Do you get nervous when going on a first date?

Do you get nervous when going on a first date?
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  • Yeah, I still do. And I always tell myself "Hey Tad, this is supposed to be fun. Don't overthink it." LOL

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  • Of course, if you don't get nervous on first dates then you either do it so much that the impact has been lost or you simply aren't interested from the get-go.

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What Guys Said 141

  • If you do your due diligence on the person you should be fine. If you are meeting with really no connection before hand.. yeah you should be scared shitless LOL

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  • Sometimes I might get a bit nervous at the very beginning, but I tend to be an easy-going guy generally and I don't usually put a ton of expectations on a first date - I just try to get to know her and have fun in the process - so usually I'm pretty relaxed.

    I will say that a small percentage of women are hard to be relaxed around - they're overly-sensitive and gossipy, etc., and a couple of times i've taken a girl out without knowing her very well and discovered that she was this way. In those cases, there's rarely a second date.

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  • There will be some nervous excitement, if nothing else. Being nervous on a first date is completely normal.

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  • Only if it's you I'm dating. Just kidding.
    Yes. Definitely. Enen if it's someone I know, I still feel jittery. Like, what if I can't think of anything to say? What if we just sit there, staring at each other's hands. And then she gets up to use the restroom, and doesn't come back? What if I accidentally wear red and green together? Did I remember to floss?

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  • I've only been on one first date in the past five years. So it was pretty stressful for me. I mean she later told me she was nervous too, but at least she had a history to draw off of. I'm in alien waters no matter what, anytime I'm with the opposite sex.
    Led to something good though.

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  • I don't get nervous on a first date. I'm really laid back and just looking to get to know the girl I'm with. I tend to take them to places where we can talk, and she feels comfortable. I'm not trying to impress her, just show her who I am. When I'm relaxed and laid back, any nervousness she may feel, will disappear as well.

    The only time I get nervous is when she turns out bat shit crazy. Then I'm looking for reasons to get out of there as quickly as possible.

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  • Hell yeah, it weird to have nothing to talk about. Especially when people are the silent types. In my opinion I wish super powers were real because it would better to go on dates and talk through telepathic and share secrets, pasts, etc with others who has the same ability and feels comfortable having conversations without talking.

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  • When i went on my very first date i wasn't nervous at all, because we were texting a lot before, so we were already comfortable around eachother. But time pass, with other girl i was nervous a lot, because i didn't know her at all. But still, it all went south in the end.

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  • it depends, like if i knew the girl for a while like minimum 5 months before asking her out, and prior to the first date we talked and hung out a lot as friends, then i think i won't feel nervous compared to if i only knew the girl for 2 months or less

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  • Just remember that everyone is nervous on a first date and push through it. And it’s worse if you really like them. You’re 23, there still plenty of time...

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  • Of course... But isn't that half the fun? Who wants to go on a first date that you're not excited enough about to be nervous?

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  • On my first date i thought about my bidy language but my uncle told me to be myself and have fun. In the end of the day we are only human not perfect. After our second date, we decided to be officially a couplete. Maybe i was lucky but the girl that is with me is amazing.

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  • Hell yes I do. The mere though of rejection and the possibility I am not funny enough or good looking enough fills me with some intense anxiety.

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  • Or even to call to ask for the date in the first place. Of course, this was way back when our phones were actually WIRED into a wall.

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  • Haha... absolutely! I don’t know, but it makes me nervous as I want to make a good impression. As they say you only get once to make that first impression. Plus if I really like her I want it to go well so it will lead to more dates. Usually it all hinges on the first date. Since the guy typically is asking the girl out it all falls on the guy to plan and take care of everything which adds a lot of pressure to the guy and therefore make me extra nervous beyond just meeting her for the first time.

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  • I'm only ever nervous until the "Birthday" singers start singing. ( I fib to the wait staff and tell them it's her birthday.) That way, no matter what happens, we get Cake!

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  • While I'm confident enough, I can be a little wary on the first date. I'm not so worried of someone being dangerous or anything. Just a little cautious of strangers.

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  • Nope, not at all. I just meet them in person, chat with them & get to know them.

    but usually ( yeah, this is the sad, disappointing & pathetic part ) once they meet me in person,... for the most part, they probably end up thinking I'm not what they had in mind ( picky ) & never see me again. I just shake my head & think "Whatever". Some are okay, some are like "Whatever".

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  • A little, yes. Not much these days, though. I don't know if being older makes you more relaxed or it's more that I don't give a damn whether it ends up as a good date or not. But I do hope it ends up as a good first date, so that there will be a second.

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  • Yeah I get nervous, especially when I wait for her to show up, but I relax more as the date goes on

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  • A little bit actually not much. Even thought I’m introverted though have a lot of personality, this doesn’t make me nervous. It’s approaching a girl at the bar that makes me anxiety ridden. I think it’s because of interest that makes the difference. Maybe things won’t work out but I know if a girl meeting me for date she’s interested at least in talking to me. Where’s even if a girl shows signs of wanting to be approached, there’s this pressure to impress and carry a conversation right on the spot. With a date you’ve usually talked to a girl a bit too before meeting out for a date too

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  • To some small extent maybe, but I usually get over it rather quickly, especially if we find some common ground. I can pretty easily lose myself in a good conversation.

