I'm Christian and my boyfriend is Hindu. We have a healthy relationship. He respects my beliefs and I respects his, but we never force each other to convert. But my parents are trying to split us up just because of religious differences. I can't say anything about him cuz he is 20 and still building his life and career. They told me to stop all contacts with him a year ago but I still talk to him cuz before the relationship we were best friends. Him and I are in long distance relationship and we can't even meet in person cuz I'm in US and he is in India and our situations. Everything just hurts. Both of us are always stressed because of this and he is trying his best to become successful but everything is getting out of hand. I can't imagine anybody else in his place. He is everything I have ever asked god. I can't hurt my parents and can't put shame on them in front of everyone especially relatives. by the way my dad has high BP so he said if anything happened to him, it will be because of me. I can't hurt my boyfriend either. If we breakup he will never be the same. It would hurt him so bad it might affect his future. Him and I would never be the same. Hey what should I do. Im crying right now and I can't sleep. I have 2 months left..2 months. I feel like I'm gonna die and I really wish something bad would happen to me ( if that will give us any chance to prove our love). We are perfect for each other in everyway and the only thing keeping us like this religious difference.. Please reply an give your views. Help me.
There’s just a few conflicting things that are vital in this situation. You said he’s everything you asked for but did you really want him to not be liked by your family, him to be a completely different religion, and for him to be long distance? I know it sounds dishonest here but I would go along with what your parents want. This isn’t going to settle itself once you get married - you will always be in conflict with your parents if you go ahead and marry him anyway.
Also, since he is long distance, there is the reality that he or you will need to move closer to be with each other and the little things that you never noticed while you were long distance could shock you once you are together.On a side note, you said you are a Christian and he is Hindu but you respect his beliefs. I don’t know if that’s possible - you believe in one risen savior and he is worshipping multiple gods. How do you respect that if you worship only one God?
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Have an adult talk with them, tell them to listen, tell them you're not a thing that has to do everything they say, don't fight or argue with them, Indian parents don't like it, talk in a calm manner, and talk about all your feelings to them straight in the face... parents are human too they don't understand everything and they won't unless you tell them and confront them on the subject properly, if they shout or try to argue tell them to calm down and behave like and adult.
Your father is manipulating you with the high blood pressure thing... He is not going to die. And if he doesn't, it is because he failed to take care of himself, not you. He is putting a lot of weight on you to force you into something he wants. Which is kind of abusive.
You are over 18? You need to set strict boundary lines between you and your parents. Think about it, what is more important: being happy with the one you love, or appeasing them? Your dad is not going to die...
You sound like you come from a controlling family. It is time to forage your own path and push away. If you don't, this will be the pattern of your life and you'll never be happy again.
Don't listen to your parents 💁🏽♀️
Do what makes you happy and stop letting them control YOUR life smh
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No idea but this sounds like a terrifically difficult position to be in. Your parents are arranging a Christian husband for you? Your boyfriend is Hindu? I’m not following
Well my opinion will be a very straightforward one and I have some questions which may help me give you a better opinion, is it okay if you can PM me? I think it would be better if I replied in message rather than here.
If you are fine with that.
So in Us also they are doin ur marriage at an early stage... as an Indian i can understand your problem , in our country love marriages are the worst that people thinks.
Choosing life partner to marriage, indeed it's a big commitment so you must have commonality and contability.
If you reside outside of India than fine, otherwise in current situation will be complicated.
Finally you have to make a mind.
This guy in India who you call your boyfriend, have you ever met him in person and spent time with him in person? Or do you just talk to him on the phone? You live in America, your parents can't make you get married. All you have to do is say "I'm not getting married"
Damn. My close friend have the same situation as yours. But he's 27 and she's 24. They almost broke up.
But here your boyfriend is just 20 and is too young to marry and will be immatured. How old are you? I would suggest you to wait at least until 24 to get married.
You are in the US and you are a legal adult. Arranged marriage is NOT culturally acceptable in the US. Being an adult, you do not have to listen to your parents. So what if it upsets your family. Tough on them.
Now... long distance relationships do not work. It's best if your boyfriend is in the US.Well I don't agree with what your parents are doing. However, I'd really question the "relationship" that you have. The reason being is that it is long distance, and not only that, he is in a different country on a different continent. I'm serious that you really can't get to know the full person like this. He seems perfect for you but that is only because you don't know the full person.
2 months left... what's that mean... then you are offered up in marriage to someone else? And you are in USA?
Have you ever met him in person?
Two months to what? Do your parents have another guy to make you marry with?
First time hearing about a christian indian.
A christian indian? Interesting
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