I'm on the other side of this coin. I can be loving and affectionate in private, but in public, I don't want to be touched by my s. o. and I'm constantly looking around, seeming to ignore her. I used to drive my first wife crazy by always turning my back to her when we were out and about. It wasn't until she saw another veteran doing exactly the same thing that she asked me about it.
"Why do you do that? Why do you ignore me in public? Why do you freak out if i put my arm on you, or take your hand?"
"Love, I'm not ignoring you, I'm protecting you. I'm putting you in my blind spot, because I trust YOU there. I turn away from you to do threat assessment. And when you grab my arm or my hand, you have limited my mobility and effectiveness."
If she appears embarrassed to be seen with you, leave her be. She will be malleable to the pressure of her friends. Believe me, I'm speaking from very recent experience here, you don't want to get to that first date milestone and have the friends wrench it from you.
My boyfriend does it when there are people around us, but people whom I or he know (s). When we're out eating and shopping just the 2 of us, he's fine, but when there are other people that either or both of us know, he won't talk to me or look at me. We went to a party but he barely talked to me after we got there and I introduced him to my friends. When the party ended he was back to normal interaction with me, stroking me in my car.
wow, good question. I always do this, but only with guys that I have a crush on. cause I don't want anyone to assume that we're together, or I like him. it's like... well, I'm not too confident, so maybe the guy doesn't like me and he would feel uncomfortable. or he would distance himself from me. I don't know, we overthink a lot.
When we’re in a group, he seems more confident. But when it’s just the two of us, he’s quite shy and awkward. We’re friends but I don't know y he’s shy when it’s just the two of us
I feel more comfortable around third wheels then I do being alone since being alone implies emotional intimacy and vulnerability which can scare me sometimes
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In my experience, that often happens.
Hi, so I have a crush on this guy that I’m pretty close friends with and have known for a while and lately we’ve had some one on one time (we don’t usually ). I’ve been wanting to have random conversations w/ him cuz well why not but we don’t really have anything to talk about. I’ve also noticed that he acts a bit different when he’s w/ just me. When he’s w/ his friends (2 boys and a girl) he seems completely normal and is having fun talking and laughing w/ them about stupid stuff, but when we’re alone he seems much more quite and a little awkward, I mean we’ve had a couple conversations about like random stuff we remember from when we were younger but other than that nothing really. I feel like he might like me because he mentioned that he “avoids people and gets mad at himself later for not talking to them or interacting w/ them when he’s in a relationship” so maybe he’s doing that to me? I mean we’re not in a relationship just friends but I don't know. please help, I have no idea if he likes me back.
Not sure if my crush likes me, when walking past my house he’ll have his head down but when he saw another woman he shouted to get her attention and waved, he seemed so confident but shy with me?
Yeah, unless she's tipsy or drunk. Then, she doesn't worry about being herself or affectionate with me
He acts a little bit different, but he’s always himself around me and he is always a gentleman :)
Haven’t had this issue with my guy ☺️ we keep the fam and friends involved in a way
My ex used to be very mean and insulting to me around other people.
Ain’t got a crush, I’ve become content being single for now
No, because I don’t have a crush. I have a girlfriend and other people talk about how cute we look together. Is there a Van Halen song that talks about this?
I actually thought it was the opposite. Most girls, specifically the ones I know, can not be alone with their crush to the point of not being able to start a conversation. But with other people, they are more comfortable and outgoing.
Yes she did. Not anymore tho.
Yep. Totally different.
I wouldn't know. I dont have crushes anymore. Lol
not sure... hmmmm
They do I figure
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