What makes you nervous on a first date?

Question

• I know everything is nerve wracking on a first date but what's your most serious concern about it?

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

When he’ll try to kiss me... i hate not knowing when to expect it but also if you tell me when to expect it, then my nerves get the best of me and i’ll try to dodge it 😂 im a confusing girl ik

jgirl99 · Accepted Answer

Will there be that awkward silence?, are we gonna have anything in common or to talk about?

MrOracle · Answer

I stopped getting nervous back in my 20s. And being laid back works in my favor.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think one thing is if the person shows up late or is nervous themselves.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I've never been on a date before, but I think being judged would make me nervous.

For some reason, whenever I think of the stereotypical first date, I get the impression that people are extra petty, nit-pick everything, expecting perfection and will probably refuse a second date for something that suddenly became a 'standard'.

'Oh, my date was great, but they accidently mispronounced a word, therefore no second date', yeah, because that's suddenly mandatory for a partner.

The above is an exaggeration, but I think you get my point.

Dongtai · Answer

Oddly enough I’m never nervous on dates. But I do tend to be nervous during the steps that it take to get a date. So I’ll answer what makes me nervous about approaching women.

The unknowness and unpredictability of people in general. I don’t mind rejection but I do think about “how” a woman might react to me showing interest. If I was confident it would be a simple “no thank you” or “I have a boyfriend” I’d go for it every single time. But you have some women who will project and overblow those types of situations and I always worry that it will be THAT woman I approach whenever I see one I like. Especially if she has that resting jerk face.

But a first date? Nope. I already have a general idea of what type of person she is and I know she’s ok with me simply talking and looking at her.

Anon621 · Answer

I would say I get the date jitters. Its your first time getting to know someone proprely or see someone you have been speaking to online. I'm not really bad at conversations but I just feel the same way that I do before an exam. You feel nervous and somewhat stressed because you know you worked hard and you want to believe in yourself. Its the same idea for dates for me. I know what I bring to the table and I believe in myself even if the other person does not agree or loses interest after. That's really the only thing I have to be "nervous" about but I acknowledge those things can happen

flamiE · Answer

That I might come off as silly lol if I don’t know him well but like him already I just act silly and I’m not even trying, in fact I try to show my bubbly personality but I don’t know I always manage to make a fool of myself somehow 😂😂 good thing most actually found it charming 😂😂😂

Jjpayne · Answer

Do they like me? To do they think I'm attractive? Am I Interesting to them? Do they like talking to me? Why are they looking at me like that, is that a good thing? Why did they do that? Why did they say that? I think everything gets more amplified 😅 and you get more nervous... But as the evening progresses, you can start to see a result

TheorionMage · Answer

As with EVERYONE, 'judgement' and the possibility of 'rejection'...
"What am I seeking? What are THEY seeking? Is there 'chemistry'?"

The more 'mature' you become 'aged' ... the more this becomes
the initial 'interview' for the MOST IMPORTANT 'partnership' opportunity you will EVER have!
'Fidelity' is EARNED EACH & EVERY day... NOT a 'given'.

electromagnetic · Answer

I don’t think I get nervous. I think I just get focused on the actual date. Granted I haven’t been one a first date in years but even now with my partner. There’s this idea in the back of my head that I want it to be perfect. Just like how I played it in my mind.

Lliam · Answer

For me it was always the sexual tension. Before the date, all I could think about was getting her naked, touching her body and having sex. Fantasies would run through my head and I would get really nervous thinking that I might somehow blow it by coming across wrong.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

What's to be nervous over? It's a date.. the interest is there enough on both sides, now you need to talk and get to know each other. Relax and let it play out on it's own. Over-thinking is the #2 cause of bad dates.

(#1 cause is asshole/players)

guesswhoseback · Answer

Having her flake out or stand me up gets my nerves tight. I usually have a back up plan just in case this happens. I do my best to not give a shit.

But when I prepared, rearrange my busy schedule and get excited just to have her be a disrespectful POS it doesn’t sit well. I’ve noticed the risk of having this happen has increased as I’ve gotten older.

HikerDude · Answer

Nothing any more. I've reached a point of self-confidence and satisfaction with myself that I don't worry about the disapproval of my date if things do go wrong. If anything makes me nervous, it's the feeling that I'm about to get catfished when I go to meet a girl I met online for the first time.

jdonhere77 · Answer

I tried to make sure there's been quite a bit of text to feel comfortable but truly a first date is like a job interview you trying you trying you trying to impress the person and at the end they tell you well, I might get back to you.

RawIronhide · Answer

It's just nervous because I don't know if you like me or not. I really just want to know that you're comfortable around me and are interested in me. After that's out of they way, it's pretty fun and exciting.

