This is a very good quetion. One of the better ones which I have never came across but a good one to point out.
In a realistic sense,... that can happen but very, very little does that happen. Most of the women which I have met & have shown interests in,.. they have rejected me & no I'm not friends with them. Hence on social media, we have the block list.
To other women which I have had that same experience with them, I suppose you can say we still remained connected, but very little of the time do I see them & say hi. It does help not to see them that much. If I see them, I'll quickly just say "Hi", be short with them & just keep going.
Overall, with most women,...9 times out of 10,... well 10 out of 10 for me anyways, no I won't stay friends with them.
Besides why stay friends with them? All it is they just want to remain friends with you considering they only see you as a friend & that's it. You are not their type. Then some other guy comes into the picture, they hit it off, they date for awhile, then it gets very serious to the point of which they move in together, they get married & possibly have kids, & you just witness all of this... and you still remain friends with her all because that's how she wants it between you both while she's with this other guy & that's it?
Nope, forget it. Walk out of the friendzone. She can't do anything after you left.
All the time. A simple rule for "being friendzoned":
Is there something intellectually, socially, financially (if you two do business, for example) interesting about her without any sexual interest on her part?
No, that's just extremely awkward cause they you like them more than just a friend and they don't feel the same. I feel like people who stay friends are secretly hoping for another opportunity and when be extremely disappointed when it doesn't happen. I feel like the friendship will fade eventually when that person gets a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Yeah, because if we were friends before I'd still value the friendship and wouldn't think of him as "useless" to me otherwise. We wouldn't be as close, but I wouldn't cold turkey him, unless he did it in a particularly disrespectful way.
Yeah, they got awkward on me every time though. It was like they expected me to continue to pine after them, but I just instantly moved on and I guess that chaffed their ballsacks?
I worked with this girl for 4 years who rejected me. Like... I asked for her number, she said no. I asked her to come see my band a few months later - No again. Also, after I flirted with her for at least a year, she came in more than once talking about her having a new boyfriend. At least twice in the time I known her. I was also talking to her outside, as she was waiting for a lift. Little did I know it was her boyfriend - That I didn't know about at the time! ... So what did I do? I kept my cool, I was a good friend, and also carried on being flirty. I wasn't the shoulder to cry on, either.
She eventually split up with both BF's. She left work a few weeks ago, and the days or weeks leading up, she was throwing hints at me, saying "Aww, this will be the last time we'll see each other. I'll miss you.
On her last day, I finished earlier than her, and I had a feeling she was expecting me to ask her out, or ask for her number again. I just said "Ok, bye" and walked out, after she said this will be the last time I'll see you lol.
I never forgot what she did to me ;) got her wanting me, and I rejected her. Everyone reading this, take this as a lesson.
You’re a fucking idiot dude. You have no emotional intelligence. She’s clever you’re stupid. she did this not because she is Interested but because she LIKES THE ATTENTION, if she jus left you will forget her but by doing this she knows whatever she does she is in your head. She didn’t fully win because you said ok bye but you know think she had a crush on you.
There’s a reason why you are single. You’re still stupid. You do not understand girls.
No. You fail to understand. I gave her attention on purpose, to get her to fancy me. Then when she liked me, like I used to, I never gave her the satisfaction. I openly flirted with other girls in front of her to make her jealous, as well.
It's sad that you're still replying to this after a day. I forgot about this post, and I've just seen this notification from you. I won't be replying anymore.
It was worse. I kept getting strong enough to ignore my desire for him, then kept falling for him again and again because he was just so smart and sweet to me. This went on for 3 years. Like clearly, friendship wasn't working for me like it was for him. So 6 months ago, I told him I can't talk to him anymore. He didn't want that but said if it was what I needed he would respect that and not bother me. I haven't spoken to him in those 6 months. It's hard but I'll move on eventually.
In a different situation, the guy was mean and rude to me every few weeks so it was very easy to get over him and his rejection because I knew I deserved better. He acted like he was too good for me but he wasn't. I was too good for him. We stayed friends but I noticed how toxic I was becoming, just like him. So I disappeared. Didn't talk to him for 7 years. Tried to improve my life and outlook. He recently reached out to me again for help and I tried to be his friend again. But he hasn't changed. Still mean and rude. So I'm done.
Nah, it's impossible to stay friends with a girl who friend-zoned you and then distances herself even more from the guy. I remember I really liked this girl, our story went like this... we met online, we chatted a lot, I liked her, she liked me but I was too nervous to meet her or do things alone on that level, eventually she moved on and was with another guy, I got jealous, tensions and arguments happened.
