Have you ever had a crush on a friend?

Question

Did you tell them? How did they react?

eden94 · Accepted Answer

Yes at a friends house when I was drunk.
It was like a fairytale because he admitted he had strong feelings as well and what followed was me staying the weekend and having 2 days of continuous love making while we released about 3yrs worth of built up sexual frustration and hidden emotions/attraction. Best 2 days of my life.

Brookie1212 · Accepted Answer

Yup, my best friend. Now he’s my boyfriend❤️

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Accepted Answer

Yes, many times. I usually tell them my intentions early on. From there they can decide what they want from me.
If the feelings aren't reciprocated, I know to move on. Which is awesome because then I have a friend!

NervousGuy95 · Accepted Answer

I had and never told her... We slept in bed together but I didn't have courage to make a move

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I have but they were borderline friends - friends I wasn't too close to - one kept his distance cause he got hit on way too often - the other guy kept his distance cause he didn't think we were theologically compatible - the third guy was a player so we were both disinterested in pursuing things - the last guy became my temporary lover for a while - don't know the status of our relationship at this point

Iwant2kno · Answer

Yes I have and yes I’ve told him. His reaction was very mature and he didn’t let that affect our friendship.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Once, but I never told them and eventually it passed.

SA9946 · Answer

Yes of course. But it was complicated. I thought he liked me back but it wasn't romantic and definitely didn't border on what I was feeling. Later on he said that he has been physically attracted to me but he didn't act upon it because he knew they were not genuine. It was palpable to him we would not work as a couple though it was hard for me make peace with. I asked him and he was like I can't hurt and lose you. I want you in my life so let's not bring those emotions into our equation. Even though it was difficult, it was big deal for me because he has a reputation of being a playboy. So for him to say this spoke volumes of his love for me. Now we are really close friends. We haven't done anything physically though.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Well, I wouldn’t call her a friend but a classmate of mine in middle school. Since our last names were similar, alphabetically, we were always together when it came to lockers, sitting in church, standing in line, etc. This girl was pale, like a vampire, with brown, somewhat Auburn-colored hair. I think part of why I had a crush on her was because she was really white and I was tan and deep down in my homo sapien brain, this contrast was great for mating. Anyways, one day I decided to write a note to her and post it inside her locker. I did so, and once she saw it, she laughed and showed everyone. Everyone now knew that I had a crush on her, but I suspected people already knew that. I really did have a crush on this girl for a bit, but then I changed crushes to multiple girls in my grade lol. I only ever wrote a note to that one girl though, no one else.

MedievalDestiny · Answer

I had a crush on my best friend’s sister. I’ve always had a thing for little sisters apparently and it ended very poorly. My friend was upset because she harbored feelings for me. And her sister never gave me the time of day out of loyalty to her sister. Just bad all around

Adi95 · Answer

I had crush on her for few years. She knew that. We were friends for more than 5 years. She rejected me politly. Later I changed my appearance the ahe crushed on me. She imagined kids with me. But suddenly I felt nothing. I lost all interest. She was like sister to me. I rejected her politly. Now we are almost enemies. She do not want to talk with me. She just looks down when I meet her accidentally. She do not want to say hi to me. I really miss her. She miss me too I know. I tried to talk with her but she was mean and rude. Be careful and mature pls

KimKardashiansFeet · Answer

Multiple times, i think the first one laughed nervously and I never got an answer from him although people around me told me multiple times that he liked me back. Second one rejected me and felt bad for it. Third one is my current boyfriend, if I didn't confess to him we would never have gotten together because of how much he fears rejection.

Jjpayne · Answer

I have never told them but many friends that were girls. I just hesitated because I did not want them to feel uncomfortable, I kind of wanted them to reach out before I did to show interest but I probably should have been more aggressive to just ask them out for a coffee

DizzyDesii · Answer

First guy was back in 2002. Told his sis to tell him how i felt in 2006. She totally exaggerated the matter and he's been dodging me ever since. 😂 damn i just wanted closure.

Yea ever since, i usually am not the first to tell a guy i like them. And if i do, its only cause they heard through a friend first. So i usually lie and say “i USED to like you” to protect myself. And then they get all mad curious like “why dont u still like me” 😂

MrCommodore · Answer

Yes, in adult life I've probably had 3 secret crushes, and I never told any of them. I suspect only one of them actually knew (I became better at hiding it), Girl 1 was 5 or 6 years older, I was 21-22, a bit too young for her at the time.

When I say crush, I mean that I was very attracted to them (physically & personality), considered them worthy relationship material.

I think the problem was that I grew to really like these girls to the point where it was then awkward to flirt.

beebella · Answer

Yeah, a lot of my crushes have been on guys I was friends with. I didn't tell any of them, but in fourth grade, one of my girl friends told my crush that I had a crush on him right in front of me. He asked me if it was true and I said yes. Since he never responded after that, I assume he didn't like me back.

Tasmith95 · Answer

It depends on how close you are to them and what they mean to you. I mean if you dont want to lose them or risk the friendship i would just leave it be. But he or she who dares wins is the saying and it could pay off 😂 but real life rarely works like it does in the movies

monkeynutts · Answer

Ambivalence, and sometimes chuffed, but they don't feel the same way, it's strange, there are one night stands and the sex is great, and there are girls who love you till the end of time, then there are the girls you can never get. They ain't gonna take a bar of it.

