Do you get nervous during first dates and if so then why?

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TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

Depends upon your self-perception of what YOU have to offer and the potential of what you see in whom you've asked out. At best, its a mutual 'audition' and in part a negotiation and a discovery.

I possess half a century's life experience as a GENUINE Sorcerer and Teacher. I can demonstrate what I espouse but my Date becomes changed for the rest of their life. FEW can handle that much of their worldview shaken. Its more than just "a walk on the wild side" or "Oh, look at the weird people"~

I've had a companion who was offered the opportunity to have most anything she could have desired; and she declined. Even if she'd chosen it without me. She was chosen by Powers FAR above MY skills levels because she was a 'fulcrum'. If she couldn't / wouldn't elect of her own free will to act ethically she instead chose to be psychically 'neutered' so as to not be a pawn to be exploited. The most they could do was to sexually exploit her but not to siphon her ambient energies.

My present Spouse is a natural Empath and a 2nd Level Complimentary Medicine Energy-working Reiki Mistress. Our interests 'dove-tail' nicely.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

Yes I am. First dates are the worst dates for me which is one of the reasons I´m single. I mess this completely so there is no reason for going on. Either I´m so nervous so that I keep quiet and listen or I´m talking too much rubbish.
I´m generally having a hard time showing the best side of me without completely messing it up because I have high expectations of myself I´m kind of a perfectionist.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

I did with my 1st boyfriend because I had never experienced dating before him and had little clue what to do & expect.

I did with my 2nd boyfriend because I was head-over-heels for him and I didn't want to reveal how I felt for him so early on. (He later became my 4th, 6th & 8th boyfriend. Now, we're very happily married.)

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

Yes because I don't know the person I'm meeting up and if he's a catfish or just not showing up or if he's dangerous. I'm also scared that I have to reject a person. I had to do that quite often and I feel super bad about it. I'm also scared of me liking the guy and getting rejected myself. So yeah many things to be afraid of.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Yes, and because I have anxiety lol.

InYourHead · Answer

There's always a level of anxiety. I've been on a lot of first dates and I still get nervous each time. I think it's natural to want to make a good impression and to want people to like you. At least that's the case for me.

t-8900 · Answer

Not like I used to. I've mastered the art of being a idgaf clown type when I would otherwise feel that way. If the body and the mouth keep moving I'm distracted enough to not overthink. Plus I love making her laugh.

Heartache0405 · Answer

I don’t date but back when I did, yes, I was absolutely nervous. Had no idea what I was doing at the time and hoped she would like me. Now I don’t date and couldn’t give a shit if a woman liked me. I honestly wouldn’t want one to.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

If I’m not nervous on a first date that means I’m not interested in that person enough. I have to be nervous while talking to a guy and if I’m too comfortable it’s probably not going to last.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

Yes, I tend to get nervous around new people rather it’s a date or not, but I’m more nervous on a date because it’s all about figuring out if we are attracted to each other.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

No idea! I don't think i would be nervous. Last time i had a date! It was January of 2009. Sure i took the Mrs out on dates, bit don't count as a "first date".

GaGirls · Answer

No. Why would I be nervous lol, I don't even know them... *gulp* 👀 I mean maybe a little. Sometimes I forget my name. Is that normal?

Tee_12 · Answer

I will feel shy if i am very attracted to the guy and i think it's natural to feel this way for someone you are attracted to

Sarahr123 · Answer

I don’t like public outings and get nervous outside in general. If we’re in private I would not be nervous.

IAmMichael · Answer

Yeah man, anxiety will do that to yoy. Even worse if the date has the same problem--nothing like several minutes of icy silence.

Diodoro · Answer

Nervous isn't the word. Excited yes. They both have energy moving through you in a similar way

Biancam13 · Answer

Yes if I like them or see it going somewhere. No if it’s someone I barely know (blind dates etc)

sheikalana · Answer

Yes, because I don't really know the person yet and don't know if he's going to like me or not.

Better_off_here · Answer

of course, i am nervous it is natural to feel that way. i guess i wonder if they will like me and if they will want a second date with me, basically am i coming off as someone who they want to see again.

chaarvisingh · Answer

Not at all. Even though I've never been on an actual date! But still I am pretty sure that I am not a shy kinda person. I talk a lot! Haha!

red324 · Answer

Not really. I've been on tons of 1st dates. I hardly ever get a second one. lol I'm the pro at 1st dates.

joshctlee · Answer

I don’t get nervous, I go in and and instantly get to know them and ask questions and sometimes tell stories.

boxxie2002 · Answer

The fear of the unknown... if you will connect; what if you do and they don't, or they do and you don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Yea because I go on dates hoping that we click and I dont wanna get in an awkward situation.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@dating101coach I wouldn't get nervous during first dates because I can see first dates ending in failure with my own eyes.

whosnumber1 · Answer

no, not at all. I'm pretty confident in myself and I try not to get high expectations out the gate.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. Because I never expectations past the first date.

helppls · Answer

I've never been on one?

IveGotNoName · Answer

Haven't really had one

es20490446e · Answer

I think getting nervous somehow is a good sing.

Luopio27 · Answer

If I really like her, then yes.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope never have.

noohair · Answer

You can ruin everything on the first date,

hahahmm · Answer

Never did.

melisaaa · Answer

No i dont

Iron_Man · Answer

Of course always

In_Trance · Answer

never

joshigaurav578 · Answer

No Never ;)

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