I understand waiting was my fault, but I found out shit about her that I was appalled by and I guess it was a blessing in disguise, but for some reason when your young and naive you still think ahh whatever maybe they've changed, a few years later I contacted her. We went back to being friends but something was off, I still liked her, she didn't like me and openly said it, she put me down, was rude and etc. Like I said, I can admit to my faults, but overall she was a b... itch and the guys she dated and her decision making was stupid in my opinion. We're not friends anymore, I don't care about her, she could move to on the other side of the world and it won't bother me 1 bit.
I learned something from that experience, 1) Stay away from drama queens, rude girls, and girls with low self-esteem because they will often attack a guy to make themselves feel better, 2) You can't remain friends with a girl you had feelings for, it's super awkward.
I really wonder how many of these guys have made it this far in life thinking that a relationship is: approach, ask, exclusive? (y/n), Y proceed to boyfriend/girlfriend etc. N proceed to options a through c. A be friends because you see her around and no point causing bs for no reason. B try and make her jealous by getting with every other female in sight. C ignore her as if she ceased to exist... I wonder if these people realize that if you can't even be friends with a woman then obviously that is why she rejected you. friends then "lovers" than married couple if that is your thing. have to be able to be friends first. 100% *facepalm*
For 3 months yes because he said he cared about me and it was just because he couldn’t handle a relationship that we weren’t ‘together’ so he asked me to stick around and wait. But during those 3 months he really messed with my head because he didn’t do anything that you’d expect someone who cared about you to do. I always had to text him. He never asked about my day, never suggested meeting up. It was all texting and nothing more. All I wanted was him to get to know me and vice Versa, be friends and build on it. But he wouldn’t even tell me he was buying a house, I had to find out from someone else!! He didn’t share anything with me. So in the end I walked away and he didn’t come after me so I guess I made the right choice.
Once when I was 16. Only for a month. I tired of it quickly and I said, "Kathy, I can't do this. Either we're boyfriend and girlfriend or nothing. Let me know right now" She said ok, we dated for six months and it fizzed out. I never let any girl friend zone me after that. The friend zone is a consolation prize and an insult. Whenever I got rejected after that, which by the way didn't happen much, I say "Your loss toots". Walk away, head held high and I never acknowledged their presence or spoke to them again. I'm fucking above that.
Nope! Lol. I'm a pretty straight forward guy, and I hate when women ghost me or don't tell me their feelings. So... if they don't reply to a few texts messages after a date, I will usually say:
"Listen, please don't ghost me. I find that to be rude. If you don't want to see me again, I totally get it. Just be straight up with me."
When I tell a girl that, they will usually then confess that they didn't see me in a romantic light, but that I am a great guy and they would love to be friends with me. In my experience, women who say this usually lie about that, too. Lol.
I've tried to stay in contact with women who want to be "friends", but they don't put in the effort or try to make the "friendship" thing happen, so I just stop talking to them all together.
People need to learn to be straightforward and stop talking in circles and riddles. If you really don't want to see someone or be friends with someone after a rejection, just say so.
I've also rejected women and tried to be their friend after the rejection, but they just ghost me if I keep talking to them or try to set up a hang out session. Lol.
No, I was rejected in early 2014 and immediately ended a friendship that started as a freshman in college. I didn't even want to ask her/make a move which made the whole situation way worse. Her roommate noticed I wasn't as brash/extroverted, and asked if had feelings since I was so much more soft spoken when she was around. When I admitted I did I quickly made it clear I didn't want anyone else to know or the girl I had a crush on to be told. Of course the secret wasn't kept, the whole situation was just too weird to stay in.
