How do I prove to my boyfriend he's perfect and all I need?

[justhisprincesslove]

he's the most wonderful boyfriend ever! I love him so much but he always says he doesn't deserve me and I deserve better...but he's my soul mate and I love him...he says he treats me like a dog and I deserve to be treated right but he really treats me like a princess. he says he treats me like a child and well...he does but I love it. I'm really immature and my parents never loved me so I love being babied by him...he makes me feel so special but I can't make him believe me. he also tries to breakup with me a lot because he thinks I deserve better but I can't live without him and it scares me when he does it...he's all I have...please any ideas on how to prove he's more than I deserve? oh I'm 16 and he's 17 if that helps and we're in a long distance relationship

[Gustafsone12584]

First off, let me be honest. Long distance relationships tend not to work out, unless there are ways to see each other at some point within time, because every relationship needs the physical needs (not sex always). Just being with the person has a lot to do with it. I know for myself, I love it, when I can hold her hand, and actually look into her beautiful eyes, have that connection between both of us. Now with a long distance relationship, you can't do that. Talking to a person online, phone, text has it's good times, but it can also start to get a little boring. I love it, when I can talk to the person, see them smile in person when making them happy, holding them, if they feel sad. There's just a lot of things you can't do, and of course I can go on, and on, but to be honest I don't see a relationship go on to long, because of that aspect. No doubt it can work out if you put forth the energy, and build a strong foundation.

The other issue I can see, is that age has a lot to do with keeping relationships stable. I think your at that age, where you just starting to become an individual but not yet an adult. Plus he's 17? Yeah, most guys even at that age aren't the best by any means, because where not thinking clearly, and plus there's a lot of growing up still. Heck, I'm almost 30, and still don't know everything about relationships, but I do know, if I where 17 years old, dating a 16 year old, being in a long distance relationship, knowing what I know now, I wouldn't get into one, because it's very complex to deal with, there's a lot of emotions I'm still processing.

Now, of course if you can keep this problematical relationship stable enough to work out, the best approach to your question, would be to keep reminding him, that he's your love of life. I know the whole texting thing is big for everyone, but I'd call him more, Skype him, send him letters, send him things that he enjoys, but of course it's got to come back 10 fold. Meaning he needs to treat you to things. Make sure he's calling you, sending you flowers maybe (there's ways to do that). It's about thinking outside the box, spicing things up. If you where older, I'd point out some other things, that might spice things up, but at the moment it's about getting to know each other for awhile, until you can actually meet up in person, because that's what has to happen at some point.

Hope that helps a little...

[Gustafsone12584]

And even all that said, and done, I do feel that your other answer to you question, might be an issue to. Some people that don't want to be in a relationship will keep trying to stop it, even though you try to keep it going...

[madhatters4]

honestly I'd wonder what he's doing to feel this way... I'm not trying to rain on a parade but if he feels like he's treating you poorly and adament that he is there may be something he's doing that you are not aware of, like hooking up with other girls ...

that said if you are 100% that he is being faithful the only thing you can do is reassure him that he is the guy for you and you feel special and lucky to be with him

I just get the feelign when a person is going on and on about not being good enough of treating someone poorly it's because they are... Have you ever asked him why he feels like he doesn't deserve you or exactly what he does that is treating you like a dog?

[NerdGirl]

You are in denial, he is trying to end the relationship, you need to let him.

[Gustafsone12584]

That could be it too, I'm sorry to say.

[dirtyblondeforever]

I have to agree with both of you. He's trying to break up with you because he doesn't like you anymore. You have to let him go, QA

[BCRanger10]

You are only 16. Most kids your age don't understand what love really is at this point. It's not something that can be proven.

You should take a step back. You are getting too deep into this. Your LONG-DISTANCE boyfriend is trying to end this relationship. The more you try to "prove" your love for him (again, you don't understand what it really is), the more you are going to be hurt.

For your own good, you need to step back.

[Dandeus]

You can't prove it to him. Either he'll come around on his own timing or he won't come around at all.

That said, you may want to step back and look at your relationship. At just 16, if you feel like you can't live without him and it's only a long distance relationship, you may be holding onto something that's not there, or holding on for the fear of the alternative (being alone). Ask him why he feels the way he does.

[Anonymous]

Let him end the relationship. It will hurt, but that's life.