Do you get nervous when going on a first date?

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StarsInTheEyes · Accepted Answer

I... Um, what did you just say? 😳

Just kidding! Yes, I do get nervous, but the degree depends on how much I like the guy from our previous conversations and interactions, how much I want to make a "good impression," how well we've known each other, and how he presents himself. (For "like" I mean very simply "like" - not infatuation or head over heels. For example, I like a guy who can have meaningful conversations, not just "what's up" or "what you doing?" and that's it, a guy whom I have a lot of good time talking to. If I don't care too much about a guy (after finding out on first date that I don't like him) then I won't be nervous. If it's a guy that I want a second date with, I will be nervous, but if we've been texting or talking for some time prior to first date, that I feel that we've known each other for a long time, then I'd be less nervous.

Answermyquestions31 · Accepted Answer

Yes. Especially when he has no personality. I just met someone on a dating app. We talked for over a month before meeting. We met up and he had no personality in person which made me feel awkward and I didn’t talk much. Which isn’t normal because I am so funny and talkative. He also threw dirty looks at me. He was literally just mean. I didn’t even know it was possible to be on a bad date until him. I feel bad for his future girlfriend. He is emotional and a mess. I was so nervous at first... then I was just silent and uncomfortable.

aicarg · Accepted Answer

I always had the tendency to know all the men whom I've dated through mutual friends/or from school. With having some background on them, it felt like a regular hangout. My nerves amplifies when I start to experience sexual tension as I'm not one who like to give into it too early on in a relationship.

xXSaturnXx · Accepted Answer

Of course, if you don't get nervous on first dates then you either do it so much that the impact has been lost or you simply aren't interested from the get-go.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Sometimes I might get a bit nervous at the very beginning, but I tend to be an easy-going guy generally and I don't usually put a ton of expectations on a first date - I just try to get to know her and have fun in the process - so usually I'm pretty relaxed.

I will say that a small percentage of women are hard to be relaxed around - they're overly-sensitive and gossipy, etc., and a couple of times i've taken a girl out without knowing her very well and discovered that she was this way. In those cases, there's rarely a second date.

TadCurious · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I still do. And I always tell myself "Hey Tad, this is supposed to be fun. Don't overthink it." LOL

coachTanthony · Answer

If you do your due diligence on the person you should be fine. If you are meeting with really no connection before hand.. yeah you should be scared shitless LOL

Logorithim · Answer

There will be some nervous excitement, if nothing else. Being nervous on a first date is completely normal.

PrincessPie · Answer

Always, if when on the date we click and get on the nerves fade away though.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

The first date - yes. By the 2nd or 3rd date I am no longer nervous.

brendon76 · Answer

Haha... absolutely! I don’t know, but it makes me nervous as I want to make a good impression. As they say you only get once to make that first impression. Plus if I really like her I want it to go well so it will lead to more dates. Usually it all hinges on the first date. Since the guy typically is asking the girl out it all falls on the guy to plan and take care of everything which adds a lot of pressure to the guy and therefore make me extra nervous beyond just meeting her for the first time.

brennanhuff · Answer

A little bit actually not much. Even thought I’m introverted though have a lot of personality, this doesn’t make me nervous. It’s approaching a girl at the bar that makes me anxiety ridden. I think it’s because of interest that makes the difference. Maybe things won’t work out but I know if a girl meeting me for date she’s interested at least in talking to me. Where’s even if a girl shows signs of wanting to be approached, there’s this pressure to impress and carry a conversation right on the spot. With a date you’ve usually talked to a girl a bit too before meeting out for a date too

Fatboy98 · Answer

Hell yeah, it weird to have nothing to talk about. Especially when people are the silent types. In my opinion I wish super powers were real because it would better to go on dates and talk through telepathic and share secrets, pasts, etc with others who has the same ability and feels comfortable having conversations without talking.

Aetotone · Answer

Only if it's you I'm dating. Just kidding.
Yes. Definitely. Enen if it's someone I know, I still feel jittery. Like, what if I can't think of anything to say? What if we just sit there, staring at each other's hands. And then she gets up to use the restroom, and doesn't come back? What if I accidentally wear red and green together? Did I remember to floss?

