Guys over 30, why are you so averse to dating women your age?

[silvermoon84]

I’ve always been attracted to men my own age as I always felt that I had more in common with them however, ever since I’ve been old enough to date I’ve had my mom, grandmother, aunts and all my friends telling me that I should date older. I’m 34 years old, Christian and a veteran and still single at this age. With that being said, I’m taking everyone’s advice and also dating older men as well as any thirty somethings who may be interested. I’m not bashing the guys my age or the younger women, but I’m genuinely curious about the rationale. I’ve asked my guy friends and the men over 45 who hit on me, all of whom gave me honest answers (some a little too honest lol). Here are a few:

1.) You have an insatiable thirst for life that only a 20 year old could could compare, look better now than you did then and you’ve accomplished a lot. but I want someone who’s just starting her life. I want to be the one to show her what the world has to offer.
2.) you’ve always been mature for your age, and an older gentleman would be more likely to match your level of life experience.
3.) we like younger women because we like to feel more protective of them. Marry an older guy who can protect you.
4.) I want lots of babies and a younger woman can give me that (understandable 🙂)
5.) As pretty as you are, you don’t make the guys your age feel like they still have “it” like the younger ladies do.
6.) you pretend to be chaste but you were also in the navy, which means you’ve been with lots of guys and you’re not who you say you are (not true).
7.) well, you’re single at 34 which means there’s something seriously wrong with you.
8.) Women my age are ugly wrinkled old wenches who let themselves go and have horrible attitudes. You’re still a 10 as far as looks are concerned (from the guys in their late 40’s and 50’s. This is a turn off to me btw).

Okay guys, can you relate to any of these? Again, I’m not judging. Just curious 😊. Ladies, feel free to post your thoughts too.

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+1 y

One more I forgot about:
I relate better to younger girls and find them more attractive (nothing wrong with that at all, I just forgot to include it)

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+1 y

These are some really good answers guys. I like these! Thanks for posting 😊

[ChiTown33]

Age is just a number. having said that it's simple, younger women on the average are less judgmental. In all honesty i'd rather have a relationship with a woman nearer to my own age if it were possible it has a higher likelihood of being successful. But it only works if both parties are working towards that end. Women over 30 usually carry a lot of baggage, multiple kids (sometimes by multiple men), and a lot of failed relationships in their wake and they blame you for all of it.

[silvermoon84]

Aww, not all of us fit that bill, but admittedly a lot do so you’re not entirely wrong. I like this answer. It’s honest but still respectful. Thanks for posting 🙂

[ChiTown33]

Np. I wasn't trying to paint all women with that brush. Which is why i chose the wording i did. Dating as whole gets harder for everyone as they get older because WE ALL have more baggage and we are more relationship weary. We are more apt to draw lines about what will tolerate. When i said younger women are less judgmental one of the things i meant is they're in it for the here and now. while a woman over 30 is typically sizing you up not just for looks and personality, but income and occupation. Women fear that guys are only after there bodies. Guys fear that some women are only after their assets.

[crazydewd]

I'm under 30 (barely), but I think I could offer some insight. Your biological clock is ticking and no guy wants to play hot potato. A younger woman is not just for "protecting". A younger woman offers the opportunity for guys to figure out how to make a better living for children in the future (years in fact).

[silvermoon84]

Yeah that’s true. I would like to have at least one kid, but I could be happy with or without however, if a guy wants lots of kids and wants time to plan for it, it’s best for him to be with a woman who can bring that to the table. Thanks for posting 😊

[crazydewd]

No problem. Only 1 child is a huge change in any man's life. Men don't have a biological clock. We have a financial clock. It's ticking down and down to the point where we are either entrepreneurial or just a some worker.

[silvermoon84]

Oh of course. I don’t believe the financial responsibility should fall solely on the man however. I think a lot of women just see men as being money bags rather than human beings with thoughts and feelings, which is disgraceful, but if a woman wants to have a child she needs to save her money too. There’s no reason why the fiscal responsibility should fall solely on the man. And if the woman constantly has to rely on a man for money (married or not) it’s a red flag

[Logorithim]

I am not so focused on a woman's age, rather on how we get along and if we have fun with each other.

[kbbroiler]

Okay for me. I'm 47. Never married and no kids and I'm in very good shape. For me, I would choose to date someone younger. I would date someone in my 20's as to someone who is my age. As you probably know but maybe you haven't heard the term of sexual marketplace value. Women have the best SMV when they are 18 to 29. Men's SMV starts to rise when they are 30 and up. If a man does not get married and is my age, he's SMV is high according to how his finances are and retirement plan is. Women during their highest SMV years tend to be difficult to deal with as they will date older men and not the guys their age. Plus they get a lot of attention from other men. The turn around is when they hit the wall by 30. The wall is when a woman's looks start to fade. I'm sure you've heard the phrase men age like wine and women like milk. Then you add the fact women might have been married and now divorced looking for men their own age. Guess what? Those men are attracted to younger women. I would date someone my own age but I would not listen to some 400 point checklist. Plus they would pretty much have to have sex with me off the bat. A younger woman would have the 3 strikes and you're out rule. The smart men know women's options start to go down after divorces, having kids and so forth. So I wouldn't listen to a woman's demands who is my age and I'll just say ok. bye. A younger woman I would give her 3 dates and 3 dates max with not spending over $40 per date aka Leykis 101. Older women with checklists and demands really have no options in reality because men will always choose to date someone younger first as opposed dating someone their own age. It's not me hating on women my own age but you have to understand. In my circle, I know certain women would not have dated me in my 20's and now they are interested. Well, I have interested 20 years ago and you think I'm still now? It has to do with my resources now that they are divorced and have kids. That's why I would turn down any woman my age with a list of demands. I get flirted with women younger and as old as me and older so I know I don't have to settle. I'm red pill aware also so I know about female nature which more and more men are learning about every day.

[normalice]

I don't think many guys are "averse" to the idea. But the fact is that girls are most attractive in their early 20's. This is why that is the most common age for casting models and porn actresses. And guys tend to put physical attraction before considering pursuit of the more meaningful aspects of a relationship. I suppose that's just the "hunter" part of a hunter-gatherer instinct - the fattest deer gets hunted, the hungriest fish gets lured, and the cutest girl gets courted. Or something like that. I dunno..

[Bishop-Brennan]

My partner is older than me and still looking fantastic. Dating can be a pain in the ass no matter what your situation, there's guys out there.

[danji101]

If you like someone the age doesn’t matter. Most of my partners have been +/- a couple of years of my age. With the odd exception of an older woman or two

[AynonOMouse]

I agree with number 4. I also tend to have more interests in common with younger girls (not around my age) I've never had much in common with the majority of girls I've met that were around the same age as me.

[Anonymous]

I'm 38.
My preferred datng range is 30 to 45 years old.
My wife was the same age as me and my last girlfriend was 41.
I don't have much in common with women in their 20's.
I'm definitely sexually attracted to women around my age.

[chris_987]

I guess it about less emotional baggage for me I’ve never been in a relationship so I would want a girl to not be hung up on a relationship that didn’t work out all the time. And girls my age have had many relationships.

[demonics]

Its 90% looks, 10% fertility. The rest of those are someone trying to beat around the bush.

[Rolla78]

I'm not worried about what age a woman is, as long as we have a connection.

[oldguyincanada]

I am not on the dating scene, but I'd say youth and beauty never goes out of style.

[Iron_Man]

Women my age don't have kids plus they are more mature and get tired out

[Nachowedgie]

Cuz women at the age of 30 suck

[back2nature]

I like woman my age.