Is Tinder a good idea?

Question

I really want to be in a relationship, by that i mean I've been really lonely and i really would just like to have someone whos there for me and someone who can make me smile and someone I can call my best friend and make out with whenever i feel like 😂( so that last point was obviously my teenage hormones speaking) 
Anyway I'm a bit of an introvert amd its really hard for me to start new convosatsions and meet new people which is probably why i haven't had a boyfriend yet. 
I've been cinsiderimg starting tinder in order to meet new people but im affraid all the guys on tinder are just there to try hook up woth multiple girls and aren't actually looking for something serious. So what are your thoughts?

Blu2th · Accepted Answer

Ehhh... be careful. Tinder isn't a good idea in my opinion. I might be paranoid but personally I wouldn't want you meeting somebody else online in person if you've only known each other for a couple of days.

Secondly the loneliness? It will get better, I promise you. You don't have to have the hottest guy (or girl. Whatever you're into, I don't judge) around to be happy.

Lastly the introverted side of you can be helped. I used to be an introvert to the point where it disturbed my mother, but now she complains about my friends trashing my house.

I helped my grandfather teach some classes for primitive skills, and I was forced to talk to people I didn't know. Honestly, it was a living hell for me lol, but after I got comfortable with it, things got easier.

Next time you're at the gas station or something, ask the clerk how their day is going. Volunteer for something at a local pet shelter, whatever really.

Talking to people is easy. A lot of them want to talk about themselves, so ask them questions about themselves and you'll be surprised at how little taking you will be doing lol.

CheckPlease · Accepted Answer

Online dating pretty much does not work from me and my female friend experience. It is a shallow way to meet people. Especially for girls. Most are just on there for attention and to see how many men actually like them. After they go through a ton of pointless messages they feel validated and dont respond. Now the guys go through every girl they find hot and send her a message hoping she. Picks them which rarely happens.

Patriciiaa_ · Accepted Answer

First of all. Yes there are a lot of people there that just want to hook up. BUT my boyfriend and i met through tinder and we are now living together for almost two years. So yes there are some people that want the same thing as you do.

But you don't need to start a relationship because you want one. And you really don't have to search for one. It need to happen naturally, if you force it it will never work out. My boyfriend and i were friends and it developed in something more. If you find the right person everything will work out just fine.. but if you start 'searching' you will be disappointed in the end. And i don't want that for you to happen.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most guys on dating apps are just looking to get lucky. Some are hostile. Some are mentally unstable. Tinder is literally like a box of chocolates, because you never know what nuts you’re going to encounter and which ones may pose a risk to your health.
I wouldn’t recommend it for you. If anything, join some clubs at school, go to school sports games, just get more active on campus and it will be more likely that you will meet someone at school.

fierypoos · Accepted Answer

Tinder is a great way to get laid personally I didn't like it much it's addicting, I met up with one guy and then he stopped talking to me , I worked out he was full of shit and lies , so I wouldn't recommend it unless you just wanna get some

curiouskitten86 · Accepted Answer

Try OkCupid instead. It's free, has comprehensive profile, good matching system so long as you put effort into answering questions, and is a user-friendly website/app.

coachTanthony · Answer

Use Bumble or Match and if you don't like someone just block them and move on.. Skip Tinder!

Sociopathvictim · Answer

introvert.. well you'll need to start getting out a bit so look into a social club for girls your age. A girl i know.. ok it sounds a bit daft.. but she liked it, she joined a nerf gun club and met a guy there. Girls like charities and are usually around your age so you might find a guy there.
Another way is just meeting up with your friends and you might find yourself talking to a guy in your meetups. teenagers hang around at malls.. you could sit next to a guy you like... i sat in a mall and a girl sat near me and eyed me up so i said hi and we became friends and she wanted to do all the things you said.

youngpapichulo · Answer

Just spot out the people who just want to have sex and the one who really want to be with you it would be hard to do that because a lot of people now a days just want sex but there are some guys out there who really want a relationship just have to find out which one of those are the one and tinder is an okay app best option is trying to be more open in life and talk to people you see because if your on tinder your just kind of winging it someone people might not be who they are or might just want nude so best think is talk to people off social media

SirMavane · Answer

Honestly, tinder is probably not the best, but works well enough for girls. For guys its not going to work unless you really are top of the bunch. But you can try it out as long as you're carefull enough. If you want to ask something about tinder or just want someone to try and keep a conversation with just shoot me a pm (and no don't worry, I won't try to romance you, its not what I'm here for)

nickelknight · Answer

I hear its good, friends and ramdom people I've met swear it is the best hook up app. But I've had 2 profiles for over twwo years and had premium for like 2 or 3 months in the years I've had it I've had maybe 20-30 matches total. Most where just no reply. Some were spam bots. And only 2 conversations, each with someone that seemed to just be leading me on, never actually wanted to meet, even at a public place like starbucks for a hot coco. So friends still say its "the best" i say wtf why they lie.

ItsMeDoodles · Answer

Just play video games, it’ll make all your problems disappear, also, then I’d have someone to play video games with. Just messing around, as a lonely person, I was considering this too, but as a guy, I do recognize tinder as the hookup app it is.

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest, as a fellow introvert, tinder isn't that great. Spoke with a few people, managed to get some numbers, then when organising to meet up it all fizzles out or you get some lame excuse. I am looking for something serious/meet new people, but yeah haha.