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I think people, who are insecure, pessimistic, self-defeating, self-loathing, etc are prone to both getting “friend-zoned” by girls and “rejected” because girls, often, relate to them, have a cautious or cynical view, regardless of being a hot girl who has many guys attention and shy, just likes hanging with guys rather than girls drama, or a variety of reasons, why they like to pair up with a guy who actually talks to them and friends, but then that guy, wants more and she likes being wanted, but she isn’t turned on by him, for that attitude he has. This may seem off topic but “rejection” maybe I’m naive, but I’ve never really felt rejected by a girl who I’ve had a bond & chemistry with, even if we remained friends, I think if it got to the point, of a girl, really feeling there is a strict “no” - I wouldn’t of even gotten to the point, there was a communication issue between us, shouldn’t of gotten that far
I have this friend who asked me out a few years ago, but I said I didn't like him like that. We're still friends, and I also have a boyfriend now. The thing is I think my guy friend doesn't respect my relationship with my bed, doesn't take it seriously.. So it might not be possible for someone to be friends with someone they liked.. The problem is that he's very hard headed... But I find it sad that he's wasting his time trying to spend it with me, instead of looking for someone new to love. We're only young once, so why waste time on someone who cannot love you back the same way... I wouldn't waste my time that way.. So I thought maybe I'll help him out by distancing myself, and I'll tell him why I'm doing it. He needs to find something new. I won't be the reason his youth goes to waste. I like him as friend, so I'll be a good friend to him and give him my best advice. Hopefully he takes it for the best
I thought I could do it but in the end I couldn't. It was too hard having strong feelings for someone and watching them go through girl after girl after girl, complaining about how there are no good women out there anymore, and running to me for comfort every time his short-term relationship ended yet again.
I had the same thing. It was so bad for my mental health. He would tell me all the time how much he loved me, how he couldn’t imagine his life without me, that he would die for me. We talked every day and hung out all the time. But as best friends.
While he was chasing after women he knew it would never work with. My breaking point was the divorced 24 year old with four kids that he dated “for fun” who he is completely disrespectful to.
It’s only been a few days since I said enough. I miss talking to him, but I know it will get easier.
@caps07 I'm not sure if you're responding to me or the other girl. He simply said that he wanted to find a good woman to get married and have a family with. He kept going after the wild, party girl types who he met at the bar and put out on the 1st date though. Once he got bored with them and said they were "too slutty" for him, he moved on to the next girl who'd end up being like the previous girl and so on.
Yeah, a guy rejected me because he went abroad. We kept contact but he mostly tried to sext me instead of being friends with me and eventually blocked me when he got a girlfriend.
So I would definitely not recommend it, but it depends on the situation. If you were friends before, then the friendship could be strong enough to try.
I've never tried. Always been the type of person to be upfront about things. "Friends" as a consolation prize isn't what I'm about. Especially when it is neither real or what I wanted. Maybe if you hit on a longtime friend that would make sense, because of having hope in restoring the friendship. But that's about it
When my ex rejected me I would have been friends (Not necessarily close but civil). But there were circumstances around the breakup. Certain things happened and got said which ended any hope of that. We're not in contact. I don't see that changing. And that dosent bother me
I usually convince myself that if someone says too much or goes too far during the breakup thats the true nature of that person that finally comes out and in that case it's probably better to let it go totally.
TBH I'm still wrestling with whether what happened was what she actually wanted to happen or if things just unravelled out if control. Ultimately it dosent matter. I'm left in a situation where I don't trust her, on subjects that are fundamental to any long term relationship I'm involved in.
No, I haven’t. It’s awkward. I even stopped talking to his sister who was my good friend up until that point. She knew that I was sad and she knew why, and I didn’t want to put her in the middle of our awkwardness. It worked out for the best, really, because it turned out that we don’t have all that much in common.
Actually one of my best friends. We went on a date, she attempted to freestyle rap, I have 0 rap game whatsover so a second date never happened. We did end up becoming play partners for Shibari later but never dated or had sex. We are still close friends and actually might be starting a little business project together shortly.
Yes as a matter of fact, I am still really good friends with an ex that rejected me. His girlfriend hates my guts and wants to murder my current boyfriend but, we (my ex and I) consider ourselves family, which is rare but, pretty cool.
Did you ever tried to figure out why he rejected you? ... why he is still with you if he don't like something in you? It's just sympathy sometime as I think...
@caps07 he has already told me why and I have accepted that, he would never lie to me about something so I believed him. We are not together now, he rejected me and I broke up with him and moved out. No one can force another person to love them and I have accepted that he doesn't love me as a girlfriend but he loves me as a friend and he's friends with my family and my current boyfriend of four years. During the time that I was moving out of his place we did have a lot of discussion about our relationship and where it started to go awry and even though I was really hurt about the rejection, I was also mature enough to respect his feelings and accept that he was not the right guy for me. That was six years ago but, it was the first and only break-up that I had where he and I remained friends.
It’s not hard to do so if you have a common interest to begin with. If you literally swiped on tinder had a few days chat then yeah... I can see why you wouldn’t bother to stay in touch.
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