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  • Yes but not as nervous as I used to be. With most women I go on dates with, I know they won't be interested in a 2nd one, so I really have nothing to lose.

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  • I only voted yes because I sort of get nervous a bit hoping she doesn't hate the place I picked for a first date.

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  • Most people (male or female) feel nervous when they go on their first date because at that time they don't possess that confidence and experience to talk to their dating partner.

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  • I've only ever been on 2 dates. I was nervous at first but never as nervous as the girl. Thankfully in my limited experience the girl has quickly become very comfortable with me during the date.

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  • Of course. Hell, I'm nervous even talking to anyone I find remotely attractive, regardless of whether or not I have interest.

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  • Because We are not alone when it comes to first date nervous.. In fact, nearly everyone feels some nervousness when going on a first date. Whether your anxiety is mild or massive, at least a few butterflies are bound to appear when you’ll be spending time with someone you don’t really know well... But I'm usually more excited.. hahaha

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  • Don't know what to expect, hope everything goes smoothly but I never know how she will react. I've been on a couple bad first dates that were setups for only her to reject me and be with her boyfriend.

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  • I never get nervous per se, but I struggle to keep a conversation flowing smoothly past a certain point, especially if the woman is not also contributing

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What Girls Said 57

  • The first date - yes. By the 2nd or 3rd date I am no longer nervous.

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  • Always, if when on the date we click and get on the nerves fade away though.

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  • I probably will get XD

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    • I know my boyfriend and nope never

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    • Being nervous on a date simply means you want to make a good impression. Nothing else.

    • And if she's going out with you in the first place, you kinda already scored some points.

  • I always had the tendency to know all the men whom I've dated through mutual friends/or from school. With having some background on them, it felt like a regular hangout. My nerves amplifies when I start to experience sexual tension as I'm not one who like to give into it too early on in a relationship.

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  • Not if I get to know the guy a bit before that first date. Then it would be no different than a regular conversation because you usually have a good knowledge of what to expect and know things you may have in common so there is no loss of conversation. If I didn't know the guy at all, like let's say a blind date, then I would be very nervous.

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  • This question for me was easy and it also says a lot about me. I care about everything, and being nervous shows a sign of interest, excitement and also the way a person expresses themselves in an open honest way.

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  • I get nervous because Im afraid of it being really awkward but then I just remind myself that I can leave at any time if I want to sooooo that makes it much easier.

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  • I'm an introvert and unless there is an instant connection, I feel kinda awkward

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  • Yes. Even if it's someone I don't yet feel attracted to, I get nervous and self-conscious.

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  • I've never been on a date. Lads used to be like, "Will you go out with me?" or "Will you be my girlfriend?" and it was a yes, or no. Probably why none of them worked out because I didn't get to know them first like you would on dates.

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  • It's been a long while since my last first date before my boyfriend & I became serious about our relationship. I remember calming down my dates when they were nervous.

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  • me on a first date "I know he saw my pictures online, and complimented my appearance but what if he thinks I'm not cute anymore" I kid you not haha.

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  • i was going to say just give him a blowjob and you won't be nervous but there are dates where you don't know him at all.

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  • I was shaking!

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  • I... Um, what did you just say? 😳

    Just kidding! Yes, I do get nervous, but the degree depends on how much I like the guy from our previous conversations and interactions, how much I want to make a "good impression," how well we've known each other, and how he presents himself. (For "like" I mean very simply "like" - not infatuation or head over heels. For example, I like a guy who can have meaningful conversations, not just "what's up" or "what you doing?" and that's it, a guy whom I have a lot of good time talking to. If I don't care too much about a guy (after finding out on first date that I don't like him) then I won't be nervous. If it's a guy that I want a second date with, I will be nervous, but if we've been texting or talking for some time prior to first date, that I feel that we've known each other for a long time, then I'd be less nervous.

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  • Yes. Especially when he has no personality. I just met someone on a dating app. We talked for over a month before meeting. We met up and he had no personality in person which made me feel awkward and I didn’t talk much. Which isn’t normal because I am so funny and talkative. He also threw dirty looks at me. He was literally just mean. I didn’t even know it was possible to be on a bad date until him. I feel bad for his future girlfriend. He is emotional and a mess. I was so nervous at first... then I was just silent and uncomfortable.

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  • Yes, if I'm really into that person and I want them to like me

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  • I haven’t been on an actually official date. But I imagine I would be.

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  • If I ever go on a date, I know for a fact I would be nervous as hell

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  • No. Maybe when i was new to dating but after a while... You just feel whatever💁💃 not a big deal anymore.

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  • Nope, not really cause I know it'll probably lead to sex if I so desire, and I'm generally confident in my bedroom skills.

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  • I get nervous because you never know what will happen, whether were are dating or just friends

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  • YES. I get bad social anxiety in general. It’s gotten better with age, but the nerves defnitely come before a first date.

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  • I guess I was a little nervous but I try to enjoy the date more than let nerves make it uncomfortable

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  • So crazy but eye contact makes me so nervous and i usually prefer us to be alone together not out in public for a date

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  • Yes, but I am mostly always nervous and shy around people I’m not that close to.

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  • I get nervous meeting up with anyone for the first time let alone a date

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  • I would say if you didn't then you are completely fearless!

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  • Yes, very nervous.
    Unless I knew him before already long.

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  • If I really like the person, yes; if it's someone I haven't developed feelings for then no.

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