Should I give Tinder another try?

Question

I've been staying away from dating apps for a good while now but suddenly today I got the urge to try Tinder again. Maybe it's just boredom or a need for a confidence boost but I feel like right now I have no chances of meeting new people anywhere. Tinder would at least give me a 0.00001% chance of meeting someone I like when now that chance is next to nothing.

Is it a complete waste of time or do you think I should at least give it another try?

Whisperhead · Accepted Answer

Quite honestly, Tinder has a reputation for a very good reason. Dating with smartphones works for some, but not for the majority, in my experience.
You will be greeted with the occasional message from genuine individuals... and 97% of the time will be overwhelmed with messages from men that want to treat you like an unpaid prostitute. I gather from your answers and replies below that you already know this, and just wanted dissuading.
It never worked for me, so I am slightly biased. Take from it what you will.

On a side note, without meaning to sound like a creep, you are an attractive young lady, and obviously intelligent. You'll have no shortage of suitors, arseholes of not, Tinder or not.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

As long as you are selfish and don't waste time with the idiots then you should be fine. Too many people allow themselves to get caught up in the nonsense that goes on with dating apps then they stop and say online dating sucks. Learn to ignore, block and delete people. You should be fine.

lumos · Accepted Answer

Yeah, why not! I found my boyfriend on tinder and we've been together for almost 2 years soon. Go for it. Just be careful with who you swipe to the right, and always be open and honest with the guys you're talking to. If you're not feeling it, it's perfectly fine to let the other person know so that they can focus on someone else.

witherwing · Accepted Answer

I don't know if it's just that Tinder is a hookup app everywhere else but in Finland, or if it's changed so much since I've last been there, but I always encourage to try it. It might just do the trick. Or at least you get a bunch of guys saying how pretty you are. 😉

Lavinnykins · Accepted Answer

I felt a lot like that after I dated someone I met on Tinder... so I went back on 'for something to do' whilst 'not looking for anything' and within a few weeks, I was talking a cute guy... it's almost 2 years together now and we're planning for the future. Do it!!

Buckzor · Answer

I wouldn't take tinder seriously, I wouldn't take a vast majority of dating apps seriously. For most people it's a bit of fun, maybe some curiosity, and for others it's just about hookups. Yes, there are people legitimately trying to find love, but it's probably quite slim.
There's probably no harm in trying, unless you're the type to go and meet any and every guy who asks you out that you're interested in (that's how people get bad experiences, ie; the bad apple who comes across as nice then uses you).

raspberry0416 · Answer

I held off on using tinder for a long time because I didn't want to deal with creepy dudes. But I started using it and it's not that bad. Just swipe left on people who are looking for hookups and you'll be fine.

pavlove · Answer

Since you're a girl, I'd say the opposite of typical advice applies to you. Actually take it somewhat seriously. Consider the possibility that there are great guys on Tinder that girls aren't talking to because they think meeting someone through an app is a joke that could never blossom into something real. Of course, do your homework on the guy, but generally I'd say the ecosystem is a lot of great guys not being taken seriously by great girls and settling for emotionally and/or physically below average girls who often times are only looking for attention and/or a confidence boost.

Levin · Answer

Why do you have no chance?

I'd use it. I just wouldn't have high expectations, and I'd still try and go out every weekend.

You have to keep the faith somehow. That's the art of life. Otherwise one falls into depression, if one feels something is hopeless :)

Dim1213 · Answer

My advice is to not try it. I tried dating apps and the figure you gave is generous for meeting someone you like. The best one I tried was ok cupid. Even then it was awful. The only thing it will do is give you a slight but empty confidence boost.
Maybe you might meet someone on here? My friend did.
Its probably just an urge let it pass. Try using it to be a bit more social. That is what I did last time. It helped but I did not find any one to date but I have more female friends now.

JFilmore · Answer

Don't do it.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl, dont do it! You'll never find a decent man there but if you want a playboy or bad boy, go for it!

I've tried using this app twice. I am a good girl, never had a boyfriend, never made out.

I wanted to meet someone special but both times i fell upon the worst, most manipulative men that would just tell me what i wanted to hear to sleep with me. I am glad I learned my lesson and that never happened! I was played worse than a guitar. One of them blocked me from everything when I confronted him. iT was the worst mistake ever. I am sure there might be good men on the site but the chance of meeting them there is rare! So goodluck, i don't want the same thing to happen to you

1derfulguy · Answer

I have a tendency to spend too much time and energy on dating apps, and it usually feels like empty carbs, if you know what I mean. So what I do these days is try to not take it too seriously. Just see it as entertainment.

Because the fact of the matter is that dating apps - just like G@G - are designed to make you spend as much time on them as possible, not to help you find the ONE. Because then they would lose you as a customer. So just be mindful of that.

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

try it if you are looking for sex with just any freak and full of dirty germs like a dirty rat l never thought that you looked like the kind of girl that would be willing to go with any kind of freak as that is all you will find on tinder but as you have been on tinder before picking up guys for sex go ahead and do it again you must have no respect for your body and soul so sad you are l would never want a girl like you that puts her self about to get all the freak guys

sawno · Answer

Personally i'd opt for trying something different such as Once, its an app that looks interesting for when i am going to date as that one matches manually every day so you get higher quality matches based on you.

lordhossein · Answer

i think its not a good option because as you mentioned you don't have much time and it takes time on those kind of app. but at the same time trying it once more won't bring you any harm, so maybe just try it. at the end you have found who you love or you are like now , no loss.

Wolframium · Answer

Yes, it's boredom. And false idea about how it'll turn out. Don't, it's pointless.
And I don't say that because I don't like dating sites, it's more about it not being what you probably want it to be.
But you're a girl, that is huge advantage.

J4Zzi3 · Answer

hard to find date when you work all the time.
the circle you have is just work friends, college and high school friends.
it's ok to broaden you horizon a bit.
just be careful ok. lots of liars out there.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Dating apps never work out for me. Just bunch scammers on them sites. Weed out the good things from the bad on them dating apps and take things from there.

Lucifer_666 · Answer

Although I met my girlfriend on a dating app, I still don't recommend using them. A lot of people who use them use them for hookups. So if you're not into that then don't use it

JayYushie · Answer

Staying open to opportunities is always helpful.
Set up a profile, and use 1hour+ searching for people.
While waiting for replies, educate yourself on how to make friends (and potential lovers) in real life situations.

lala_ray · Answer

I don't know... but from an guy's perspective most use it for one night stands... may be use something like okcupid of POF... if you are into long term thing else tinder rocks.

quirf · Answer

You meet all of us here... For dating I always recommend activities that you enjoy. There's an old Polish Proverb " A wise person does not warm themselves to the picture of a fire"

SkittleMayn · Answer

Yeah, I don't see why not. ~ Funny gifs by the way

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Sure have at it. If it doesn't work, I'll take you out! 😉😂 (I'm kidding, obviously... we're in different hemispheres...)

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