Do you still get nervous on first dates?

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PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

Omg, yes! I remember my first date with my now fiancé. Just asking him out to lunch was nerve wracking. I think the adrenaline subdued the nervousness asking him.

Then, it was pure excitement when I got home after he had said "yes". That was followed by "oh hell". I actually now have to go meet him. The nerves settled in knowing we would have our first date.

It was a few days to said lunch date, so plenty of time for those nerves to build and build. Thinking back, I can remember going OCD about every little detail. What am I going to wear? Check the weather. Look at menu. Oh, looks like they have daily specials! Check the weather. Confirm he was going to be able to make it. Check the weather. Call for reservations. Check how many hours left. Check the...

Okay, you get it. The day came and that butterflies feeling was with me all morning. I felt like "how will I be able to eat?". Then finally came the moment to leave and go to the restaurant. Wow, I was never so nervous.

He showed up, sat down and said "you look lovely, darling". My anxiety melted immediately. It was like a cool breeze just refreshed and carried all my worries away.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Y'all get asked out? I'm jealous!!
I can't remember the last time anyone even called me cute 😶

Of course I get nervous on the first date! Will he like me? Will the date go well? What if I bore him? Or what if he decides I'm not his type?

There are so many what-ifs and negatives behind the first date, I'm usually more stressed than excited.

the_internet · Accepted Answer

Yeah, not really anymore. I'd have to be really, really into her, which rarely happens, and if it does, something in the back of my mind tells me it's not going to work out anyways. So in any case, why be nervous?
by the way, I'm not 20 as my profile suggests, that was a typo. I used to get quite nervous, but now I notice the women I'm dating are the ones getting nervous, even though I'm not talking a lot. Neither am I doing anything special. They definitely look at me with very different eyes than when I was actually 20. And that feels good.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I think I do just because it's a date if we were just having fun going out doing crazy things I wouldn't be nervous at all but when I have to be a different person that's what I it drives me crazy I don't like being that person I like being myself all the above sounds kind of weird but it's true when you date somebody you've got to put on a different mask
Even though it is the real you you're just not opening free because you're trying to be on your best behavior instead of being yourself even that sounds funny but it's true

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I've had over a hundred first dates and I got over my anxieties many girls ago.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would say I feel shy and uncomfortable but not nervous - I know I’m a valuable person.

PatriceONeal · Answer

I've been on plenty of first dates and first impressions always matter, if she's fine like wine that is. A mix of nervous / anxious is probably what most people feel. Then the few who are completely indifferent and are just there for free sushi or a quick lay.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

YES! Dgmw, I love first dates, but the nervousness, mixed with the excitement… it can either be extremely stressful, or incredibly exciting, depending on the guy, and how well the date goes! When I’ve had a boyfriend, I’ll be honest I haven’t missed dating, but when I’m single… well, you have to kiss a LOT of toads before you find a prince (as my mom used to tell me) but she’d just get upset when I’d say, “oh so you think I should be kissing more boys?” Ohhh bless her! But I won’t miss dating whatsoever after I get married, I’ll tell you that!

Leshen · Answer

Mm kind of, but usually I'm pretty comfortable and confident on dates no matter what. I've talked to so many people in my life that it's pretty easy for me to mesh with most. I only thing I really worry about is being safe with the way I go about the date. In case the person ends up being a serial killer or something.

genericname85 · Answer

no. for me, it's just meeting someone. i mean i don't get nervous, cause i don't expect anything to happen.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Because I always assume it's not going to work out anyways. I guess that's one advantage to having low expectations. 🤣

Sarahslater3738 · Answer

I’m worried about them likmm I’mg my stomach or not

schittywok · Answer

If you aren't nervous you aren't real. One of the best hitters of all times, Ted Williams said he always got nervous, especially when it truly counted. Most difficult thing to do in all sports, hitting a round ball with a round bat where failing 7 times out of 10 means you are damn good.

HawkPerception · Answer

I can't actually remember being nervous on a date. The only time I'm nervous is when I'm asking a girl on a date for some reason. I'm always just myself on the date and if they don't like me then, I'm fine with that.

Fruktig · Answer

It's different from date to date. Sometimes I'll start feeling nervous days before the date. Other times it's like the most natural and comfortable thing in the world.

wa1t1ngFuture · Answer

she my neighbor so I'm not nervous lol😂, I'm from the city and live here village (mygrandparents' village) since corona. where we go on a date is my house, she comes to my house every day because i has wifi...

