The lack of male attention I receive makes me feel less of a woman. Is that weird? (Page 2)

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I don’t understand why guys think they always make the first move. In my experience, I always had to be the one to talk to them first. And now that I’m older, I’m just the friend. I’m not the one that goes on dates or a potential life partner. The lack of attention from males is making me feel less like a woman. I don’t really know how to describe it, but it’s like when my students call me Ms. so and so, I cringe because I’d rather just go by my first name. The female label of ‘Ms.’ has now become uncomfortable because I don’t feel like I’ve done enough in my life to be a real woman other than being born with female reproductive parts. Or dresses that I once thought were beautiful just don’t seem like they were made for me, that I don’t belong in them. But I’m not gay or neutral. I want a guy. And I want kids. I’m just not understanding what about me is so unattractive to the opposite sex. It used to be that I felt just not pretty but now I feel less feminine, too.

Bananaman177 · Answer

So, it sounds like you now know how 80% of guys feel for their whole lives. But who cares, guys don't have feelings! They're made of rubber.

WalterRadio · Answer

If you posted a photo, maybe someone could help you. Otherwise, nothing anyone says would be relevant.

enigmatic236 · Answer

I do not think that it is weird, especially if it's something you are so accustomed to. What you do need to realize is that you do not need the attention of others to make yourself feel beautiful.

Canuckto · Answer

Well blame it on women as a whole who feel entitled to be courted while sleeping with other guys. Most guys have given up on dating. On top of that a lot of women don't want to be approached and considered it creepy or harassment.

madgoat · Answer

Sounds like you are missing feeling cherished. And perhaps you'd find that having a man in your life would help underline that you are a woman.

NathanStrat · Answer

Update with a photo, im blunt but need to know what ya look like to make a suggestion.

A-man-22 · Answer

Get the mentality the guys need to be coming to you out of your head. You can totally get guys attention but you have to get it from them. Guys now a days won't spoon feed you attention.

rsALEX · Answer

Try tinder or OkCupid, I've had friends like that who had a lot of success. Unfortunately I've had none. You could also invite guys you like for drinks and then ask would they like to hang out more. And then pop the question

cherryphi82 · Answer

Yeah, I know how you feel. I was like that for a long time.

Skullpool · Answer

When we feel bad inside, people note this at the outside. You might be sure of yourself and some day someone will want you as your are. Something that helps a lot it's being comprehensive

Talldee · Answer

I get how you feel. If you want to talk more about it you can add me in Skype daltontb6662
Truth be told I just want to talk to someone that's the opposite sec of me about how we can never find someone

bongger · Answer

Relax, you just didn't find someone that suits you yet, stay positive and have confidence. You could play the hard and all of that and it will bring you attention but those don't last long. Have patience.

zainnnn · Answer

It's not you it's your surroundings the way the society around you has responded to you, don't stress upon the fact that you should be requiring male attention, you just need to find someone who is worth it 🤔

RicoSuave123 · Answer

send me a picture I wanna see what you look like  and yes the human race is shallow accept it and move on

Gedaria · Answer

Don't worry about it. It not the end of the world , sadly when you do get someone it maybe an anti-climax...

Rickardolow · Answer

1st I would pray to God. There is always someone who appreciates you for you. Go to other places you have not gone. Be careful that you don't get taken for granted.

MindTime · Answer

It's natural to want to feel desired, hopefully someone notices you soon 🙏

Anonymous · Answer

I get what you mean and guys don't make it any better. Especially my close guy friends. They bring me down and make me feel lesser than every other woman. I don't really know what to tell you about it, but just know you aren't the only one. :)

freakingMagma · Answer

I had d same problem then I was able to crack it. Ping me on personal chat... and we cn discuss... I can tell you exact Why... Not sure how PM works here... freakingmagma@yahoo. com

BabyKrakatau · Answer

All this stuff you're describing: It's all in your mind and that means it's not real and can be fixed. You're the only one who can do that though. You don't have to conform to society's benchmarks and other people's opinions. Listen carefully to your emotions and adjust the way you think in order to feel happy.

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