Is Young Love Worth Fighting For? Was It Worth It?

[ruskiyinlove]

I am eighteen years old. I have been with my boyfriend for five months. We have talked about the future and whether we will stay together next year because most likely I will be going to a different college. We both attend the local community college as of now. I have known him for a year and for five months we have been together. We started off as friends, which is very important to me to build a relationship. He is the sweetest person I've met. He is a gentleman and knows how to treat a woman. Yes, he is a nerd. Glasses, side burns, gamer, you name it! I never thought I would fall for him. But I did, and I love him. In today's society, its difficult to hold on to young love. I know the best thing for me is probably taking a break when I go to college next year and that will truly prove if the love we have is worth it. But in today's society, for anyone who held on and fought for their love, was it worth it in the end? And years later, were you able to hold on to that love and still stay happy with one another? Yes, even love isn't perfect, and we all have our downfalls, but was it worth it? The background story goes like this, when I was younger I felt unlovable and lost, and swore to myself I would commit suicide at the age of seventeen if love didn't save me. But fate had other plans. From 3-8 grade I went to a private school, 9 a different private school, 10 a public, 10 - 11 the private from 3 - 8, and 12 the public again. In 9 grade he attended the prvt school I had from 3 - 8. Ironically, that was the year I left. First half of 10 I attended the public school he was attending as well. Ironically, health issues caused me to go back to the prvt, so we didn't meet. 12 year we both attended the public and had semester long classes together, so we saw each other the whole year. I went through guys trying to find love. All that time, he was there for me, as a friend. Then one day, I finally realized I liked him, love even. And I gave love a chance, with him. Ironically enough, the day I noticed him was the day before my eighteenth birthday, love had saved me just in time. Also, there's a pic of him and I in 7th grade at orientation for the public school (which I didn't end up attending) but he is sitting behind me in class. It was as if fate had planned this all along and it was just a matter of us being together. It was just a matter of me looking up and seeing what I had right in front of me all along. I know the love he and I have is special. I believe everything happens for a reason, and that things aren't just a coincidence. I believe God, or something, put him in my life and saved me and showed me that I am lovable and also showed me how to love. Of course he and I have our ups and downs, that comes with every relationship. But I believe what he and I have is real. I believe love can withstand anything, but I still question, at this age, in today's society, is young love worth fighting for?

[ArtistBboy]

All I have to say on your situation is this: Life and love are two things which bring great joy alongside great pain. If you can push through the pain, to see the joy, then you will prosper. If you give up in the time of struggle, you will never make it through the end.

All those "rough times" are usually beat by simply remembering the positives.. Why you love him, what you'll do when your with him next, etc and so forth.. But if you focus too deeply on the bad - then you guys will never make it without turning the whole relationship into drama.

I did love one girl.. For 4 years I thought everything could change; but the reason it didn't was because I wasn't able to push through the bad and hurtful memories.. After 4 years, I finally broke it off because (exactly what I told her) "I was lieing about loving (her), that I say love but I don't feel it. Ya know, the difference between like, love, and in love - is the same as - for now, for later, and forever"..."

We ended up being friends, but she's still trying to manipulate her way back into my life.. I've grown from it and struggle still, to this day.. Wondering whether or not it could have worked.. We all have struggles, just no one shows them.. That suicide you were talking about - I felt the same way in life.. But you pushed through it and saw the end.. So push now!

Do you want to date this man and try your hardest? Or do you want to give up when the going is rough?

Left or right.. Right or wrong.. None of that matters - the best decision is forward -> WHAT YOUR HEART TRUELY WANTS... If your friends can't stand behind your decisions, then they were only acquaintances and friends along your journey in life. You cannot hold your true desires back, otherwise you wouldn't be living.

Live well,

~ ArtistBBoy

[martyfellow]

Of course it is. But don't undestimate what separation will mean. Both of you will be lonely, probably...so don't think this is the end of the world if it doesn't work out.

In any relatinship, as you say, there are strains and problems. They'll be magnified by distance, that's all.

Good luck and stay looking at the future..

[DaliaHeartsJapan]

I want to praise what you said. That’s exactly how I view young love.
I’m currently 16 and I’m crazy in love with a friend of the same I’ve known for 13 years. Been like this since late-January. I believe he has done many good stuff to me and I definitely wish I could pay him back.
I wish we could be a couple. I love him a lot. He’s very kind, smart, humorous and understanding. His behavior with me is special as he’s like that only with me. I wish I could ask him to be my boyfriend discreetly, without the harassing girls finding out... I think I will...

[Inkweaver2]

I'm 18 as well, and my boyfriend and I have been together three years. College is coming up for us too, and I'm going to attempt to follow him out of our state. If I cannot afford it, long distance will be my only opinion. Obviously I can't really give you any advice, as I am at the same stage as you, but I DO believe young love is worth fighting for. Goodluck.

[tennisgirly]

There'll always be something trying to get in the way of your love life- whether it's school, family, or something entirely different. But what makes you really "in love," is whether or not you have the guts to stand up for you and your SO, and to make it happen and stick with it no matter the circumstances.
To me, yes, young love is worth fighting for. If you're really in love and are willing to put your whole heart and soul into staying together, then it's worth it.
But "young love" can be defined in different ways- so remember that if you don't see yourselves sticking it out to the bitter end with your lover then maybe it isn't worth fighting for in some cases.
But with yours... I'd say it is. That story is amazing, and I'm so glad everything has worked out for you guys!!
It's also worth it in my case- I mean sure you could say it's sappy and some people say it's stupid and unrealistic for someone to be in love at a young age. But people fall in love anyways, and who knows whether or not your high school sweetheart will be your sweetheart forever or not, right?
So I say, yes young love is worth fighting for.
'Cause I think the best way to live live without regrets isn't to play it safe and be careful, but to go for things and live your life to its fullest.

[Littletad]

Of course, love is always worth fighting for. But learning to realize when things just won't work out, is another hard lesson.

[tacotat212]

If you feel that the fight isn't worth it it already mean that you don't like that person so break up if the love is true fighting to the end of your life isn't a problem just an other small obstacles

[Anonymous]

it always worths