Do you get nervous when going on a first date?

[JanuaryCanine]

Yes

No

[StarsInTheEyes]

I... Um, what did you just say? 😳

Just kidding! Yes, I do get nervous, but the degree depends on how much I like the guy from our previous conversations and interactions, how much I want to make a "good impression," how well we've known each other, and how he presents himself. (For "like" I mean very simply "like" - not infatuation or head over heels. For example, I like a guy who can have meaningful conversations, not just "what's up" or "what you doing?" and that's it, a guy whom I have a lot of good time talking to. If I don't care too much about a guy (after finding out on first date that I don't like him) then I won't be nervous. If it's a guy that I want a second date with, I will be nervous, but if we've been texting or talking for some time prior to first date, that I feel that we've known each other for a long time, then I'd be less nervous.

[Answermyquestions31]

Yes. Especially when he has no personality. I just met someone on a dating app. We talked for over a month before meeting. We met up and he had no personality in person which made me feel awkward and I didn’t talk much. Which isn’t normal because I am so funny and talkative. He also threw dirty looks at me. He was literally just mean. I didn’t even know it was possible to be on a bad date until him. I feel bad for his future girlfriend. He is emotional and a mess. I was so nervous at first... then I was just silent and uncomfortable.

[aicarg]

I always had the tendency to know all the men whom I've dated through mutual friends/or from school. With having some background on them, it felt like a regular hangout. My nerves amplifies when I start to experience sexual tension as I'm not one who like to give into it too early on in a relationship.

[xXSaturnXx]

Of course, if you don't get nervous on first dates then you either do it so much that the impact has been lost or you simply aren't interested from the get-go.

[MrOracle]

Sometimes I might get a bit nervous at the very beginning, but I tend to be an easy-going guy generally and I don't usually put a ton of expectations on a first date - I just try to get to know her and have fun in the process - so usually I'm pretty relaxed.

I will say that a small percentage of women are hard to be relaxed around - they're overly-sensitive and gossipy, etc., and a couple of times i've taken a girl out without knowing her very well and discovered that she was this way. In those cases, there's rarely a second date.

[TadCurious]

Yeah, I still do. And I always tell myself "Hey Tad, this is supposed to be fun. Don't overthink it." LOL

[TadCurious]

Thank you for MH opinion! :)

[coachTanthony]

If you do your due diligence on the person you should be fine. If you are meeting with really no connection before hand.. yeah you should be scared shitless LOL

[bloodmountain1990]

Yep, scared of awkward silences lol

[coachTanthony]

Ha fo sure

[Joesachild]

I met my soon-to-be ex on Plenty of Fish. Never again! I'm attracted to people partly based on how they smell (their own pheromones) and he even smells wrong!

[Logorithim]

There will be some nervous excitement, if nothing else. Being nervous on a first date is completely normal.

[PrincessPie]

Always, if when on the date we click and get on the nerves fade away though.

[jennifer_bloom]

The first date - yes. By the 2nd or 3rd date I am no longer nervous.

[brendon76]

Haha... absolutely! I don’t know, but it makes me nervous as I want to make a good impression. As they say you only get once to make that first impression. Plus if I really like her I want it to go well so it will lead to more dates. Usually it all hinges on the first date. Since the guy typically is asking the girl out it all falls on the guy to plan and take care of everything which adds a lot of pressure to the guy and therefore make me extra nervous beyond just meeting her for the first time.

[brennanhuff]

A little bit actually not much. Even thought I’m introverted though have a lot of personality, this doesn’t make me nervous. It’s approaching a girl at the bar that makes me anxiety ridden. I think it’s because of interest that makes the difference. Maybe things won’t work out but I know if a girl meeting me for date she’s interested at least in talking to me. Where’s even if a girl shows signs of wanting to be approached, there’s this pressure to impress and carry a conversation right on the spot. With a date you’ve usually talked to a girl a bit too before meeting out for a date too

[Aetotone]

Only if it's you I'm dating. Just kidding.
Yes. Definitely. Enen if it's someone I know, I still feel jittery. Like, what if I can't think of anything to say? What if we just sit there, staring at each other's hands. And then she gets up to use the restroom, and doesn't come back? What if I accidentally wear red and green together? Did I remember to floss?

[Zefram]

I've only been on one first date in the past five years. So it was pretty stressful for me. I mean she later told me she was nervous too, but at least she had a history to draw off of. I'm in alien waters no matter what, anytime I'm with the opposite sex.
Led to something good though.

[TrixiePooch]

Not if I get to know the guy a bit before that first date. Then it would be no different than a regular conversation because you usually have a good knowledge of what to expect and know things you may have in common so there is no loss of conversation. If I didn't know the guy at all, like let's say a blind date, then I would be very nervous.

[Fatboy98]

Hell yeah, it weird to have nothing to talk about. Especially when people are the silent types. In my opinion I wish super powers were real because it would better to go on dates and talk through telepathic and share secrets, pasts, etc with others who has the same ability and feels comfortable having conversations without talking.

[Ljd213]

I often get nervous on the first date because women make me put in a lot of effort to entertain them and they love to make things awkward.

An example as I strike up a conversation after a very long silence between the both of us. I try talking to her about fun things in trying to get to know her more. Yet, she sits there puzzled like she doesn't understand English.

In addition, if I stop talking, she will never talk, and if she does talk she will talk about people and other things, and often wants to start complaints.

[MrAdams]

When i went on my very first date i wasn't nervous at all, because we were texting a lot before, so we were already comfortable around eachother. But time pass, with other girl i was nervous a lot, because i didn't know her at all. But still, it all went south in the end.

[ImSoSquishy]

it depends, like if i knew the girl for a while like minimum 5 months before asking her out, and prior to the first date we talked and hung out a lot as friends, then i think i won't feel nervous compared to if i only knew the girl for 2 months or less

[Knighted2170]

I don't get nervous on a first date. I'm really laid back and just looking to get to know the girl I'm with. I tend to take them to places where we can talk, and she feels comfortable. I'm not trying to impress her, just show her who I am. When I'm relaxed and laid back, any nervousness she may feel, will disappear as well.

The only time I get nervous is when she turns out bat shit crazy. Then I'm looking for reasons to get out of there as quickly as possible.

[Apearl4U]

This question for me was easy and it also says a lot about me. I care about everything, and being nervous shows a sign of interest, excitement and also the way a person expresses themselves in an open honest way.

[Lostranza]

I get nervous because Im afraid of it being really awkward but then I just remind myself that I can leave at any time if I want to sooooo that makes it much easier.

[bubbatxman]

Just remember that everyone is nervous on a first date and push through it. And it’s worse if you really like them. You’re 23, there still plenty of time...

[Sowanaski]

Hell yes I do. The mere though of rejection and the possibility I am not funny enough or good looking enough fills me with some intense anxiety.

[chrisbigman]

A little, yes. Not much these days, though. I don't know if being older makes you more relaxed or it's more that I don't give a damn whether it ends up as a good date or not. But I do hope it ends up as a good first date, so that there will be a second.

[ALGuez01]

On my first date i thought about my bidy language but my uncle told me to be myself and have fun. In the end of the day we are only human not perfect. After our second date, we decided to be officially a couplete. Maybe i was lucky but the girl that is with me is amazing.