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how attracted I feel to the person to begin with. If she’s someone who I have pursued for a while and she’s really attractive then it’s going to be tough not to be nervous. But if she’s the semi attractive “cool” type then I’ll be less nervous.

Truth is I noticed that if my date is NOT nervous and acts a bit too confident that’s actually a really bad sign. She’s not worried about turning me off.

Better_off_here · Answer

of course with any woman i am nervous i think mainly on a date you want to make a good impression and that may not come across as the best at all times.

yes i am nervous because i want to make sure i am gonna get a second date.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Yep, it's just those little butterflies that I still get. It's not like crippling fear or anything but just like an excited nervous energy.

Lucy68 · Answer

I haven't dated in a while and yes yes I do. I'm just a really nervous person and can be shy sometimes unfortunately when it comes to meeting new people in person experience face to face

Anonymous · Answer

Never believed in first dates. Going out with people that I don't know is tricky.

IveGotNoName · Answer

I dont think I ever had a "first date" with my boyfriend. We were friends before and hung out a lot and the crossover to becoming more than friends is kind of blurry to me.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Yes, I absolutely do.  Just as I get nervous at job interviews or if I have to meet new people or go to a new place.

red324 · Answer

Nope. I've been on so many dates I don't get nervous anymore unless she's shy and doesn't talk, but that was an issue that doesn't really exist with girls.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

You have a lot of "Hypothetical" questions. LoL

melanieeeB · Answer

Nope not really, but I would like to meet someone who makes me positively nervous lol

slatyb · Answer

I don't because I don't have any expectations. The only thing I can lose is a little bit of time.

sonic_fever · Answer

Depends on how much I already like the person. If I just feel like ehh I won’t get nervous

Twalli · Answer

We're going somewhere we will enjoy already and we are friends, so if there's no romantic connection we are still friends who just hung out and had fun.

XXblack88 · Answer

Never been on a date. If ever do go on a date I definitely would be nervous

Jltakk · Answer

In a fantasy that this is a possibility, I wouldn't get nervous. Meetings like that don't really scare me much. I would actually be excited that I have something to do for once.

Ekvark · Answer

I get nervous walking in to grocery stores

grega239 · Answer

Whats there to be nervous about? You ask, get rejected and go on with your life as if nothing happened

McKellar · Answer

Nope, I just show my true colors as it is, but most of the ladies won't dive into that and quickly move on. Go figure.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Hypothetically, I'm always nervous😫

Anonymous · Answer

yeah yeah because what if she says no? or worse, what if she says... yes? what happens next? too many possibilities to not be worrying about something. 🤪

TexasRed95 · Answer

Pressed this before I noticed that there was an option for never having been on a first date.

jasco · Answer

Never been on a first date before so yea I be very nervous

zagor · Answer

Actually I've started to look at them as an inconvenience on my schedule.

Noodle_fan · Answer

if you are about meet someone for first time think it is normal

Anonymous · Answer

I don't date but if I was going to then I'd get a script from Dr. Ink's office and one of the Glens in my life

Intothevoid666 · Answer

Moreso than most regular activities but not as much as most sexual activities

Slim57 · Answer

Not really anymore now, every single one of my first dates have been second dates too, it's just getting the date that I struggle with

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I get a little nervous if I really like the person.

sam9004646 · Answer

I've never had a girlfriend, there must be excitement for her

Losalt · Answer

Who isn't nervous? Oo

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't think I ever did... lol

Espresso-Grande · Answer

Yes. Even if he was a friend for years 😂

Anonymous · Answer

A little bit of nervousness is natural.

Massageman · Answer

Yes- pathetically so!

lottiebannotie · Answer

Yes the more I like the guy the more I panic

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, very much so

MrShaun · Answer

Only that my wife may find me.

BLP11520 · Answer

I am married, but yup, I did... was

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes if I really like her

3Andronicus · Answer

I've never been on a date, so I wouldn't know.

Anonymous · Answer

It's always those first impressions.

elizamichale1 · Answer

No not really

Luopio27 · Answer

If I like her, yes:

dudeinohio · Answer

Definitely

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yes…

Anonymous · Answer

what a Joke.

Fuentes · Answer

Nope not really

TrillXHippy · Answer

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