to stop.

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  • No, tell her to put him in his place - unless of course she likes it, then it shouldn't be him you're mad at.

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  • If she is allowing it to happen and not simply telling him to go away I would say she is enjoying it and you need to look harder at your relationship.

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  • You should before he starts harassing her and things get out of hand

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  • She wants you to protect her always in the end so yes you should confront him, make a scene if you have to but he needs to get the message.

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  • She needs to stop talking to him... if she is talking to him... and yes u need to confront him because if u don't if can lead to break up

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  • Absolutely. Tell that mother fucker to back the fuck up off your girl. If he doesn’t listen, smash him out

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  • She should just kick him in the balls and ask him if he gets the message now? Then he should back bnb off.

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  • look if he is really hiting on her yes you should go ant tell him to get away from her cause he has a problem

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  • Yeah. Just don't resort to violence unless he attacks you first.

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  • Not yet. Tell her to very bluntly tell him to fuck off. If he keeps pressing it one or two more times, confront him.

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  • You need to confront him. You don’t know what this guy is saying, or what he might do.

    Don’t make the same mistake I did.

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  • You should. Don't resort to violence but both your girlfriend and this guy need to know where you stand on the matter.

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  • Let the buck know he's pissing you off. If he continues, let him know where the line is. Don't let him cross the line.

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  • Yes, step in but politely. Tell your girl though before you do it, cause you would want this guy to then start being mean to her or something.

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  • Confront him in a good manner. Hopefully he'll be understanding.

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  • No. It's her thing to deal with, but definitely give him mean glares when you're with her.

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  • Beat that guy already, I don't know hit him with a beer or something.. or you know what? Try asking his mom out :)

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  • No it depends on your girlfriend if your girlfriend is not interested, , let her confront him , and tell him she's not interested then you doing it

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  • I think it's better if she tells him. As long as she is able to handle the situation, you shouldn't interfere. But that's me ":)

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  • Well if you confront him mske sure you dont do anything stupid.

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  • Don't let it escalate. But don't let it slide just like that.

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  • Yeah, stand up for your girl man, sock him if you have too

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  • Are you sure he’s hitting on her and not just being nice?

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    • She wouldn't lie to me.

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    • Lol what a sexist pig. Reported 😂

    • Anyway.
      I didn’t realize she told you he’s hitting on her. Thought it was just something you observed
      In that case, I’d say take care of it. Especially if it’s making her uncomfortable. I know I’d want my man to take care of it

  • Unless you intend to go to jail for the lady then it's her shit to handle.

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  • Is she in a threatened position? If not, it is up to her to deal with it.

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  • Bust his mouth then hit him hard as you can least twice

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  • Yes, surprise him and punch him in the cocks as hard as you can

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  • Beat the fuck out of him and tell him to leave her alone

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  • If I were you, I'd tell the guy to back off or else he'll get punched in the face

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  • Damn right. and if that doesn't work break his knees and bury him 10 feet down lmao

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