Egirl28 · Answer

How awkward will i come off. If they are going to notice that I struggle with eye contact. If they think I am pretty enough. Can I hold their attention or will they flirt with the waitress. I have a lot of anxiety on dates.

hannah7 · Answer

Waiting for his reaction to finding out I have kids and seeing if he's ok with that. And then if things go ok on that front, I get nervous about making out, having chemistry etc.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

Nothing. If I am going to date someone I'll check them out with friends and the various social media sites as females tend to spill their guts on them.

Anonymous · Answer

That I lose interest because of some stupid reason and this will annoy me when it's too late. I had a lot of dates that girls initiated, somehow I didn't want them despite I tried to give them a chance. If they wanted sex it was okay for me, if they imagined a future with me, I rejected them politely after this first date.

JakeS00 · Answer

If it was a first date, I guess it would be keep eye contact with each other because to me, that’s everything. If we’re not looking at each other I would get nervous.

Avicenna · Answer

Nothing. I’m usually excited, of course, but in a positive way, because I only go on a first date with a woman I find interesting. I’ve never felt nervousness.

JSmuve · Answer

Not knowing how it'll go and that lack of knowledge causing me to become paralyzed by overthinking things to the point that I end up second guessing myself into screwing things up. I just have a difficult time relaxing

dwiller943 · Answer

I have 2 types of "nervous". I like you a lot nervous  and you make me very uncomfortable nervous.

WesBrewer · Answer

I always don't know what I should be asking, I ask a bunch of things and make conversation, but is it the right conversation, that is what worries me.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Maybe being so nervous it triggers my ibs or haven eaten something that's given me gas and panicking about it coming out.

slatyb · Answer

It's been a while since I dated but after a while dating online first dates didn't make me anxious. I just took a let's go see attitude.

Omar5881 · Answer

I am usually quite around people generally been raised to fear any stranger and automatically put myself on attack mode it got better but it still affects me one of the main reasons i dont have friends or gfs

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

Meeting the person, I often scared that i am to ugly for them.

SanePlantHater · Answer

I’m usually really nervous about what will happen after we finish our coffees. Who will initiate the anal sex? That one’s always killer.

Gosceewual · Answer

Putting her off or not asking the right question n seeming boring Or asking stupid or boring questions I have no idea what to talk about... would be awkward...

rienna888 · Answer

umm realizing that they don't like me, then it makes the date awkward af. Sometimes they don't like my clothes and then act rude to me, so I know.

Mr_longLegz · Answer

That they will chase me for my career without seeing the bigger picture or assuming I can do things I simply cannot or will not do.

scooogy · Answer

That phase right before the date when I think about whether I should already go where we planned to meet, not to mention the thoughts whether I am going to the right place.

Makeushiver · Answer

If she looks like she's angry and is big enough to kick the shit out of me.

REALSTEEL · Answer

if she tried to kiss me i would be so nervous I'd get ❤ burn im a very shy polite gentleman

quiteguy · Answer

I feel for me it what to ask or do. It the unknown. I do not want to mess it up.

Anonymous · Answer

I always get nervous that I will get so nervous that I'll pee a little. then I get nervous about getting nervous and then I pee a little. I have started using rubber bands to keep it inside of me though. Would you go out on a date with me?

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Wow I'm so glad I don't have to worry about being nervous on first dates anymore. If in your 30s you still do, I'd reconsider my life choices.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I haven’t been remotely nervous with women since probably around the age of 11.

Iron_Man · Answer

Keeping her entertained for the six or seven hour date nonstop

OddBeMe · Answer

It’s been awhile, but I remember trying not to act so eager. I think several dates ended poorly thinking erroroneously I was stuck up.

Specules · Answer

My weight, I’m not crazy fat, but worried it’ll be unattractive enough to scare them off. At least I’m working out again though.

gemgem · Answer

That my social anxiety will show through in physical symptoms... which has happened before

Yogibuty777 · Answer

Usually I’m so self conscious that I’ll mess up or say something goofy

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Wondering if this is just a foodie call or a real date.

paraXaraq · Answer

Worrying about the outcome of the date so much that I forget to enjoy myself

krin_m · Answer

Her constantly talking and dwelling on her past relationships and nothing else.

bclbn77006 · Answer

the overall thinking from dress up to everything will make you nervous on a first date.

Anonymous · Answer

Just about everything, which is part of why I don't date anymore.

supercutebutt · Answer

That the gentleman won't have tasty luv nectar.

Blindguyplaying · Answer

Expectations, Expectations, Expectations

loveslongnails · Answer

I can't remember - it's been too long!

Lexi_Lous · Answer

I only worry about me not catching feelings

collie22 · Answer

If I look okay, is the main thing at first

jamesgoldman · Answer

Getting political Anything going wrong

Anonymous · Answer

Lol... umm everything

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Its already when I'm seriously attracted to her

Gedaria · Answer

Nerves. It's the unknown..

Anonymous · Answer

How much I’m crushing on him.

Grubhub · Answer

Lemme see them titties again

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