Do YOU think there is a double standard between men and women when it comes to weight vs height? (Page 2)
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There is a double standard but there shouldn't be. I shouldn't feel like I have to date a hobbit & guys shouldn't shouldn't be made to feel bad for not wanting a land whale
I'm 6"1' and I have literally had girls tell me that the reason the started talking to me was "because your tall" and that's cool with me I like short tiny girls that's just how we as humans are built we naturally want men to be tall and fit so they can protect women and we naturally want small tiny girls so we can protect them but I dont date girls that are not at least an average build unless i see them trying to get fit
There's a double standard of perception, but in practical application not so much. No amount of shame or scorn is going to get men to date fatties if they don't want to. Attempting to always backfires. People get more butthurt over men not wanting to date heffers than they do women not wanting to date dwarves, but it makes no difference in how people date. You can't make anyone date anyone they don't want to.
I think it is fine for people to only date someone they are attracted to regardless of their preferences.
I know sometimes one person is attracted to another and the feeling isn't mutual, but I think it would be worse if they agreed to date someone they aren't attracted to because they would always be disappointed with their partner. That would be unfair to their partner and they would always feel bad, instead of feeling good and wanted, which is how people should feel when in a relationship.
That's how "dating" goes. It's different from being in a relationship. A real relationship means both people accept each other.
Dating, on the other hand, has "rules" that most of time are unrealistic and shallow. Dating teaches us how to rule out opportunities. Imagine if friendships were based off the same rules of dating - you have to be within a certain range, height minimum, salary-based, educational-based, etc. We would never have consistent longterm friendships
You worry about height too much. Wheres your more interesting questions
then answer those instead
didn't see anything bt height for the last few days
just today and yesterday lol. i have other questions. you just aren't paying attention
Yes there is a double standard and is very prevelant in the dating scene
Voted last. Although I think the height question is more normal, since it's written in your passport, but not your weight..
even if its normal its still hypocritical to shame one shallow preference over another
That counter question of hers is already considered shaming? Oh dear.. I've shamed so many people without intending to in that case.
But generally speaking yes, everyone can have as many shallow preferences as they want to have.
that isn't shaming no, but plenty of girls do shame guys for having a weight preference. it happens very often actually usually countering it with something like 'that shouldn't matter' or 'its what the inside that should count.'
I still don't see the shaming in those two sentences.. 😅
Shaming for me is when women start making fun of you for having a weight preference "when you look like that yourself".
its implied. its basically saying you can't have that preference because it's shallow. meanwhile she's allowed to have her shallow preferences
How do you feel if they said 'that shouldn't matter as much as personality' or 'its the inside that should count more.' ? Is it still shaming.. or common sense?
context matters if she's saying that just out of the blue i would be cool with that. and sure it sounds like common sense when its just said like that.
but going with in the video if she asks for my height and I ask for her weight but she retorts with those lines then yes i still see that as implied shaming. Her height preferences are more acceptable than my weight preferences.
and for the record the only real physical preferences i have are that she has a good looking face and is not obese. im ok with chubby personally. I'm just arguing principle here.
I haven't watched the video until now.. that was funny lol. Tbh it seems those girls weren't even aware of the double standard until they asked them for the why and forced them to give an explanation that made one more ok than the other. The only girl who said it shouldn't matter didn't say that she preferred taller men by the way.
Frankly, I think the weight question is a little ridiculous in the sense that you won't be able to imagine anything with that number considering most people are really bad at guessing the numbers that match the body. They should have stuck to the letters that they can work with.. which is cup sizes.
I feel bad that you are woman
Asking someone about a measurement of their body whether it’s height or weight is quite rude. By doing this, it seems like going out with someone is contingent on this measurement, which is insulting and shallow. It’s just a date. My opinion is if you match with someone then you are probably somewhat attracted to them and that should be enough to qualify for one date. So just go out with them and if they are too heavy/skinny or too tall/short, that’s fine, you don’t have to go out again. But at least you didn’t directly insult them by making it seem like you didn’t even want to meet them at all because of something they are probably already insecure about. As if they are a waste of your time due to something they have no control over. Women getting upset about weight questions, but expecting men to be okay with the height question is wrong because it basically invalidates other people’s insecurities because they are not your own.
Yes there is a double standard. If asking about height is okay then asking about weight should be okay too. Not saying asking is about them is not okay. Turning down anyone for not standing up to personal preferences is shallow but nothing wrong so if turning down for height is not shamed then turning down for weight should not be shamed either.
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It's usually a touchy subject when the weight & physique of a woman is up for discussion.
it can be touchy for a man with height as well.
Absolutely
I guess I want to know why he’s calling her Bay before this conversation even came up. But yes there is a double standard. But shit like this doesn’t bother me so I never really thought about to before.
Of course, Both sexes can be very shallow when it comes to weight... that being said I've seen way more 300lb gals with a man than I've seen 300lb men with a woman
but with height have you seen more men with shorter women then with taller women?
TBH, I don't notice women's heights unless they extreme cases, But I'm nowhere near as picky as the average female either.
Unfortunately, this double standard will forever remain irrelevant because women can afford to be picky and hypocritical - they will still have men going after them.
There is a double standard but the real question is... is that a bad thing?
yes it is in my opinion. if girls want to have their preferences and not be shamed for it, the same standard should go for men as well.
Well men do have their standards and don’t feel ashamed for it.
yes but we are talking about double standards here not just standards
Nonetheless there is a double standard in the dating scene and I’m positive that everyone is aware of it but I definitely don’t see anything being done to change anything about it.
we can always call girls out on it for trying to shame you for having weight preferences while they have height preferences
While men have height preferences? That is the case and we don’t see a lot of people calling men out for being shallow but instead we see people that are changing themselves to match these standards (women getting breast implants and performing butt exercises). People don’t want to point out the faults of people’s minds because they know they can’t change them so they just conform to them.
i don't have a problem with having any dating preferences really, i just have a problem with the people shaming anyone who has them
You’re right we shouldn’t shame people that have an idea of what they’re looking for. Just goes to show that they have a better clue as to what they want in their life. I hope my opinion helped you out in anyway. 🤗
You're amazing
Are you talking about me?
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she likes you for agreeing with her lol
Regardless of why. Thank you 😊
I’m thin so I don’t care. Judge all the fat women you want and I can judge all short guys.
I agree with you.
I think both these shallow criteria should be equally accepted. Because there's nothing wrong with either of them.
Height is worse because you cannot change it. Weight you can change
inb4 land whales who claim fat is genetic
Yes there is absolutely a double standard... but with that said, there IS a difference between being short and being tiny. There's also a difference between being slightly overweight and being a Fatty Alfredo.