This guy keeps touching my girl?

[taureanZay]

A mutual friend of my girlfriend and I keeps touching her. It’s not like blatantly sexual but he does playfully touch her hair or rub her shoulder when asking if she’s ok. He went over to her and picked her up in the air right in front of me. He picked her up and spent her around. He’s always picking her up and putting her on his back. When they hug he can’t just do a simple hug like every other friend, he has to be extra and pick her up while hugging her. At first I tried to play it cool cause I didn’t want her to think I’m jealous since we are all close friends in this friend group. But It makes me mad af to the point where I finally snapped. I caught dude picking her up in the air again and I lost it. I smacked dude and just grabbed her by her arm and threw her in the car. Now everybody thinks I’m abusive and controlling. Her friends are telling her to leave me and now she won’t talk to me. I didn’t even hit her though! I just grabbed her arm! I admit I was too aggressive but y’all should’ve saw how he was holding her. How should I handle this situation. I’m asking cause I haven’t talked to her in a week and I’m desperate to get her back

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately the reality is that you have just shit the bed and you have tiny little faggot balls which is why you just threw your rattle at some guy and started crying.

There is no way back from this it is a learning experience.

The long and the short of it is that you dont get to choose what other people do, you can either be ok with it or you can decide that it isn't for you and walk away from it.

You chose, or rather your unchecked emotions chose for you to let your retarded lizard brain use violence to try to control the situation because you are violent and controlling.

This was the relationship equivilent of breaking down into some ugly, grizzly, snot nosed crying over a dropped ice cream cone.

The most embarrassing and shameful part by far is that there is still a part of you that is desperately clinging to the idea that you are a big man who stood up for himself.

You probably want to hit me too dontcha buddy?

Well go on then, I'm not scared of you and you will come off worse every single time until you learn to grow up.

[taureanZay]

Ok so let’s see how you’d react if some dude was all over your wife

[Opinion Owner]

I already explained it you fucking retard.

[MrOracle]

You screwed up.

Here's what you were supposed to do:

1. Talk to HER and explain why this guy touching her is inappropriate, and let HER deal with it. Likely, if SHE had told him to back off, things would have ended right there.

2. If she had talked to him, and he continued to do it, then YOU talk to him, and explain that it's inappropriate.

3. If he continues, THEN you BEAT HIS ASS.

In no situation do you grab your girl like you did, and you don't get to go 0-100 like you did. You are presumably an adult - a man - and you need to learn to handle your business the right way. This is a situation that needed to be handled, certainly - you'd have been wrong to just ignore it - but you need to handle things the RIGHT WAY. And that means giving someone an opportunity to correct their behavior BEFORE you correct them.

By doing things wrong, you have done serious - possibly permanent - damage to your relationship and your reputation, and put yourself in the awkward situation of having to apologize to people. And that's your next step: you need to apologize, and acknowledge to everyone that you KNOW you handled it wrong, and that in the future, you will use your words first AND not take it out on your girl.

[Friendlybro79]

You are abusive and controlling you freaking imbecile. Hitting a guy over this is absolutely childish and you're lucky he didn't have you arrested for assault. If you don't understand why this is wrong go speak to a therapist because you clearly need one.

Fyi you handle that situation by talking to your girlfriend about it like an adult and seeing if there's a way the both of you should and can address it.

[Guy13]

You have to put an end to that. She needs to say no unless she’s wanting him. Time for some private conversation

[taureanZay]

I tried talking to her and she says I’m bein insecure and I’m just starting drama because dude owes me money. It’s not about the money though

[aoihewgf]

I understand your heightened reaction but if your girlfriend not verbally or through her body motions, why stay? You definitely got to be careful though

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Tell him if he touches her again, you'll beat his face in so bad the surgeon will have to take skin from his ass

[Shamalien]

Everyone is so fucked these days. You had every right to do what you did but this girl probably doesn’t see it that way. The guy knows damn well what he’s doing tho and in my opinion I would have talked to him in private

[Friendlybro79]

@Shamalien he doesn't have the right to hit him over this in a land with laws. You're the one that is fucked up. Your macho bull shit makes you weak.

[Shamalien]

@Friendlybro79 fuck your fake laws and fuck yoy

[Friendlybro79]

Hahahahahaha

[Luopio27]

All you can do now is apologise to the guy, apologise to your x or current gir and her friends. You can't change the past nor write her feelings to your favor.

[Twalli]

Why did you think not talking about it was the best course of action after it started bugging you?

[taureanZay]

Because everyone in our friend group downplays it. It’s kind of normalized to the rest of our friends and I didn’t wanna seem insecure.

[Twalli]

You could just tell her that it makes you uncomfortable in private and go from there. The issue is that to her and her friends, your reaction seems extremely severe and unprovoked. If you had told her that it made you feel uncomfortable or told him that you'd prefer he didn't do that, then your reaction would make a lot more sense. Your reaction makes perfect sense to you, and to any mind reader who could see the same turmoil it was causing you. Yet as none of that friend group possesses that skill, they didn't know why you SUDDENLY had an issue with it.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him about it