Can you still be friends with someone who rejected you?

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Also can you be friends with someone you rejected?Why or why not on both questions?

lifes_curve_ball · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I could still be friends in either situation. Something is only awkward if at least one of the parties make it so. Why would you not be friends just due to a rejection? It's a part of life so I see no problems in just continuing the friendship after all it's not as if the friendship is predicated upon us eventually being in a relationship. Why would I destroy a good friendship over that, time will heal all wounds after all. Now if I wasn't friends before the rejection sure I may not chill with the girl or talk to her really because all there was was the attraction and rejection but if there was a friendship I will continue being friends.

As per your updates ending a friendship with someone because they like you to save said friendship is counterproductive isn't it? That's like saying to stop my ankle from getting sprained while playing basketball I'm going to sprain my ankle before I step on the courts lol.

Also nobody's attraction turns off the moment they get rejected, you just gotta let time heal the wound. If it's true love then yeah sure it's rough and perhaps will never truly heal but otherwise you can't possibly tell me you're still attracted to the first person you ever asked out. People change over time and when you know there's no chance then I see it as I can still continue the friendship and let time take care of the wound.

Belgie · Accepted Answer

You could. But why would you?

Catie101 · Accepted Answer

ive had both happen. one guy I never asked out even yet he rejected me. I stopped talking to him for a bit. after a few years he was totally into me. we were still friends and I forgave him for the rejection. we've been dating for over 2 1/2 years. and my close close guy friend asked me out over Christmas holidays one year via text. I said no and when Christmas break was over we pretended like it never happened. to be totally honest, I don't know if he ever got over that. were still sorta friends. right after we were just as close as we were beforre though.

rachiee · Accepted Answer

I have to both situations. Actually one of my best friends and I became friends because we liked each other. I wanted more (a relationship) and he wasn't ready so we stopped being together. Months later we became best friends I'm glad I didn't get into a relationship with him because I now know the REAL him. Its possible to completely disregard what has happened in the past and build a friendship. It takes time, but its possible.

MadameGrimaldi · Accepted Answer

Depends on the people. I could. It would be awkward at first, but I would move on and just maintain are friendship. I would pretend I was never rejected. Also, I wouldn't look at it like "oh my gosh I was just rejected, my life is over" I am not that dramatic. I just wasn't his type.

Swablr · Answer

Coming from personal experience, probably not, especially if you still have strong feelings for that person. I was rejected by a girl who I loved a lot. She was my best friend up until that point. At first it was a little awkward, especially since we had to see each other in school the next morning. To be honest I was ready to cut her off right then and there because things just weren't the same anymore. However, it was really hard to do so since we saw each other everyday and have the same friends. A couple weeks later she sends me a text, something funny she saw online that reminded her of me. Soon enough, we started to text each other every day again. I always had the thought of maybe getting her to like me the second time around. And for a while it seemed like it, however each time I tried asking her to do something together she'd always come up with a lame excuse a day before. This went on for the whole summer, and 3 months later I finally saw her on the first day of school. She seemed extremely happy and excited to see me and gave me the biggest hug. Once school started I tried texting her like always, but she'd give short responses and didn't seem too Interested like she would usually be. A couple weeks in to school, I found out she had a boyfriend from over hearing one of her conversations with a friend. She met him over the summer and I felt betrayed. This is when I realized I'm never going to change her mind, and staying friends with her was just a waste of time. Especially since i still had strong feelings for her. I still see her now and then when all of our friends hang out. It's always awkward when we're around each other now, but I'd much rather have this then still be friends with her and hearing about her boyfriend all the time. I wouldn't be able to handle the pain.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't see what the big deal is... When you talk to a lot of women, you'll learn you can't have them all or even want them all after a little experience. Maybe you go after a girl that has a boyfriend, maybe she's emotionally unready to date again after a bad relationship, maybe she's just not into you... I don't see why people hype up something to such a high level of importance before anything ever happens. The more girls you get with the more this reality dawns on you. There really are a million fish in the sea. There are 3 billion women are on planet earth, is that one that rejected you really the best one? =)

I think the only time you should feel really bad about a "rejection" is if you were in a relationship with someone and you loved them and for whatever reason the relationship crashed. Otherwise don't overreact.

FifthElement · Answer

I guess we could be acquaintances, but we couldn't be FRIENDS. I'd get rid of them and move the hell on, to be quite honest. I really don't have the time to wait around for someone to change their mind.

Cptnjjim · Answer

You can still be friends but it'll be kind of awkward from then on.  I rejected a friend of mine when she told me she loved me, I told her we should stay friends and she's been pretty damn bitter since then. She regularly insults my manhood and makes snide remarks hanging out with our friends...its not fun.

IHateMeganFox · Answer

Yes I would be and I think it's stupid when guys stop talking to a girl they like just because she doesn't want to date him.

afrohombre1 · Answer

I'll be honset man, becuase of my success with women a rejection would be hard on my ego, but yes I can still be friends with her.  I can be friends with someone I rejected, but I would prefer not to be close friends.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think I could either way because it would likely be awkward on some level.

eyre123 · Answer

I think so. My guy friend rejected me. We're still friends. It was really awkward at first, because we see each other all the time.. but I think I let much of that go and we're just friends now.

InMyHeart · Answer

I've tried before. it's pretty much impossible.

Anonymous · Answer

yes of course.

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