How do you contain your excitement before a first date?

[Logorithim]

[BluesheepOwl]

I honestly feel extremely nervous, shaky like I'm about to have a seizure (not actually) but it feels like I could have one. I literally don't have an appetite so dinner dates are off the table for the first date. And I just don't feel like myself. Depending on the person and if it's a good match I easily forget my nerves and everything happens naturally. Or if it's isn't the right person, by the end of the date I don't dig them at all and i don't look forward to anything, eventually cutting it off. I wonder if nerves like this is normal?

[BluesheepOwl]

Thanks for MHO!

[StingRayxoxo]

Be a nervous wreck. Breathe into a paper bag...

[BoobMan]

Try jilling it! ;-)

[StingRayxoxo]

That helps too!!

[Logorithim]

LOL...

[StingRayxoxo]

... blushing...

[BoobMan]

No need to blush StingRay--you're not alone! ;-)

[StingRayxoxo]

Thank you for MHO.

[MusicMayhem]

Go on lots of dates so you normalise it as part of your life knowing if it doesn't work out there's hundreds of other people you can meet.

[Johnjohnny]

Do you not think the other date is nervous too!

[Logorithim]

They probably are, but you still want to make the best impression possible.

[Johnjohnny]

Thats true my friend! But people act like people and please be your self! Say ye'ar both 18 and stay together for 60 years wouldn't that be long time to be keeping up apperience!

[Cynicaldreamer]

Tell myself it's just an outing, movie, dinner... whatever the case with someone I like, and not to get my expectations up too much until the date has actually happened- and we get through it.

I know, that sounds cynical, but the first date is usually just two people feeling each other out to see if it leads to more or if there's a connection there.

That and you don't want to come off as too eager or act like you never go out on dates (Even though that is really the case with me, no point in letting the guy know that! Lol).

[Freiburger]

Experience and maturity really removed most of the excitement and nerves surrounding first dates I guess.
First dates are just like job interviews - you'll probably get rejected for most jobs you interview for, before you get one. That probably won't be your perfect match, or you'll outgrow it so you'll move (or be moved on) and eventually you'll find a role that suits you to a T. The more you interview for jobs, the more you become accustomed to the fact that only a percentage will come your way, and that being selective in the right way increases that percentage. You worry less and less, because unless the economy goes arse over tits, you know you'll get a job - it's just a matter of time.

The same is true for dating. The more dates you go on, the more relationships you are in, the more you learn about what you want, how to ask for it and how to articulate what you can bring to the table. You develop a "type", you pursue that type and you get good at it. You stop faking confidence, because you are confident.

My learning curve was much steeper for dating than for job hunting, which makes sense because there are usually about as many single women as single men. But if you find yourself either single or jobless or both my advice is the same - stop worrying and just go for it. Like learning to walk, you fall a few times at first but it gets easier pretty quickly.

[genericname85]

i usually meet my dates online cause i'm too much of a wimp to approach women IRL so there it's pretty easy. i just lower my expectations to the point where i actually don't look forward to meeting her (cause she looks worse irl than on the dating site). it happened multiple times that i still got disappointed that way xD

[genericname85]

i mean i get to know them online and what i described happens when we decide to date IRL.

[Logorithim]

I've never tried to contain my excitement. I find it easier to be a disappointed than to contain it!

[genericname85]

it's hard to not be disappointed in my opinion xD cause they somehow all are so good at picking the one angle where you don't see that she's fat.

[Logorithim]

Another reason why it's better to meet them IRL- you avoid all of those hazards unqiue to online dating.

[genericname85]

I just don't know how to do that xD

[Logorithim]

Would you want to, though? Willingness is the most important thing.

[genericname85]

yeah sure xD i do generally have issues with approaching and specially building up contacts though. it's a psychological issue due to my personal past and i do have a hard time working that out.

[Logorithim]

OK, then stick to what you're comfortable with.

[genericname85]

meeting people from dating sites is extremely easy though, cause with those you know they didn't match you causue they thought you're ugly :D in this scenario i can actually be fairly confident.

[Logorithim]

I really dislike online dating. It would be much easier for me to approach a woman IRL.

[genericname85]

yeah it's hard to find quality people either way, i guess.

[Logorithim]

That's true

[Mason2136]

I just pray... that I don’t hear “I’m Chris Hansen” 😂

[Udbhav_Bantwal]

I keep the emotions showing only on the inside. I will be as calm as stagnant water on the outside but on the inside firecrackers are going off everywhere...

[NeglectedChild]

I usually get to know someone before I start dating them so all the nerves are gone by then. If that makes sense.

[BoobMan]

I find that jacking off tends to calm everything down.

[Didi1337]

Gaming mostly, but i dont really mind what other people think about me so its more like "whatever happens, happens"

[Silver158]

go in with no expectations, you might not gel with this person. It happens

[WillyD]

excitement? Is that what we're calling it? hmmmm maybe i react differently to first dates.

[VIVANT]

How do you react?

[WillyD]

@VIVANT I kind of dread it. tHis is probably the wrong reaction. The whole time i'm saying to myself "what are you doing"? To quote Louis CK "everything in your being is telling you to just go home and jerk off". lol

[VIVANT]

Lolol 😁😊

[BluesheepOwl]

I know how you feel. I feel the exact same way

[mervoi]

I’d be sure that I look as gorgeous as I can and put a smile on my face

[Lance1965]

I try not to be excited and just take it as it comes.

[spartan55]

There is usually very little tbh.

[PixiSophie]

I don't , I go crazy and ruin it most likely

[Bluemax]

I don't. It's a blessing to be excited.

[AcidT0y]

I don't really know what excitement feels like xD

[Wowgirl10q]

I dont

[Anonymous]

Jerk off.