ConfusednClueless · Answer

Every guy I have dated was my friend first. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Jerre · Answer

Yes, a sister of a fella I knew. I knew her fairly well, then asked her out. We went to dinner, a movie then back to my house. We fucked and 69d the entire night. A great date. Went out with her severalmore times over the next 2 weeks before she returned to college.

21browngirl · Answer

I had a crush on my friends elder brother. apparently he is my first kiss as well

Drowningkingfish · Answer

Yes very much so, but I never told her, I was friends with her from a young age and she disappeared a couple of years ago, I was kind of traumatised at first but have mostly moved on knowing that was the last of her.

sexphobe · Answer

Oof yes its an awkward situation bc i met him on tinder & we fucked and now we’re friends and i may have caught feelings and I don't know where i stand with him now & dont wanna say anything about it aAAAA

linds34 · Answer

Yes, started that way with my boyfriend. And I never told him because I thought I had no chance. Then he ended up telling me he liked me :)

Sevenpointfive · Answer

for the most part girls are level headed when it comes to rejecting guys. if the girl was a cocktease then it didn't go over well.

Grond21 · Answer

My first crush was on a friend, and I told her. She likes me back for a short while, but it came to nothing. Now looking back on it, I'm very glad it did because she did not turn out very well

tom1810 · Answer

This never happened to me, but it happened to my best friend. He was persistant for a year, because she never wanted it. When we graduated, her prom date cancelled on her, and he didn't want anyone except her. After that night they started dating. They are married and have 2 kids now 😊

VIVANT · Answer

No.. lol If there was any potential for that we would never have mad it to friendship.. I’m so uncomfortable around people I’m infested in. It’s seriously debilitating 😅

JoseJr · Answer

Yes, never said nothing and it still kills me till this day.

Melshmallow046 · Answer

Once, I never told him and I'm pretty sure he still doesn't know to this day. After nearly three years I decided it was time to move on and found a really great guy, things worked out perfectly!

Stingray444 · Answer

Yes, she was like "OMG, Really... on ME?"  And then she posted a story on her SnapChat a day later, with her boyfriend...

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I had crush on a friend but never told her , i haven't seen her since 1997 but i see her profiles on Facebook but afraid to friend request cause  this girl was on wild side.

ecfresh · Answer

Yep. Nope didn’t tell them before they told me they had feelings for me. Usually once they told me I realized I had feelings for them also.

SexyAshh · Answer

I have not suprisingly. If i had a crush there would be no secrets lol theyd know as soon as we met

JDavid25 · Answer

Yeah, that has happened once or twice.. And no I never did like most of my crushes, I always did it in secret hopin they liked me back..

tartaarsaus · Answer

Yeah, quite recently actually. It was a short-lived crush, as I just decided it was not worth pursuing, it was clear she had a completely different type 🤷

Bmories99 · Answer

Yes I did I have had it go different ways most of the time the didn't want to lose me as a friend or didn't think of me in that way.

ultimega · Answer

Yes when I was 14 but I chickened out and said i was joking afterwards lol

Wowgirl30q · Answer

My current I didn't have to he figured it out after several days of me studdering, falling, and acting weird as F around him

Elliegirl · Answer

Yes. I decided to keep it to myself. I flirted with him a lot though.

jjj101010 · Answer

I’ve fantasied about female friends but not told them

young_old_soul · Answer

Yes, but I didn't because I didn't want to make things awkward.

ChloeStarfire · Answer

Technically yes, my boyfriend is my best friend and my ex that’s in rehab was a good friend

up_64 · Answer

Yeah. Think I was about 10. She seem to like me to. Well as much as a 10 year old can "like" anyways. But I moved country so there was no reaction

Logorithim · Answer

Never had this happen to me.

walt0462 · Answer

Yes I have and luck would have it she and I begin dating

ZeussLightningBolt · Answer

YES. In real life, NO Online, YES They were surprised

Xoirwinkan · Answer

I would guess this happens to guys a lot more. And yes, to me several times, but not like I felt like I was in love.

Tina84 · Answer

She stop the friendship thinking she catch lesbianism.

Scarecrow13 · Answer

Yes, in fact most of my crushes have been friends. They found out, usually indirectly.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Yes and yes and they could not return any mutual feelings

Grobmate · Answer

Yes. I did not tell them. I knew that it was a crush, and that being with me would have prevented them from achieving their dreams.

JP_Man · Answer

Yes I did. Twice actually and ended up in a short term relationship. I can say they both reacted well

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah never told her, now I'm not interested anymore

cookieman12 · Answer

I did but I never told her and eventually my crush on her went away.

leonmachin91 · Answer

I have, they flipped the shit out but our friendship was strong enough to get through it

MartinMc · Answer

Yes I have and I was friend zoned sooo not well tbh

bluedreamdisipensary · Answer

It's stupid to do that. You need to establish that you think they're hot within the first 5 seconds.

Secret6620 · Answer

Yes I have In high school 🥰❣️

doctorwhofan23 · Answer

I have and I did not tell.

Apple1996 · Answer

I have crushes on all my friends

AnnasiaB · Answer

Yes i have and i honestly hide it very easily.

Amara_ · Answer

I even dated my friend lol

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Can't say that I have.

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