This guy keeps hitting on my girlfriend

[randomguy949]

So a friend of my girlfriend keeps hitting on her. He is very persistent and even tried holding her hand the other day. She has told him numerous times to stop and she only loves me like that. He doesn't really listen and keeps trying. She doesn't wanna lose her friendship with him but I think she needs to be more assertive and tell him if he doesn't stop their friendship is over. I don't personally know the guy myself so I can't even talk to him. What should I do?

[Love-Lynne]

You need to talk to your girl friend. It is bothering you and you are in a serious relationship she should respect your opinion and tell him to back off. Now I have had some over protective boyfriends and if a guy did that to me after I tell him to stop they step in and " take care of it" now I hate fighting that's why I am not in those Relationships anymore, but I don't let a guy walk all over me and if he doesn't listen to me asking him nicely to stop that's when I stop being his friend because he doesn't respect me or my life.

[randomguy949]

I like your attitude, I think she's just too shy to give him an ultimatum like that. I'm gonna tell her what the anonymous guy said about their friendship already being lost. He told her he doesn't think he can be just friends.

[Eiffelgirl21]

There is a time and place when one needs to stop being friends with a guy. And, this is that time.

May I ask, why she wants to maintain a friendship? Sounds like she likes the attention...Because, if a guy wanted to date me and I was even BEST friends with him, and I had a boyfriend, I would stop talking to the guy. #1 -It would be uncomfortable. #2 -It would be the RIGHT thing to do for my boyfriend, to make him comfortable.

[NoOneListens21]

I think you should tell her that she should make it clear that she is in a relationship with you and not him and it's not appropriate for him to hold her hand while she is with you especially since she has a problem with it. She should tell him that she values their friendship but she would appreciate it if he would stop because it makes her uncomfortable and hope he understands...and if he is a good friend then he will.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your girlfriend. Something needs to change. Either she's not giving a clear enough message or he's not accepting her message.

You need to explain to your girlfriend that her friendship is already over. This guy doesn't want to be friends anymore, he wants to be more. She needs to understand that she can't have her cake and eat it, too.

[randomguy949]

good point he has already told her he doesn't think he could just be friends

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly... there is no "going back" or "staying just friends"... that ship has sailed. She needs to understand that she's now deciding between continuing to lead him on (continuing to hang out/spend time with him is now leading him on) or turning down his advances.

[randomguy949]

Yeah I'm going to tell her this I think it'll put things into a new light for her

[Brando]

I agree, she needs to be assertive at point. He's not getting the point now so she needs to be firm with him and tell him that he really needs to respect boundaries.

[SLASH]

if she respects your relationship she will stop talking to this guy. since he is disrespecting your relationship and she is continuing to hang out with she is enabling it to go on. There are certain boundaries that need to be kept

[Hades]

If that guy was a true friend to your girlfriend he would respect you both and leave her alone. Tell your girlfriend to make that clear to him, and stop talking to him all together if it continues.

[randomguy949]

Yeah she finally did, he seems almost obsessive though so I have a feeling he's not gonna give up.

[Hades]

Jesus, what a creepy loser that guy is. This sounds like it might be a job for the restraining order!

[sweet_18]

Doesn't matter if you don't know him. Man up and go tell him to stop.

[Hades]

Why can't his girlfriend woman up and tell him to stop?

[sweet_18]

well obviously she's not doing it so he needs to do it

[Anonymous]

You should do nothing. Have her walk up to the guy and make it 100% clear that she doesn't like him that way and to stop trying.

[irykiryk]

Open a can of whoop ass on him.