What makes you nervous on a first date?

[Desconhecida]

• I know everything is nerve wracking on a first date but what's your most serious concern about it?

[DizzyDesii]

When he’ll try to kiss me... i hate not knowing when to expect it but also if you tell me when to expect it, then my nerves get the best of me and i’ll try to dodge it 😂 im a confusing girl ik

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks again :)

[jgirl99]

Will there be that awkward silence?, are we gonna have anything in common or to talk about?

[MrOracle]

I stopped getting nervous back in my 20s. And being laid back works in my favor.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think one thing is if the person shows up late or is nervous themselves.

[TheUniqueOne96]

I've never been on a date before, but I think being judged would make me nervous.

For some reason, whenever I think of the stereotypical first date, I get the impression that people are extra petty, nit-pick everything, expecting perfection and will probably refuse a second date for something that suddenly became a 'standard'.

'Oh, my date was great, but they accidently mispronounced a word, therefore no second date', yeah, because that's suddenly mandatory for a partner.

The above is an exaggeration, but I think you get my point.

[Dongtai]

Oddly enough I’m never nervous on dates. But I do tend to be nervous during the steps that it take to get a date. So I’ll answer what makes me nervous about approaching women.


The unknowness and unpredictability of people in general. I don’t mind rejection but I do think about “how” a woman might react to me showing interest. If I was confident it would be a simple “no thank you” or “I have a boyfriend” I’d go for it every single time. But you have some women who will project and overblow those types of situations and I always worry that it will be THAT woman I approach whenever I see one I like. Especially if she has that resting jerk face.


But a first date? Nope. I already have a general idea of what type of person she is and I know she’s ok with me simply talking and looking at her.

[Anon621]

I would say I get the date jitters. Its your first time getting to know someone proprely or see someone you have been speaking to online. I'm not really bad at conversations but I just feel the same way that I do before an exam. You feel nervous and somewhat stressed because you know you worked hard and you want to believe in yourself. Its the same idea for dates for me. I know what I bring to the table and I believe in myself even if the other person does not agree or loses interest after. That's really the only thing I have to be "nervous" about but I acknowledge those things can happen

[flamiE]

That I might come off as silly lol if I don’t know him well but like him already I just act silly and I’m not even trying, in fact I try to show my bubbly personality but I don’t know I always manage to make a fool of myself somehow 😂😂 good thing most actually found it charming 😂😂😂

[Jjpayne]

Do they like me? To do they think I'm attractive? Am I Interesting to them? Do they like talking to me? Why are they looking at me like that, is that a good thing? Why did they do that? Why did they say that? I think everything gets more amplified 😅 and you get more nervous... But as the evening progresses, you can start to see a result

[TheorionMage]

As with EVERYONE, 'judgement' and the possibility of 'rejection'...
"What am I seeking? What are THEY seeking? Is there 'chemistry'?"

The more 'mature' you become 'aged' ... the more this becomes
the initial 'interview' for the MOST IMPORTANT 'partnership' opportunity you will EVER have!
'Fidelity' is EARNED EACH & EVERY day... NOT a 'given'.

[electromagnetic]

I don’t think I get nervous. I think I just get focused on the actual date. Granted I haven’t been one a first date in years but even now with my partner. There’s this idea in the back of my head that I want it to be perfect. Just like how I played it in my mind.

[Lliam]

For me it was always the sexual tension. Before the date, all I could think about was getting her naked, touching her body and having sex. Fantasies would run through my head and I would get really nervous thinking that I might somehow blow it by coming across wrong.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

What's to be nervous over? It's a date.. the interest is there enough on both sides, now you need to talk and get to know each other. Relax and let it play out on it's own. Over-thinking is the #2 cause of bad dates.

(#1 cause is asshole/players)

[guesswhoseback]

Having her flake out or stand me up gets my nerves tight. I usually have a back up plan just in case this happens. I do my best to not give a shit.

But when I prepared, rearrange my busy schedule and get excited just to have her be a disrespectful POS it doesn’t sit well. I’ve noticed the risk of having this happen has increased as I’ve gotten older.

[HikerDude]

Nothing any more. I've reached a point of self-confidence and satisfaction with myself that I don't worry about the disapproval of my date if things do go wrong. If anything makes me nervous, it's the feeling that I'm about to get catfished when I go to meet a girl I met online for the first time.

[jdonhere77]

I tried to make sure there's been quite a bit of text to feel comfortable but truly a first date is like a job interview you trying you trying you trying to impress the person and at the end they tell you well, I might get back to you.

[RawIronhide]

It's just nervous because I don't know if you like me or not. I really just want to know that you're comfortable around me and are interested in me. After that's out of they way, it's pretty fun and exciting.

[Egirl28]

How awkward will i come off. If they are going to notice that I struggle with eye contact. If they think I am pretty enough. Can I hold their attention or will they flirt with the waitress. I have a lot of anxiety on dates.

[hannah7]

Waiting for his reaction to finding out I have kids and seeing if he's ok with that.

And then if things go ok on that front, I get nervous about making out, having chemistry etc.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Nothing.
If I am going to date someone I'll check them out with friends and the various social media sites as females tend to spill their guts on them.

[Anonymous]

That I lose interest because of some stupid reason and this will annoy me when it's too late. I had a lot of dates that girls initiated, somehow I didn't want them despite I tried to give them a chance. If they wanted sex it was okay for me, if they imagined a future with me, I rejected them politely after this first date.

[JakeS00]

If it was a first date, I guess it would be keep eye contact with each other because to me, that’s everything. If we’re not looking at each other I would get nervous.