Zefram · Answer

I've only been on one first date in the past five years. So it was pretty stressful for me. I mean she later told me she was nervous too, but at least she had a history to draw off of. I'm in alien waters no matter what, anytime I'm with the opposite sex.
Led to something good though.

TrixiePooch · Answer

Not if I get to know the guy a bit before that first date. Then it would be no different than a regular conversation because you usually have a good knowledge of what to expect and know things you may have in common so there is no loss of conversation. If I didn't know the guy at all, like let's say a blind date, then I would be very nervous.

Ljd213 · Answer

I often get nervous on the first date because women make me put in a lot of effort to entertain them and they love to make things awkward.

An example as I strike up a conversation after a very long silence between the both of us. I try talking to her about fun things in trying to get to know her more. Yet, she sits there puzzled like she doesn't understand English.

In addition, if I stop talking, she will never talk, and if she does talk she will talk about people and other things, and often wants to start complaints.

MrAdams · Answer

When i went on my very first date i wasn't nervous at all, because we were texting a lot before, so we were already comfortable around eachother. But time pass, with other girl i was nervous a lot, because i didn't know her at all. But still, it all went south in the end.

ImSoSquishy · Answer

it depends, like if i knew the girl for a while like minimum 5 months before asking her out, and prior to the first date we talked and hung out a lot as friends, then i think i won't feel nervous compared to if i only knew the girl for 2 months or less

Knighted2170 · Answer

I don't get nervous on a first date. I'm really laid back and just looking to get to know the girl I'm with. I tend to take them to places where we can talk, and she feels comfortable. I'm not trying to impress her, just show her who I am. When I'm relaxed and laid back, any nervousness she may feel, will disappear as well.

The only time I get nervous is when she turns out bat shit crazy. Then I'm looking for reasons to get out of there as quickly as possible.

Apearl4U · Answer

This question for me was easy and it also says a lot about me. I care about everything, and being nervous shows a sign of interest, excitement and also the way a person expresses themselves in an open honest way.

Lostranza · Answer

I get nervous because Im afraid of it being really awkward but then I just remind myself that I can leave at any time if I want to sooooo that makes it much easier.

bubbatxman · Answer

Just remember that everyone is nervous on a first date and push through it. And it’s worse if you really like them. You’re 23, there still plenty of time...

Sowanaski · Answer

Hell yes I do. The mere though of rejection and the possibility I am not funny enough or good looking enough fills me with some intense anxiety.

chrisbigman · Answer

A little, yes. Not much these days, though. I don't know if being older makes you more relaxed or it's more that I don't give a damn whether it ends up as a good date or not. But I do hope it ends up as a good first date, so that there will be a second.

ALGuez01 · Answer

On my first date i thought about my bidy language but my uncle told me to be myself and have fun. In the end of the day we are only human not perfect. After our second date, we decided to be officially a couplete. Maybe i was lucky but the girl that is with me is amazing.

pervertedjester · Answer

I'm only ever nervous until the "Birthday" singers start singing. ( I fib to the wait staff and tell them it's her birthday.) That way, no matter what happens, we get Cake!

ManFrom1982 · Answer

Of course... But isn't that half the fun? Who wants to go on a first date that you're not excited enough about to be nervous?

vishna · Answer

me on a first date "I know he saw my pictures online, and complimented my appearance but what if he thinks I'm not cute anymore" I kid you not haha.

Massageman · Answer

Or even to call to ask for the date in the first place. Of course, this was way back when our phones were actually WIRED into a wall.

McKellar · Answer

Nope, not at all. I just meet them in person, chat with them & get to know them.

but usually ( yeah, this is the sad, disappointing & pathetic part ) once they meet me in person,... for the most part, they probably end up thinking I'm not what they had in mind ( picky ) & never see me again. I just shake my head & think "Whatever". Some are okay, some are like "Whatever".

acooke-13 · Answer

Yes, if I'm really into that person and I want them to like me

Jesslin412 · Answer

I was shaking!