4everAlonexD · Answer

Tinder is DEFINITELY not the right place to go for a relationship lol. Especially if you're 17. That app is basically made for quick meet ups to have sex. I recommend meeting people irl, even though it might be hard. Either that, or as coachtanthony said, Bumble or Match is usually a bit better at this kind of stuff. Feel free to DM me though if you want more advice ^^

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

For a woman that's just trolling for cock, or a man that's either Thuggy McThugtrash or a professional rugby playing neurosurgeon male model, sure, Tinder is fine.

For anyone else, it's a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

Well you're too young for Tinder, so please don't unless you want to destroy someone's life possibly.
Tinder is mostly about hooking up. You might find some variation, but majority of it is about sex. Try a different site like OKC or POF if you want something different (when you're 18...)

aceexp · Answer

Pretty much what sociopathvictim said. To try and go out more. I've had no luck on tinder. One message and I get unmatched. You can try if you want, but it's hard to find anything that's not a hookup.

Curmudgeon · Answer

For you as a woman, I would pick Bumble instead. NOTE: With Bumble, YOU have to make the first move, so that is up to you, but you won't get bombarded with attention so much.

AndrewSett · Answer

Your reasoning for wanting a relationship is pretty kid like and immature. Sounds like you need a couple close trustworthy friends, really and not so much of a relationship. Try friend meeting sites/apps like "Meet me". Maybe you'll run into someone, be friends a bit and it progress but seeking never works.

Crashnoveride · Answer

Tinder is only for hooking up.
Everyone knows it.
Pof would be good for trying to find a relationship but also used a lot for hookup.
There are many ways to meet people but you have to put yourself out there a bit.

WalterRadio · Answer

First of all, no because you are under 18. Second of all, no because Tinder is primarily for hookups. Wait until you are 18, then try eharmony.

spartan55 · Answer

Okay, you are 17... so presumably you are in school so there should be plenty of opportunity to meet new guys.

Pamina · Answer

Whether it's a good idea for you or not entirely depends on how you go about it and what your expectations are.

ScaryCool · Answer

Don't do tinder. It's not for relationships. Hell, it barely works for getting a regular date lol

InformMe87 · Answer

If you want to be in a relationship where the other doesn’t see you a piece of meat, don’t use tinder.

michael78018 · Answer

Just do realize that it's not all guys that are like that some of us really are just looking for love tinder is fun try it out there kiddo :)

xristinar28 · Answer

Go for it  Just be careful with who you trust  There are some very creepy guys on tinder

Travis247 · Answer

Yer likely Gona get the same on any of these other dayeing sites as well. I know I haven't gotten a legitamat date yet from the dating apps but I keep trying

Ronlbaam · Answer

Its good for pretty women. If you're pretty you'll hook up a lot. If you want a serious relationship, use a serious site like match. com. even if you're not that attractive, you'll still get more matches than any guy on tinder so yeah.

Steve37 · Answer

Tinder is only a good idea if you don't mind filtering through the 95% of guys who are on there only to get in your pants.

nick7696 · Answer

It's a waste and there is no nothing wrong with bieng introvert coz in outside world there aren't lots of people whom u can trust and depend on. take your time everything will come around

Anonymous · Answer

Tinder is a hookup ap, and hooking up is what guys (and girls) on Tinder expect. It sounds to me like a hookup is not what you're looking for, so Tinder would be a bad idea for you.

colonthree · Answer

If you just want to have sex then sure  By the way im pretty sure tinder is 18+

your_ego · Answer

Work on starting real world conversations. Tinder is a short term solution.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I think most guys are looking for something serious. But the guys that most guys swipe right on are not.

SJahan · Answer

Well if you are really lovely and need some one than you start by making friend first than to a relationship. This way you get to know the person before coming into relationship.

Vashawn230 · Answer

A lot of guys are that way. I'm not very sure on how to weed them out. But I'm on tinder an I want something real so I'm sure there are other guys like me out there.

dhruvzz · Answer

You can use tinder if you're really looking for hookups and not serious relationship.

rahul_24 · Answer

Tinder isn't kind of app where you would find relationships, kind off hook up type

Nicky_Sinz · Answer

yea try it. I'm on it and have nothing bad you say about it hope I see you and match!! 😁 leave it to fate

deepanshu3110 · Answer

Hey I feel you! I'm going through the same like not exactly but kinda sorta, hit me up if you'd like to talk

HolyPrepuce · Answer

For a relationship? No. Tinder has become more of a hook up app, rather than a dating app

yoozername · Answer

Guys trying to hook up with multiple girls, is not Tinder... it's nature.

EmotionalThinker · Answer

Its okay for a fling But not for a good 😅😅 generally

interstellar · Answer

Yupp, exactly same condition, please do let me know how to work it out, or either we are on our own.

sinfuel · Answer

You never can tell make sure you know what you're getting yourself into

Anonymous · Answer

Try it. There is no loss in trying. If you want you can talk to me too!

NonceySketzer · Answer

You'd be better off here on GaG

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Not for a 17 year old

Awareness · Answer

That's what I heard it is. For hook ups.

JP_Man · Answer

Tinder is all about hookups

Smf1989 · Answer

I am on tinder and haven't had luck yet

Jennifer_2747479 · Answer

Not for an relationship

-ProfiteroooL- · Answer

You don’t need Tınder because I am here 😄

Anonymous · Answer

no, tinder is AWFUL. do not use it

charlespjbrewer · Answer

Try bumble.

Is Tinder a good idea?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is Tinder a good dating app?

Is Tinder a good idea?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is Tinder a good dating app?

We're glad to see you liked this post.