Boyfriend expects me to be perfect?

[Anonymous]

Basically, he expects me to be a perfect woman. Someone who never makes mistakes, and someone who fills all his voids/and needs. I am a human being, sometimes I say the wrong things, or do the wrong things - but, I always apologize and try to make amends to show I care.

Anyways, my boyfriend has this idea of love, and how it should be the answer to everything: pain, loneliness, depression, you name it.

Love has a healing ability, but, it cannot solve all your inner problems. Those have to be solved with self love! And, because he doesn’t realize that, I feel like I cannot be good enough for him. He always finds something to be upset about.

[yucychan]

Then tell him to find his perfect woman in his dreams. Even his mum is not perfect.
There is a certain beauty in imperfection.
I don't think you boyfriend is capable in loving anyone, including himself.

[Asker]

I don’t think so either. He expects me to be this “fantasy” woman that doesn’t exist! Not just in physical appearance, but personality as well!

[Vesta]

If he's expecting things from you, then you're probably in the wrong relationship

You shouldn't EXPECT anything from your SO

[Asker]

I agree. I’m just realizing now that not myself, nor anyone can ever be “good” enough for him

[Vesta]

Since there's no such thing as perfection. If you think that, you're likely insane

[Asker]

Yeah. It hurts. He expects me to like everything he likes, to want as much alone time/quality time as he does, to basically read his mind, to know what he wants/needs, omg, to basically be JUST like him.

It’s frustrating, because he never communicates any of this with me. I had to drag it out of him and piece it all together myself.

Differences are good! We are similar in many ways, and we are different in many others!

[Vesta]

I wouldn't want to date myself... I'm not gay

[Giggletr0n]

And you are with him because?

[Asker]

I am just realizing it now. He expects me to fulfill all his needs/wants. Which is hard because 1) I’m human and cannot meet all someone else’s needs and 2) he doesn’t communicate with me what he wants. He just gets snappy and passive aggressive.

He has hurt my feelings pretty deeply, when the things I’ve tried to do weren’t good enough.

[Giggletr0n]

Sounds like a grade A butthead. You should leave the guy, which I dare best you have heard a lot

[Giggletr0n]

*dare bet