ComfortablyAnon · Answer

While I'm confident enough, I can be a little wary on the first date. I'm not so worried of someone being dangerous or anything. Just a little cautious of strangers.

Lovi87 · Answer

I've never been on a date. Lads used to be like, "Will you go out with me?" or "Will you be my girlfriend?" and it was a yes, or no. Probably why none of them worked out because I didn't get to know them first like you would on dates.

front2back · Answer

Yes but not as nervous as I used to be. With most women I go on dates with, I know they won't be interested in a 2nd one, so I really have nothing to lose.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Nope, i've had to go on so many first dates that it went very quickly from exiting to routine to mundane to downright disinterest.

ATuairiscean · Answer

No by the time I have reached 49 I have it all under control - Only joking I nearly wet myself.

Joesachild · Answer

I'm an introvert and unless there is an instant connection, I feel kinda awkward

ItsMarie · Answer

I get really nervous because im Not a social person. I’m just really awkward and shy lol

grapefruit11 · Answer

Yes. Even if it's someone I don't yet feel attracted to, I get nervous and self-conscious.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

It's been a long while since my last first date before my boyfriend & I became serious about our relationship. I remember calming down my dates when they were nervous.

apple24 · Answer

I haven’t been on an actually official date. But I imagine I would be.

aaronbw · Answer

I only voted yes because I sort of get nervous a bit hoping she doesn't hate the place I picked for a first date.

JacksonH · Answer

Yeah I get nervous, especially when I wait for her to show up, but I relax more as the date goes on

Burgerboy21 · Answer

Of course. Hell, I'm nervous even talking to anyone I find remotely attractive, regardless of whether or not I have interest.

ryancg · Answer

To some small extent maybe, but I usually get over it rather quickly, especially if we find some common ground. I can pretty easily lose myself in a good conversation.

AnuragArya · Answer

Most people (male or female) feel nervous when they go on their first date because at that time they don't possess that confidence and experience to talk to their dating partner.

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

I would say if you didn't then you are completely fearless!

StarDust_xo · Answer

If I ever go on a date, I know for a fact I would be nervous as hell

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

I get nervous meeting up with anyone for the first time let alone a date

Jay_Ajay · Answer

Because We are not alone when it comes to first date nervous.. In fact, nearly everyone feels some nervousness when going on a first date. Whether your anxiety is mild or massive, at least a few butterflies are bound to appear when you’ll be spending time with someone you don’t really know well... But I'm usually more excited.. hahaha

Kibler · Answer

I guess I was a little nervous but I try to enjoy the date more than let nerves make it uncomfortable

PoliceLivesMatter · Answer

I never get nervous per se, but I struggle to keep a conversation flowing smoothly past a certain point, especially if the woman is not also contributing

genericname85 · Answer

not really. i get nervous before asking someone out but not when we actually are on the date xD i get nervous before the second date though :D

Dark93 · Answer

I've only ever been on 2 dates. I was nervous at first but never as nervous as the girl. Thankfully in my limited experience the girl has quickly become very comfortable with me during the date.

AnnasiaB · Answer

I get nervous because you never know what will happen, whether were are dating or just friends

helva · Answer

Yes, very nervous. Unless I knew him before already long.

TheManOfQuestions · Answer

Always. I don't really know her that well, so I don't know the way I should act around her.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I'm sure I did in my younger years. Now I really don't get nervous on a first date with a woman.

SirRexington · Answer

I'm so nervous it's hard to even approach her to ask for a date to happen in the first place...

kinda-confused · Answer

Yes, but I am mostly always nervous and shy around people I’m not that close to.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Nope. I've had too many to care about the outcome. Especially when I expect not get a second date cause history tells me that happens about 90-95% of the time.

JamesDylan1990 · Answer

Yes. I had butterfly’s when I met my girlfriend I still get excited when her car pulls up

chrissykerdock · Answer

i was going to say just give him a blowjob and you won't be nervous but there are dates where you don't know him at all.

annssi · Answer

No. Maybe when i was new to dating but after a while... You just feel whatever💁💃 not a big deal anymore.

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