Signs of monkey branching?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has picked up some new hobbies that a guy she’s been talking to over text does... they talk daily and she’s talked to him about intimate things like past sexual experiences that went bad... nothing in too much detail. Anything this guy likes she also seems to like.

She wants to hang out with him with her friends at the clubs and drink. He’d be the only male there.

[BlahBlehBluh]

You know perfectly well the answer is yes. I assume she tells you he's just a friend. Very unlikely. You're going to be dumped, if you're lucky. If you're unlucky, she'll bang him several times before dumping you or, worst yet, keep you around while never telling you the truth.

Tell her you know she's trying to replace you or be in two relationships at once, and that you're not having it. Then dump her.. She'll be angry. She'll guilt you. Might even try and get you to take her back, whether or not she tells you the truth. Don't give in. You're virtually guaranteed to regret it.

[Bluedream13]

Quit while you're ahead or suffer. Really it all comes down to what sex is worth to you. I want sex just as much as other people I just won't sell my soul for it, which is all too easy. That bitch gunna rip your heart to shreds my dude get the fk away from her

[BlahBlehBluh]

His replies indicate to me that he wants someone to tell him that everything is going to be fine. I believe he knows what's up, but desperately wants to be wrong.

[AllyKat1218]

Nope nope nope. Make it very clear you disagree with her decision because that’s a recipe for disaster and than later saying..” it was the alcohol it was a mistake I didn’t know what I was doing”. Nope. Women are emotional creatures and she’s been sharing things that are intimate and in my opinion, should only be talked about in your current relationship. So I’d be weary of a situation like that.

[Desconhecida]

Ohh... if the guy is not GAY... thats a red flag

[Asker]

He's not... thats the thing... does she plan on getting "drunk" and doing something? I'm confused as to why this is happening

[BlahBlehBluh]

Accidentally or intentionally drunk or not, she will sleep with him if she wants to, and it's apparent that's what she wants to do, and her friends are probably going to cover her, since like-minded people tend to hang out together. As for why she's doing this. Who know for certain. Could be a personality disorder. Could be her immaturity. But it doesn't matter. You're not going to change her plans.

[BlahBlehBluh]

*cover for her.

[Asker]

@BlahBlehBluh thanks and yeah it sounds like its probably time to cut ties... though there is one thing I forgot to mention. She adds people off of his friend list on Facebook, people I know she hasn't really talked to. Why?

[BlahBlehBluh]

Not sure about that one. My guess is she likes attention.

[Asker]

@BlahBlehBluh I was thinking maybe to get closer to his inner circle but I dont know

[Desconhecida]

@BlahBlehBluh yeah. thats also a possibility...

[OlderAndWiser]

It doesn't sound encouraging for you!

[Asker]

Why? Any idea what may potentially go on?

[OlderAndWiser]

If she is talking to this guy about sexual experiences, she probably wants to have a sexual experience with him.

[Naditz]

I'd be a little concerned if you aren't allowed to go.

[Asker]

im not 21 so i can't

[Asker]

Is it possible she found someone and she's waiting to dump me? what should I be concerned about and why? thanks!!!

[Naditz]

Well if you can't that's a different story.

It's not always a sign but it's definitely something noticeably off if your girlfriend doesn't want you around when she's meeting and getting drunk with new guys

[Asker]

Her friends would be there to look after her though

[Naditz]

I didn't mean it like she'd get drunk and do something stupid. It mostly depends on the girl, I don't know her so I can't say.

I've met some women who just want to go out innocently and others who would use that night as a cover for sex with a guy they like.

[Asker]

Maybe thats what she has planned then, i hope not... some of her messages can be flirty with him